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Why Me?

September 27, 2012 By Second Chance to Live

Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. I am always happy to have you around my table. Recently I was looking through some magazines looking for topics to write about and I came across the title, “Why Me”. I have been thinking about that title and wanted to share some of my thoughts on the topic. What came to mind is, “Why not Me”. In my experience I have found that when I think in terms of Why Me I revert to the notion that I am a victim of what is, instead of looking at the possibilities in Why not Me.

In my experience, I discovered when I think in terms of Why Not Me I am given a gift. The gift of acceptance. By accepting what is, I am able to move beyond what is not and take advantage of a new set of circumstances. By doing so I move beyond believing that I am now some how limited, to realizing that I have been given the opportunity to grow beyond my perceived limitations. By doing so, I am able to move beyond the notion that my life is some how over. By doing so, I am able to move in a new direction…the direction of my destiny.

So when I stop buying into the mind set of “Why Me” I am able to take back my power. I am able to begin to see life in a different way. I am able to see life as an adventure set forth in terms of learning curves and progress. I am able to see my destiny in terms of progress not perfection. I am able to replace a fear of failure with the anticipation of what I am going to learn from my experience. I am able to replace my apprehension with tenacity and persistence. I am able to replace doubt and cynicism with trust, a trust in a loving God to guide me.

I am able to stop trying to figure things out by myself. I am able to let go of my need to control outcomes. I am able to stop trying to anticipate how the dots of my footwork are going to connect. I am able to let go of how I think things should be in my life. I am able to trust that the pieces of the puzzle – that guide me to my destiny – will come together in the right order and at the right time. I am able to suit up and show up in life. I am able to trust that I will get what I need. I am able to use what I have been given, and stop comparing myself to other people.

I am able to stop living in the “What If’s” and start living in the “What Is”. I am able to start living in the now(s), instead of living in the past. I am able to stop living in regret and start living in response.

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