In yesterday’s article, Moving from being bitter to Better in Life; we discussed making the decision to examine why we reacted to people, places and things. We also spoke about how making this decision enhanced our ability to move from being bitter to better. Moving from bitter to better by being responsible and accountable for how we related to people, places and things. We then spoke to understanding and accepting our powerlessness over people, places and things, by working on changing the things that we could — ourselves — in our interactions.
For many years I bought into the prescription that if I just found and absorbed the right information that I would be impervious to the impact of people, places and things. Impervious, from the stand point that what other people did or did not do would not chink my armor and what I felt called to accomplish with my life. In my quest to acquire this salient knowledge, I set out on an ardent crusade. What I discovered along the way was that knowledge in and of itself could not provide a silver bullet or a magic potion that would make my life imperviously focused.
On the contrary, I found that knowledge in and or itself left me feeling both frustrated and inadequate. Frustrated in being unable to find the right knowledge and inadequate in my ability to the successfully apply the right knowledge. What I did find, through my quest and crusade to acquire the “holy grail” of knowledge; was that knowledge in and of itself did not avail me much. Thankfully, through much toil in attempting to sort out what could not “fix” my pain; I discovered a solution. A solution that seemed all to simple, but revealed how I could stop reacting to life.
A solution that would help me to start living my life as an actor, instead of as a reactor.
What I discovered helped me to grow in awareness, which led to a greater degree of acceptance, which led to my ability to take a course of action that helped to improve my life and well-being. In May of 2008 I wrote an article on Second Chance to Live to outline what I discovered that helped me to begin to connect the dots in my life. What I shared in that article helped me to begin to connect knowledge with practicality, that in turn gave me hope. In my experience, applying what I shared / share in that article has been and continues to be a process. The process has given me tools to live my life in a way that continues to improve the quality of my life.
To read that article, you may click on this link: Second Chance to Live — Action Steps
“This happiness consisted of nothing else but the harmony of the few things around me with my own existence, a feeling of contentment and well-being that needed no changes and no intensification.” Herman Hesse
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