Bullying and Anxiety — So Who Did You Give Your Power Away To?

In response to my recent article,  Several Ways that Help me to Own my Power, Just for Today, I received a comment/ question.

“So who did you give your power away to?”

After thinking about this question I decided to write this article, Bullying and Anxiety — So Who Did You Give Your Power Away To?.

Over the course of time I have given my power away. In the process, I have found myself being bullied in different ways.

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Bullying is about intimidation, control, manipulation and can be done in a subtle or an aggressive way.

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Defanging the Bully

With my awareness, I realized that I need to become aware. Not to focus on the bully, but to determine why I was/am being bullied. By determining why I was/am being bullied, I am able to own my power. The power to make changes or the power to accept what I can not change.

If I determine the reason that I am being bullied (is something that I am powerless to change) I am able to stop beating up on myself.  If I determined that there is something that I can change, I am able to make adjustments. By making adjustments,  I stop empowering the bully and bullying.

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Being Bullied Makes Me Anxious

I was thinking about the reasons for anxiety. In my experience, I realize that it is very important to identify and examine what I am anxious about — whatever the day may bring. Examining and defining why I am anxious gives me the ability to determine if I can do anything because of my anxiety.

I have heard that “we are as sick as our secrets”. Maybe I need to speak with a mentor or a trusted friend (after I have identified what I am anxious about). Doing so may help me to find freedom from what I am anxious about, as what I am anxious about will lose it’s power to dominate my thoughts.

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Identifying and Letting Go

Writing in a journal will help me each day to determine what I can not do in response to my anxiety. If I am powerless to do anything to change why I am anxious, then I need to ask God to remove my obsession over which I am anxious.

If I have determined that I can do something to alleviate my anxiety, I can take action to get different results. Both asking God to remove my obsession and by taking action will give me the ability to own my power.

In the process, bully’s will no longer have my power.