Good morning and welcome back to Second Chance to Live. Your presence is always appreciated and highly valued my friend. I have re-learned a lesson, not a new lesson, just in a different setting with a different person. A teacher emerged from an unlikely source, someone that I have interacted with over an extended period of time. An unlikely teacher, because I had a difficult time hearing what they had to say.
Following the meeting — where I had interacted with this individual – I spoke with several of my trusted friends. During our conversation, my friends gently reminded me of a truth that my dander had kept me from seeing. Because I had a difficult time hearing what the “teacher” was saying, I felt the need to justify my position. Over the course of my conversation with my friends, the truth in the lesson became obvious.
What the “teacher” was pointing out to me was of utmost importance. You see I had failed to see the value of the message, because of the conflict I had with the messenger. Although I initially felt justified in my actions, as I spoke with my trusted friends — people who I respect and who seek to live in the solution — the truth rang out clear to me. I needed to make changes based on the lesson the “teacher” was teaching me.
Life sends many lessons our way each day. Sometimes those lessons come through people who we may want to dismiss or discount because we won’t or can’t be honest within ourselves. Our biases and unfinished business – unfinished family of origin work – detour our ability to own what we are being taught. In our avoidance we become victims by our unwillingness to learn from our circumstances.
My experience has taught me that I will continue to react to people, places and things until I become willing to learn from the teachers that are sent to point me in the direction of my destiny.
In my experience, I have found that when I react to someone, my reaction is more about me than about anyone. Although I may want to delude myself into believing that the problem exists with out, I have found all too often that my problem exists within. As I am accountable to myself and for my reactions to people, places and things I empower my capacity to trust the process. As I trust the process, I am able to trust a loving God which in turn empowers my ability to learn from the teacher’s that are brought in to my life.
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