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Second Chance to Live

Empowering the Individual, Not the Brain Injury

Traumatic Brain Injury and Learning how to Love and Accept Myself Part 7

February 16, 2010 By Second Chance to Live

Please read the Introduction to this article on Part 1 as I wrote Traumatic Brain Injury and Denial — My Perspective as a TBI Survivor 2 1/2 years ago. Thank you.

If you have not already read parts Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, Part 4, Part 5, Part 6 please do so at this time before reading Part 7.  Thank you.

Please also read the Introduction on Page 2 as I wrote Traumatic Brain Injury — My Perspective as a TBI Survivor 2 1/2 years ago. Thank you

And now for Part 7.

Traumatic Brain Injury and Denial — My Perspective as a TBI Survivor Part 7

In the event that you have someone in your life who has experienced an acquired or traumatic brain injury, please understand we are not faking it. We are not fudging or making excuses. You may have a hard time accepting our reality, but that does not change reality. We are not like people who have not experienced a brain injury. What we need most from you is support and understanding. Don’t make us live in your denial system. Please understand that we are doing the best that we can, just for today.

For my brothers and sisters who are traumatic brain injury survivors, do not give up on your selves. Keep the faith and keep trucking. Your brain injury makes you unique and magical. Revel in your position. You are beautiful just as you are. Follow your dreams. Dream big and do the footwork. Live each day with zest and vigor. I guarantee that more will be revealed in time, one day at a time. Most of all please remember that you are undoubtedly a very valuable and special person. You are not your acquired brain injury. You are a bright and shinning star and you are a gift to your world.

So where do I go from here? When will I find my Destiny?

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  1. Sage says

    February 17, 2010 at 2:33 pm

    Hi …..I had tried to return your phone call but did not have any luck getting through. Could you please respond to this post by sending me an e-mail?
    Thanks

    Sage

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    • secondchancetolive says

      February 17, 2010 at 3:25 pm

      Hi Sage,
      Thank you for for writing to me. I wanted to let you know that I just sent you my phone # through email. Hopefully you should be receiving that email soon — with my phone #. I look forward to speaking with you Sage.

      Have a simply phenomenal day and God bless both you and your family Sage.

      Craig

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  2. Olga says

    March 22, 2010 at 11:40 am

    Hi, Craig.
    Thanks God for technology that helps us through distance.
    My name is Olga, I don’t live in USA. I have had “the second chance” with the person I love, who is a TBI survivor. He had a terrible accident sixteen years ago.
    When I met him, three years ago, it was love at first sight. I have been able to accept many things about his physical condition but some months ago our relation has been going worse and worse, mainly because of his stubbornness and bad temper. I still love him very much…How could I cope with it?
    Thank you so much for your advice.
    God bless you.
    OLGA.

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  3. secondchancetolive says

    March 25, 2010 at 1:16 pm

    Hello Olga,
    Thank you for taking the time to write to me. I appreciate you sharing with me a little about your situation with the person you love. You ask a very good question, however I am not sure how to best answer you. If the person that you are telling me about is still in denial as to the impact of his / her brain injury, you are powerless over trying to convince him / her otherwise. If there are other factors involved such a chemical dependency, those issues may be contributing to the strain of your relationship. I just do not know how to advise you at this point with out more information.

    If you would like to share more information with me I may be able to give you some suggestions Olga.

    Please realize that I want to help, I just need more information.

    Have a pleasant day and God bless both you and your family Olga.

    Craig

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