Traumatic Brain Injury – Living Life by “When” and “If”

Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live. I am happy to see that you decided to stop by to visit with me. Recently I shared a spiritual awakening with a group of friends. Let me share that spiritual awakening with you. Thank you. For many years of my life I lived by a series of contingencies. Specifically, I lived by “when” and “if”.

“When” and “if “impacted and stipulated all areas of my life and relationships.

I found that I lived by the “sword” of when and if because I was led to believe that unless my life and relationships looked a certain way I could not be OK. Consequently, I attempted to control every area of my life and my relationships. In my experience, I found that “when” and “if” did not occur in my life and relationships I became discouraged, despondent and disillusioned.

I continued to unconsciously relate to my life and my relationships — through “when” and “if” – until I experienced a spiritual awakening. The spiritual awakening changed the way in which I related to my life and my relationships. What I discovered was that when and if no longer had to dictate whether or not I was OK.

What I discovered was that I could view my life and relationships as a process, instead of as some sort of destination to measure of my worth, value and significance as an individual living with a brain injury.

As I stopped “objectifying” my quality of life by what did or did not happen in my life I was able to stop placing judgments on what did or did not happen in my life. As I stopped judging myself, I found that I was able to see what had and was occurring in my life as an opportunity. An opportunity to experience my life and my relationships as an adventure that would teach me wonderful lessons.

Wonderful lessons to enhance both my life and the lives of the individuals that a loving God would bring into my life.

Today’s thought

As I need to remind myself, my friend, whenever you find your self living life through “when” and “if” stop and remember that life and relationships are about a process and not a destination. Consequently, we don’t have to wait to be OK. We don’t have to base our worth, value or significance on “when” and “if”.

Instead we can live satisfied and fulfilled lives with what is in the NOW.

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