In response to a request to SHARE what helped me to CREATE.
CREATE my BEST life after my brain injury, I created this presentation.
May you also be encouraged, by HOPE, to create your BEST life after your brain injury.
My Relationship with Hope
For many years I had a dysfunctional relationship with hope because hope did not play by my rules and fulfill my expectations.
Gaining a Healthy Relationship
Through my process I gained a healthy relationship with hope. I began to see hope as a coach that empowered my ability to be a co-creator in my life and relationships.
Being a Co-Creator
A co-creator through being an actor, instead of a reactor in my life. An actor through being responsible to and for my reactions to my life and circumstance.
“Sometimes adversity is what you need to face in order to become successful.” Zig Ziglar
“Our circumstances are not meant to keep us down, but they are meant to build us up. They are meant to build us up by teaching us lessons that provide experiences and offer opportunities.” Craig J. Phillips
“History has demonstrated that the most notable winners usually encountered heartbreaking obstacles before they triumphed. They won because they refused to become discouraged by their defeats.” B.C. Forbes
What has Helped me to Move Forward
Finding Purpose after Brain Injury – this just takes time, lots of time at least it did for me. In my experience, executing my purpose was a process.
“When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.” Helen Keller
To find and live my purpose I needed to accept what I could not change. To change what I could. Bottom line. If nothing changes it remains the same.
“Regardless of your lot in life, you can build something beautiful on it.” Zig Ziglar
Process of elimination. Was all about determining what no longer worked to determine what worked. Creating and accepting my new normal, took time.
“I am only one, but still, I am one. I cannot do everything, but still, I can do something; and because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do something that I can do. “Helen Keller
In my experience, I needed to involve my brain / body connection in the process to be able to develop and excel. Excel through Neuroplasticity.
“It is not that I am so smart. It is just that I stay with problems longer.” Albert Einstein
In my experience, I was the one who needed to become aware of what I needed in my mind, body, spirit, soul and body to advocate for myself.
“The most common way people give away their power is thinking they don’t have any.” Alice Walker
In my experience, I needed to have help to move me through this process. In my experience, I found 12 ways that helped me in this ongoing process.
“It is not as important what happened or happens to us, but how we respond to what happened or happens to us.” Craig J. Phillips MRC, BA
In my experience, I realized that I needed to have a change of attitude. A change in attitude to be able stay committed to running my own race.
“Research your own experience. Absorb what is useful, reject what is useless and add specifically your own creation.” Bruce Lee
In my experience, what became apparent was that I brought me into all my relationships. Therefore, I could not wait for anyone to change to feel safe.
“Those who danced were thought to be quite insane by those who could not hear the music.” Angela Monet
In my experience I needed to look at success in a different way. In a way that was defined by me and not by how other people defined success.
“Not everyone will understand your journey. That’s okay. You’re here to live your life, not to make everyone understand.” Banksy
Run My Own Race
In my experience and because I grew in awareness, acceptance and action, I became aware of my creating genius. Genius I develop.
“Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” Albert Einstein
Below are links to my other 15 presentations created to encourage and empower hope.
Believing in Ourselves through Self-Advocacy — A Guide to Owning Our Power after Brain Injury and Stroke Presentation
12 Ways to Enhance Our Lives, Well-Beings and Relationships after a Brain Injury and Stroke Presentation
Living with a Brain Injury, an Invisible Disability and Change after Brain Injury and Stroke Presentation
Self-Advocacy Resources for Ongoing Brain Injury Recovery Empowering the Individual, not the brain injury