Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. I am happy to see that you decided to stop by to visit with me. In my experience, for many years I viewed life in black and white, all or none terms. I also saw my experience through the eyes of being less than as an individual. In my experience, because I did not feel like I just made mistakes, but that I was a mistake I had a difficult time loving and accepting myself. Consequently, in my low self-esteem and low self-worth I had a hard time distinguishing the difference between humility and humiliation. My confusion perpetuated my low self-esteem and low self-worth.
As I examined patterns in my motives and behaviors – as I spoke about in Part 3 of this article – I found that much of my life had been driven by perfectionism. In my examination, I discovered that both my drive to be perfect and my inner chiding (s) for not being able to be perfect were driven by my inner sense of shame and doubt.
In my experience, and through my quest for solutions I was led to listen to a 2 tape series, “Healing the Shame that Binds You” by John Bradshaw. As I listened to that tape series my healing beyond the mind took on meaning. What I learned in this 2 tape series – which I listened to over and over again – further helped me to heal beyond my mind. One line that John stated in the series changed the way in which I viewed humility and humiliation. He said, “Humility is realizing our own finite human limitations”. When I heard this statement, something changed in me.
As some thing changed in me, I was able to stop seeing life in terms of an all or none, black and white perspective. Several months ago I wrote a 2 part article — Empowering Your Life – The Difference between Humility and Humiliation — in which I shared what I learned through my process of examining the differences between humility and humiliation. What I discovered helped me to realize that I could ask for help from a loving God and that I could trust Him. What I learned inspired me and gave me hope. What I learned helped me to stop judging my efforts.
Humility gave me the permission to admit and accept my finite human limitations, to ask for help from a loving God and to work in partnership with a loving God in my quest to find and live in balance.
I would invite you to read my 2 part series Empowering Your Life – The Difference between Humility and Humiliation. I have included links to Part 1 and Part 2 of that article. Click on the link (s) and you will be taken to that Part of the article. May you find courage in the article my friend.
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