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Strategies that Help when Dealing with Difficult People

July 4, 2019 By Second Chance to Live

Strategies that Help when Dealing with Difficult People
Strategies that Help when Dealing with Difficult People

In life interacting with people is unavoidable. Along the way, we may encounter difficult people.

In today’s article, I would like to share several strategies. Strategies that I have learned to use when dealing with difficult people.

Strategies that help me to find serenity in the midst of interacting with difficult people, including interacting with myself.


Strategies that Help

If possible, let it go. Let go and let God.

Practice live and let live.

Accept the things we can not change without judgment.

When someone throws me a ball and I do not catch it, to throw it back, the game is over.


I don’t have to engage with people who want to argue.

Pointing the finger in anyone’s direction does no one any good.

Keep the focus on me. Take my own inventory. Check my own motives.

Justifying, defending and explaining does me no good.


Detach physically, if possible. Give yourself some space.

  Change the subject. Doing so sets a boundary. If the person continues to want to engage me on the topic, change the topic again. Eventually, they will get the message.

 Say what I mean, mean what I say, but don’t be mean when I say it.

 Be brief, be calm and be gone.


I do not have to stay in front of someone who wants me to feel a certain way by blaming me.

I also need to remember that I am doing the best that I know how to do and that has to be good enough.

  If I need to, make amends. Progress, not perfection.

 “It” is not all about me. “It” may be about other people’s expectations. (real or unrealistic)


What I need to remember is that do not have to beat up on myself for being human and making mistakes.

I am powerless over whether people accept my amends. Living amends empowers relationships.

We proclaim spiritual progress, not spiritual perfection, one day at a time.

“It” is not all about other people. “It” may be about me and my expectations. (real or unrealistic).


I need to remember that people hear what I say, but they see what I do.

Is what I am doing speaking louder than what I am saying.

Changed attitudes aid recovery.

Let it begin with me.


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