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As an individual living with a brain injury and an invisible disability who is living on SSDI I feel insecure at times.
Insecure at times when I judge my efforts to people who are not living with a brain injury, an invisible disability and living on SSDI.
In March 2014 I wrote an article to share what I experience when I feel insecure. I then go on to share what helps me to stop judging my efforts. Judging my efforts to the efforts of individuals who are not living with a brain injury, an invisible disability and on SSDI.
Below is a revised version of that article.
Last week I shared that I had been struggling and frustrated. I also found myself angry as a result.
I knew that the problem existed with me and not because of someone else.
Irritable, Restless and Discontent
I was the one who was restless, irritable and discontent. I knew that I needed to examine the root. I wrote in a journal and spoke with a mentor of mine. Nevertheless, I still had a difficult time putting my finger on what what what was at the root of my funk.
Yesterday in my morning meditation I began to receive some clarity. I realized that I needed to get back to basics. You see I had fallen into the trap of comparing my lot in life with other peoples lot’s in life. By doing so I had allowed the expectations surrounding other people’s lots to be the expectations that I had for my lot. In my awareness, I found that I had been judging my efforts with the perceived efforts of other people. In my awareness, I found that I had been experiencing a sense of shame for not doing more on my lot in life.
Judging My Efforts
What began to be clear to me was that I needed to stop judging what I was doing with my lot. What began to be clear to me was that I needed to focus on what I am doing with my lot. What became clear to me was that I needed to celebrate what I am building on my lot. What became clear to me was that I needed to stop judging my efforts by the efforts of what I perceived other people were building on their lots. What became clear to me was that I needed to see the value of what I am building on my lot. Apart from what I perceived to be the value of what other people were building on their lots.
Refocusing my Attention
With this renewed awareness, I refocused my attention to my mission and vision. With this renewed awareness, I began to see the value of what I am creating on my lot. With this awareness, I saw the reality of my strengths. With this renewed awareness, I reminded myself of my being and my great worth and value. With this renewed awareness, I was able to stop judging my efforts. Judging my efforts to the efforts, worth and values that other people place on their lot’s in life. People who are not living with a brain injury, an invisible disability and on SSDI.
“Regardless of your lot in life, you can build something beautiful on it.” Zig Ziglar
What other people build on their lot in life is none of our business. What we are building on our lot in life is none of their business. If I find myself judging my lot to another person’s lot, I need to re-focus. I need to re-focus my commitment to my mission and vision. I need to stay committed to my effort to build on my lot in life. By keeping the focus on my lot, I am able to keep from falling back into the trap.
Into the trap of judging my efforts. Judging my efforts with the efforts of people. People who are not living with a brain injuries, invisible disabilities and on a fixed income.
My Encouragement to You
In the event that you are judging your efforts by other people’s efforts, be aware. Refocus your commitment to building on your lot in life. And as you build, keep the focus on your efforts, mission, and vision. By doing so you will help you to keep from falling into the trap of judging your efforts. Judging your efforts with/to the efforts of people who are not living with brain injuries, invisible disabilities and on a fixed income.
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