Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. I am happy to see that you decided to stop by to visit with me. Thank you. Several weeks ago I received a question from a friend, “How do we get past a victim mentality( victim hood)? I keep getting pulled back in!” I have been thinking about that question and want to share some thoughts. First of all, I want to say thank you for asking the question.
I think the biggest way that I get past and stay out of a victim mentality is to remember that I have choices, despite thinking that my circumstances don’t provide me with choices.
Something that has helped me tremendously is to remember that my circumstances occur in my life to build me up, not to keep me down. They are not being done to me, but for me. Not to hold me back, but to set me up. What I discovered — through my process — was that my circumstances are in essence teachers. Teachers to provide me with lessons that prepare me to take advantage of opportunities that teach me lessons.
When I forget to look for the lessons provided by my circumstances; I focus on the circumstances, instead of looking for the lessons provided by the circumstances.
Though my process, I have learned several lessons that I would like to share with you. I learn a lot from visual metaphors, as they help to illustrate these lessons. I would like to share several of these visual metaphors with you. I like the illustration of a tapestry. On one side of the tapestry one sees many different colored threads. seemingly jumbled together. On the other side of a tapestry, there is a beautiful story being told.
Circumstances can be likened to these threads. How I view these threads determines whether I see myself as a victim or as an empowered co creator of my destiny.
I also like the illustration of the jigsaw puzzle. The jigsaw puzzle is made up of many pieces. Each puzzle piece by itself makes little sense; however collectively, as they fall into place create a beautiful picture. Circumstance; I believe, can be likened to the pieces of a jigsaw puzzle. As I learn from my circumstances, each puzzle piece falls into place at the right time and in the right order. By seeing my circumstances as pieces of a puzzle, I am empowered.
In my experience, I have found that as I take the time to learn from each circumstance, a puzzle piece of my destiny falls into place. As one puzzle piece falls into place, another circumstance appears.
I would encourage you to read Part 2 of this article, by clicking on this link: How to Get Past and Keep from Being Pulled back into a Victim Mentality Part 2
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