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Through writing and thinking about the events and circumstances — that left me feeling anxious and afraid — I was able to examine and process the events and circumstances. As I processed my feelings of being anxious and afraid — as well as the my interactions with different individuals — I was able to change my perspective. By accepting that I am powerless over people and how they choose to interact or not interact with me, I am empowered. Although I may feel powerless over not being able to get people to value and want to spend time with me, I do not have to feel helpless.
Instead, I can use my power of choice. I can choose to change the things that I can – because I am not a victim of events, circumstances or people. If I can not change event, circumstances of people, I can seek to change my perspective. In the process, I can be empowered by the events, circumstances and people over which I am powerless, because I am not helpless.
Consequently, I do not have to place judgment on events, circumstances or people involved — including myself. Instead, I can accept what does not work for me. I can make healthier choices for myself, by attending events where people value who I am as an individuals – warts and all – and who seek to interact / spend time with me. By making this change, I am empowered by my feeling anxious and afraid.
In the event that you have events, circumstances or people in your life that leave you feeling anxious and afraid, let me encourage you – as I encourage myself – sit down with a piece of paper and pen. Examine the events, circumstances and people that leave you feeling anxious and afraid. Then examine if you can change those matters. If you can not change them, change the way in which you think about them. In the process, you will find yourself being empowered by your powerlessness, because you are not helpless.
By making these changes, you will find yourself being empowered by feeling anxious and afraid.
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