In response to my recent article, Several Ways that Help me to Own my Power, Just for Today, I received a comment/ question.
“So who did you give your power away to?”
After thinking about this question I decided to write this article, Bullying and Anxiety — So Who Did You Give Your Power Away To?.
Over the course of time I have given my power away. In the process, I have found myself being bullied in different ways.
Bullying is about intimidation, control, manipulation and can be done in a subtle or an aggressive way.
Defanging the Bully
With my awareness, I realized that I need to become aware. Not to focus on the bully, but to determine why I was/am being bullied. By determining why I was/am being bullied, I am able to own my power. The power to make changes or the power to accept what I can not change.
If I determine the reason that I am being bullied (is something that I am powerless to change) I am able to stop beating up on myself. If I determined that there is something that I can change, I am able to make adjustments. By making adjustments, I stop empowering the bully and bullying.
Being Bullied Makes Me Anxious
I was thinking about the reasons for anxiety. In my experience, I realize that it is very important to identify and examine what I am anxious about — whatever the day may bring. Examining and defining why I am anxious gives me the ability to determine if I can do anything because of my anxiety.
I have heard that “we are as sick as our secrets”. Maybe I need to speak with a mentor or a trusted friend (after I have identified what I am anxious about). Doing so may help me to find freedom from what I am anxious about, as what I am anxious about will lose it’s power to dominate my thoughts.
Identifying and Letting Go
Writing in a journal will help me each day to determine what I can not do in response to my anxiety. If I am powerless to do anything to change why I am anxious, then I need to ask God to remove my obsession over which I am anxious.
If I have determined that I can do something to alleviate my anxiety, I can take action to get different results. Both asking God to remove my obsession and by taking action will give me the ability to own my power.