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Empowering the Individual, Not the Brain Injury

Traumatic Brain Injury — I began to heal when… Part 5

October 27, 2009 By Second Chance to Live

Please read Part 1, Part 2, Part 3 , Part 4 and the Epilogue for context. Thank you.

Through my awareness I began to heal when I began to realize that God — as a loving father — was using my circumstances and my experiences to direct me to the destiny — for which I had been created. I began to heal when I stopped placing judgements on what occurred in my life. I began to heal when I changed the way in which I framed and experienced my lessons — as part of my empowering process, instead of as a way to point out where I was not “measuring” up.

I began to heal when I stopped “shoulding” on myself and my life.

I began to heal when I started to realize that what I learned through my process was more important than arriving at any destination. I began to heal when I took responsibility for how I choose to react to individuals, groups, organizations, churches and religious institutions. I began to heal when I started to realize that no one can make me feel inferior with out my consent. I began to heal when I started to practice the principle of live and let live.

I began to heal when I stopped buying into other peoples denial systems. I began to heal when I started to accept my reality. I began to heal when I stopped buying into other people’s value systems. I began to heal when I started celebrating my small successes.

I began to heal as I realized that I needed to practice detachment — emotionally, physically and spiritually — from situations that I proved to not be good for me. I began to heal when I stopped believing that I should have already mastered everything. I began to heal when I started believing that with all learning therein involves a learning curve. I began to heal when I realized that I could use my gifts, talents and abilities in ways that work for me.

I began to heal when I realized that ALL my circumstances occurred in my life to teach me lessons, to prepare me for opportunities, to point me in the direction of my destiny. I began to heal when I realized that I no longer had to have the big picture. I began to heal when I started to trust the process, a loving God and myself.

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