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My Perspective
Relationships create challenges. Relationships after brain injury create different challenges. Each individuals brings with them their history. History in terms of what was learned and experienced growing up. History also in terms of what they experienced in past relationships. If there was dysfunction in those relationships, dysfunction will be brought into each relationship. Such dysfunction can continue to undermine and sabotage relationships. Continue to undermine and get in the way of existing relationships and other relationships… unless new boundaries and behaviors are learned and used in relationships.
Articles in this category give ways to recognize, address and change behaviors that no longer work.
Once an individual experiences a brain injury another dynamic enters into the relationship. Denial. Once external wounds have healed and the impact of the brain injury becomes invisible denial enters relationships. I can speak from personal experience. For many years I had no idea that my life was being impacted by the open skull fracture and brain injury when I was 10 years old. When asked, friends would tell me that there was something different about me, but they could not put their “put their finger on it.” I could not “put my finger on it” either because denial kept it hidden from me.
My denial and other people’s denial. The result from this denial was alienation. An alienation from myself and from other people. People who could not or would not consider that my life was being impacted by a brain injury. People who could not or would not accept me and needed to believe that I was making excuses. People who needed to stay in denial, because to come out of denial would mean they would need to change. Nevertheless, the reality was that I was the only one who needed to accept and own my reality. I was the only one who could do anything about how my life being was impacted by a brain injury.
I was the only one who could do anything to change the way my life was being impacted. I was the only one who could do anything about the dysfunctional way I related to myself and other people. I was the only one who could work a program of recovery to change my behavior. I was the only one who could change the way I related to people. I was the only one who could stop participating in behaviors that no longer worked for me. I was the only one who could do anything to enhance to make my life better. I was the only one who could learn how to live with and to navigate through life with a brain injury and an invisible disability.
I was the only one who could change my behavior so that I could begin to have functional relationships.
In the articles with in this category I share what helped me to change the way that I related to myself and other people. With in this category I speak to how I found freedom from the denial in myself and other people. In this category I share what I learned that helped me to begin to have a relationship with myself. I share what helped me to experience a freedom. A freedom that I previously never knew existed. I share what helped me to accept myself, when other people could not or would not accept me. I share what helped me to have functional relationship with myself and with other people. In this category I share hope.
- Having and Maintaining Friendships and Relationships after a Brain Injury Video Presentation
- Having and Maintaining Friendships and Relationships after a Brain Injury
- Being Mistreated by Someone Close to Us after a Brain Injury
- Strategies that Help when Dealing with Difficult People
- Traumatic Brain Injury, Invisible Disabilities and Abandonment
- Emotional Hangovers and What Helps Me to Avoid Them Slideshow Episode 357
- A Message for Parents — Whose Shame are you Carrying?
- Relationships with Myself and Other People after Brain Injury Video Presentation eBook Download
- Brain Injury, and Learning to Manage Anxiety in Social Settings Video Presentation
- Brain Injury — Why do I Feel so Misunderstood and Shunned? Video Presentation
- Isolation and Intimacy
- Understanding Relationships after Brain Injury
- How to Stop Pushing People Away Video Presentation
- How to Stop Pushing People Away
- Resentment and The Power of Forgiveness Video Presentation
- Resentment and The Power of Forgiveness
- How I found to be at Peace with Myself and other People Video Presentation
- How I found to be at Peace with Myself and other People
- Being of Service — Am I Helping (Empowering) or Enabling (Perpetuating)?
- Brain Injury, Stress, Anxiety, Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years Part 1
- Living with an Invisible Disability — Accepting Ourselves when Other People Can’t
- Offering a Resource of Hope and Encouragement to Brain Injury Survivors and Families
- Moving from Fear to Faith — Making Peace with God
- Taking Care of Myself — How to Empower my Relationships Video Presentation
- Taking Care of Myself — How to Empower my Relationships
- Second Chance to Live Video Presentations on Buildings Healthy Relationships
- Second Chance to Live Articles on Building Relationships
- Understanding the People we Interact with as Traumatic Brain Injury Survivors — Win / Win Outcomes Part 4 Video Presentation
- Understanding the People we Interact with as Traumatic Brain Injury Survivors — Respecting My Limits Part 3 Video Presentation
- Understanding the People we Interact with as Traumatic Brain Injury Survivors — Learning to Accept Our Reality Part 2 Video Presentation
- Understanding the People we Interact with as Traumatic Brain Injury Survivors Part 1 Video Presentation
- Not Judging my Insides with Other People's Outsides Video Presentation
- Not Judging my Insides with Other People's Outsides
- Angry and Stuck — What to DO? Video Presentation
- Angry and Stuck — What to DO?
- How to Not Take On Other People's Insecurities Video Presentation
- How to Not Take On Other People's Insecurities
- Relationships, Conflict and Peace Part 3, Part 4 and Part 5 Video Presentation
- Relationships, Conflict and Peace Part 1 and Part 2 Video Presentation
- Traumatic Brain Injury — Stress, Anxiety and Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years Part 3 and Part 4 Revisited Again Video Presentation
- Traumatic Brain Injury — Stress, Anxiety and Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years Part 1 and Part 2 Revisited Again Video Presentation
- Traumatic Brain Injury — Stress, Anxiety and Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years Part 1 Revisited Again
- Critical, Judgmental and Antagonistic — What to Do? Video Presentation
- Critical, Judgmental and Antagonistic — What to Do?
- Why We Need One Another — What We Create Video Presentation
- Why We Need One Another — What We Create
- How to Stop Over Reacting Video Presentation
- How to Stop Overreacting
- Living with a brain injury — Not letting your Past spoil your Present Part 1 Video Presentation
- Living with a brain injury — Not letting your Past spoil your Present Part 2 Video Presentation
- Living with a Brain Injury and Finding Freedom from Isolation Part 1
- Living with a brain injury — Not letting your Past spoil your Present Part 2
- Living with a brain injury — Not letting your Past spoil your Present Part 1
- Living with a brain injury and Whose Shame are you Carrying? Video Presentation
- Living with a brain injury — Whose Shame are you Carrying?
- Living with an Invisible Disability — The Consequence of Denying My Reality — Part 2 Revisited
- Living with an Invisible Disability — The Consequence of Denying My Reality — Part 1 Revisited
- Living with a Traumatic Brain Injury, Feelings of Isolation and Connecting with Other People
- Approval Seeking, People Pleasing, Anxiety and Hope
- Understanding the Power of Detachment Video Presentation
- When People Choose To Distance Themselves From Me Part 1 and Part 2 Video Presentation
- Have You Ever Asked, "What is Keeping Me Stuck?" Part 1 and Part 2 Video Presentation
- Have You Ever Asked, "What is Keeping Me Stuck?" Part 2
- Have You Ever Asked, "What is Keeping Me Stuck?" Part 1
- Second Chance to Live and the Rose Moore Radio Program
- When People Choose To Distance Themselves From Me Part 2
- When People Choose To Distance Themselves From Me
- The Three Rules Revisited — Consequences Video Presentation
- Don't Talk, Don't Trust and Don't Feel Video Presentation Part 2
- Don't Talk, Don't Trust and Don't Feel Video Presentation Part 1
- How to Move Forward — Make Peace with the Past Video Presentation
- How to Move Forward — Make Peace with the Past
- A Very Important Question — Whose Shame are you Carrying? Part 2
- A Very Important Question — Whose Shame are you Carrying Part 1?
- Some thing to Consider — Who is limiting you?
- Making Peace with God and Learning to Trust Video Presentation
- Traumatic Brain Injury — My Struggle Living with an Invisible Disability Part 1 Revisited
- Traumatic Brain Injury — Stress, Anxiety and Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years Part 1 Revisited
- Making Peace with God through understanding His Heart toward Me— Part 3 Revisited
- Making Peace with God through understanding my Journey — Part 2 Revisited
- Making Peace with God To Learn How to Trust — Part 1 Revisited
- Traumatic Brain Injury and Critical People
- Living with a Traumatic Brain Injury and Feeling Baffled and Confused Part 3
- Living with a Traumatic Brain Injury and Feeling Baffled and Confused Part 2
- Living with a Traumatic Brain Injury and Feeling Baffled and Confused Part 1
- Being Led Beyond My Understanding
- Traumatic Brain Injury and the Holidays
- Living with a brain injury and Feeling Restless, Irritable and Discontent
- Brain Injury, Stress, Anxiety, Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years Part 4
- You Make a Difference in My Life — Thank you!
- Brain Injury, Stress, Anxiety, Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years Part 3
- Brain Injury, Stress, Anxiety, Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years Part 2
- Traumatic Brain Injury — Stress, Anxiety and Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years Part 1
- Traumatic Brain Injury, Fatigue, Anxiety, Anguish and Depression Part 2
- Behind Prison Doors
- Traumatic Brain Injury — Relationships, Conflict and Peace Part 5
- Traumatic Brain Injury — Relationships, Conflict and Peace Part 4
- Traumatic Brain Injury — Relationships, Conflict and Peace Part 3
- Traumatic Brain Injury — Relationships, Conflict and Peace Part 2
- Relationships, Conflict and Peace Part 1
- Being at Peace with Others and Myself Part 2
- Being at Peace with Others and Myself Part 1
- Traumatic Brain Injury — Why do I React the Way I do? Part 4
- Traumatic Brain Injury — Why do I React the Way I do? Part 3
- Traumatic Brain Injury — Why do I React the Way I do? Part 2
- Traumatic Brain Injury — Why do I React the Way I do? Part 1
- My Reactions / My Reality
- My Struggle living with an Invisible Disability Revisited– Part 4
- My Struggle living with an Invisible Disability Revisited – Part 3
- My Struggle living with an Invisible Disability Revisited— Part 2
- My Struggle living with an Invisible Disability Revisited — Part 1
- Traumatic Brain Injury, Family System Roles and Learning to Thrive — Part 4
- Traumatic Brain Injury, Family System Roles and Learning to Thrive — Part 3
- Traumatic Brain Injury, Family System Roles and Learning to Thrive — Part 2
- Traumatic Brain Injury, Family System Roles and Learning to Thrive — Part 1
- Traumatic Brain Injury — Whose Pushing my Buttons? Part 3 of 3
- Traumatic Brain Injury — Whose Pushing my Buttons? Part 2 of 3
- Traumatic Brain Injury — Whose Pushing my Buttons? Part 1 of 3
- Making Peace with my Past
- Understanding the Power of Detachment
- The Power of Detachment
- Why I am Free to Trust
- Second Chance to Live — Taking things Personally
- Second Chance to Live – Freedom from Rejection
- Second Chance to Live – Why Do I React?
- Traumatic Brain Injury and the Dance
- Traumatic Brain Injury and Approval
- Second Chance to Live and the Holidays
- Traumatic Brain Injury and Parents
- Traumatic Brain Injury and the Double Bind
- Having an Invisible Disability – The Consequence of Denying Reality—Part 2
- Having an Invisible Disability – The Consequence of Denying Reality—Part 1
- My Struggle living with an Invisible Disability – Part 4
- My Struggle living with an Invisible Disability — Part 2
- My Struggle living with an Invisible Disability — Part 1
- Making Peace with God and Learning to Trust Part 3
- Making Peace with God and Learning to Trust Part 2
- Making Peace with God and Learning to Trust Part 1
- Displaced/Unresolved Sadness — Why You May be Feeling Depressed?
- Living with a Brain Injury, A Message to Parents and Hope
- The Three Rules Revisited — Consequences
- Don’t Talk, Don’t Trust, and Don’t Feel
- Who is limiting you?
- Self-righteousness
- Live and Let Live
- Whose stealing my…
- Who Am I? Part 1
- Whose life are you Living?