Traumatic Brain Injury — Relationships, Conflict and Peace Part 3

Please read Part 1 and Part 2 for context. Thank you.

I discovered that I needed to be authentic in my relationship with myself. I discovered that I needed to true to myself.

I began to realize the I could not base my self-worth or my self-esteem on my ability or inability to “fix” situations or people. I began to realize that I could no longer base my sense of well being and security on the validation or approval from other people. I began to realize that I needed to be responsible for my own happiness and validation.

With my awareness, I was able to begin taking back the power that I had so readily given to other people — in my attempt (s) to be at peace in my relationships.

Through my recovery process I began to realize that many of the reactions that I was having to present day events, people and situations were directly connected to events, people and situations from my past. In the process, I discovered that my “unfinished” business — from my past conflicts — were triggering conflicts in my present.

I discovered that many of my present day conflicts had roots in my past conflicts. I found that because I had not made peace with my past, I was in effect recycling feelings — anger, disappointments and resentment from past events, people and situations — onto my present relationships.

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