For many years of my life, my concept of boundaries was limited to what separated One State from another. When it came to having, respecting or even understanding how boundaries factored into relationships, I was clue-less. The notion of my needing to set or maintain boundaries seemed ludicrous.
Because I did not respect my own need to have boundaries, I developed a series of limiting behaviors.
These limiting behaviors reinforced my distorted perceptions and led me to believe that boundaries were merely obstacles to be overcome. I also maintained the belief that control and manipulation preceded the need to have or respect anyone’s boundaries. My distorted perceptions also kept me guessing at what was normal.
For much of my life, I felt like a blind man, who kept bumping into different walls. As a result, any adjustment came with pain.
As my emotional and spiritual pain increased so did my willingness to look for solutions. My recovery process, brought me to a place of awareness. My awareness revealed that I needed to both value and respect boundaries. My awareness revealed that boundaries, when not respected give way to a host of other limiting behaviors.