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So What to Do after Letting Go of What Can Not Be Changed? Resilience

March 18, 2020 By Second Chance to Live

  Several days ago I created a poster, Letting Go of Things that I can Not Change, Opens Doors Poster. Today I would like to speak to the question,

“So what to do after letting go of what can not be changed?”


I have created a video presentation of this article. You can watch and listen to the video presentation click on this link: So What to Do after Letting Go of What Can Not Be Changed? Resilience Video Presentation


Through my experience, I have discovered that letting go of the things that I can not change does not mean that I am helpless. It means that they no longer work for me.


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Resilience Definition: an ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change. Misfortune Definition: an event or conjunction of events that causes an unfortunate or distressing result: bad luck (Merriam-Webster). Resilience Definition: ability to recover readily from illness, depression, adversity, or the like; buoyancy. Dictionary.com


Resilence teaches me that I have more power than I realize. Resilence reminds me that there are other solutions. Solutions that will reveal themselves to me if I am willing.


 Through my experience, I have discovered that solutions reveal themselves to me through being resilient. Solutions reveal themselves to me by not giving up because I am not helpless.

 Provision

Resilience provides the provision to press on, regardless of discouragement, disappointment or disillusionment.

Resilience determines to believe that a positive solution exists.

Resilience chooses to frame life’s experiences in a positive manner.

Resilience empowers focus in the midst of distraction and negativity.


Process

Resilience encourages me to not give up on my process because I know that I am learning.

Resilience reminds me that with all learning there is a learning curve.

Resilience gives me permission to learn at my own rate and pace.

Resilience reminds me that life is not a sprint.

Resilience helps me to trust that I will learn the lesson.

Resilience motivates me to look for opportunities to learn, rather than be defeated by what I do not understand.

Resilience encourages me to keep moving, when giving up may seem to be a viable option.

Resilience emboldens me to believe that good will come from what may not makes sense to me.


Capacity

Resilience strengthens my capacity to be tenacious and persistent.

Resilience prepares me to take advantage of fresh possibilities.

Resilience motivates me to accept my reality, even though I may have people in my life who want or need me to live in their denial system.

Resilience encourages me to celebrate life even when I scrape my knees through living.

Resilience reminds me that I am not a victim of my circumstances because I have the power to choose.

Resilience motivates, encourages and empowers my process because I know that more will be revealed with time.

Resilience motivates trust because I know that I have a future and a hope.


Today’s Thought

Above are some of the characteristics of resilience from my perspective. I would encourage you to sit down with a pen and a piece of paper and list ways in which being resilient could benefit you. You may like to discuss your list with another person and gain their perspective of resilience. If you would like to share your ideas with me, please do so through a comment. I want to learn from you too my friend.


“Regardless of your lot in life, you can build something beautiful on it.” Zig Ziglar

“When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one, which has been opened for us.” Helen Keller

“If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.” Henry David Thoreau

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