Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live. I am happy to see that you decided to stop by to visit with me. Thank you. In life, I am confronted by things that I do not like or appreciate. These matters many times surround people, places and things that are out of my control. In addition to being out of my control, many times I feel powerless over changing the things that I do not like. In my experience, I have found when I surrender to the reality that I am powerless over what I do not like, I am empowered. I am empowered because I realize that I am not helpless.
“If you do not like some thing, change it. If you can not change it, change the way you think about it.” Mary Englebreit
In my experience and through my recovery process, I discovered what has come to be know as the three “A’s”. The first A is for awareness. As I become aware of that which is out of my control and over which I am powerless, I can begin to ask for help. I can begin to examine my motives to see what is frustrating me. By examining my motives, I am able to grow in my awareness. In my experience, I have found that as I grow in awareness I find that I grow in my ability to accept what I can not change. By accepting what I can not change, I am able to shift my focus from what I do not like.
Through growing in the first “A” awareness, I am able to begin to practice the second “A” acceptance.
By shifting my focus away from — what I do not like, is out of my control and what I am powerless over — I am able to take steps to change the way that I think about the person, place or thing. By doing so, I am able to incorporate the third “A” into my experience, as I take action. By taking action, I am able to move from feeling powerless over what I can not change and is out of my control to being empowered by that I can not change and is out of my control. Although I may not like some thing or some one, I no longer need to feel like a victim because of what I do not like.
In my experience, I have found that by incorporating the principle of the 3 “A’s” into my life, I am able to become an actor, instead of a reactor to what occurs in my life. By incorporating the 3 “A’s” into my life, I am able to be empowered by what occurs in my life, instead of feeling defeated because of what occurs in my life. By incorporating the 3 “A’” into my life I am able to remember that I have choices. By incorporating the 3 “A’s” into my life I am able to practice the principle of live and let live. By practicing the 3 “A’s” in my life, I am able to mind my own business.
By practicing the 3 “A’s” in my life, I am able to let go and let God.
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