In today’s article I would like to share an awareness that I had that may be helpful to you. Several days ago, during and after a phone conversation I found myself agitated at the person. The morning after the phone call, I wrote them a letter and was preparing to mail that letter later in the day to tell them what they needed to do to avert my fear and anxiety in the … [Read more...]
The Benefit of Having Healthy Boundaries
My concept of boundaries was non-existent until I began to understand the need to have my own life. For many years of my life, my concept of boundaries was limited to what separated one state from another state. When it came to having, respecting or even understanding how boundaries factored into relationships, I was clue-less. The notion of my needing to have, set or maintain … [Read more...]
Has Drama Replaced Living for You?
In many families where ongoing conflict persists, a heightened tolerance for emotional pain ensues. Denial, rather than resolution become the goal. Repression, shame, and blame then become the tools that are used to perpetuate the need to deny what exists. Overtime all the members of the family unknowingly assume different roles in an attempt to mask the pain or secret. … [Read more...]
Moving through the Door of Hope
In a recent article, Opening the Door to Hope; I spoke to the need to face and address loss, to be able to move on with life. The first step in this process is to face the denial that seeks to keep me in darkness. The denial that seeks to deceive and keep the individual from seeing the light that is on the other side of the door, that is opening. Denial seeks to keep the … [Read more...]