Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. I am happy to see that you decided to stop by to visit with me. Thank you. Last evening I was in a meeting that discussed knowing God’s will and making decisions. When the opportunity came for me to share my thoughts on the topic I shared from my experience, strength and hope.
Let me share what I discovered through my process of awareness, acceptance and action.
For many years I saw and interpreted life in black and whites / all or none. Coupled with my black and white / all or none perspective I carried an overdeveloped sense of responsibility. I carried this overdeveloped sense of responsibility because I believed that I did not just make mistakes, but I believed that I was a mistake.
Because I believed that I was a mistake, I bought into the notion that I needed to be more than in all of my relationships – to make up for not being enough. Consequently, in my over developed sense of responsibility I strove to take care of people emotionally. I did so and went to great lengths to do so — in an attempt to prove my worth and value…
and to prove that I was not a mistake.
In my efforts to prove that I was not a mistake, I attempted to control my relationships through my participation in a dance. The steps of the dance became all too familiar as I sought to execute the steps of the dance in all of my relationships. In the process of participating in the dance, each of my relationships took on a familiar form.
The form involved that of an emotional gauntlet, which invariably brought about drama and crisis into each relationship.
Please read Part 2 for context. Thank you.
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