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Empowering the Individual, Not the Brain Injury

Traumatic Brain Injury and Suicide Part 1

November 3, 2007 By Second Chance to Live

Hi, and welcome back to Second Chance to Live. You are always welcome at my table my friend. I have been thinking about a particular experience that I had when I was in graduate school. During a conversation with one of my classmates, she disclosed a personal tragedy. She told me that her former husband had committed suicide. I was sad to hear of her loss and the circumstances surrounding the suicide. Apparently, he had been unemployed for an extended period of time after being laid off from the Railroad. She told me that he had become despondent and in that despondency he committed suicide.

Interestingly enough, one week after he committed suicide his wife told me that she received a call from the Railroad wanting her husband to come back to work.

In the man’s despondency, he used a permanent solution for a temporary problem. He lost hope and thought nothing could or would change for the better. He bought into the lie that his life no longer had meaning or purpose. Although I do not know all of the extenuating circumstances, I do know that when he died the hope of finding a solution died with him. Sadly, he left his wife and family members in a world of confusion and hurt. In the decision of taking his own life, he chose to give up on hope. He chose to believe the lie that his creative uniqueness no longer mattered to anyone much less to himself. Please read my post, Flight of the Butterfly.

You may have a set of circumstances in your life that has left you in the depths of despair and despondency. You may believe that no good can come out of your traumatic brain injury my friend. Consequently, you may be considering a permanent solution to a temporary problem because you believe your creative uniqueness no longer has value. Please read my post, Traumatic Brain Injury — Following your Bliss…Regardless. In the midst of our storm, we may believe that the dark clouds of despair will never leave us. Our ability to see the forest for the trees is sometimes blinded by an overcast fog of negativity and pessimism. Like a deer caught in the headlights, we may find ourselves fixated on the circumstance rather than on the potential of a positive solution.

I have found myself in these dark places too, my friend. I have good news for you, the dark places do not last. Although you may feel frozen by fear and doubt, rest assured because you will get through these difficult times. Despair and despondency are like dark clouds that roll in and roll out of our lives. Be encouraged my friend, because you will learn to live and thrive because of the dark places of the soul. As I have found in my own experience, the night does turn into morning. Dark clouds shall pass and the sun will shine upon your life. Be encouraged, my friend. You will gain a fresh perspective and a new zest for living.

Please read Part 2 of this article and please and don’t give up on yourself or your process. More will be revealed to you in time.

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Comments

  1. lydia2007. says

    November 3, 2007 at 11:00 pm

    This wonderful post has reminded me of some encouraging words written to me by a friend – now it is time to thrive rather than just survive. I think I’ll give it a try.

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  2. Ron Graham says

    November 5, 2007 at 7:38 pm

    Your recollection of your friend’s husband highlights an important facet of depression, the feeling of being helpless and without hope, which are strong signals that suicide may be something the person is considering. These are red flags that professional counselors are looking for when working with clients who are managing depression.
    That is good work in comparing the permanence of suicide to the temporary nature of depression. Even in those cases where somebody is dealing with Major Depressive Disorder, the melancholy state is transient. The trick is to get the depressed person to hang onto a life line long enough to let that phase subside.

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  3. Pete says

    March 4, 2010 at 4:42 am

    Depression, or a “dark place” isn’t always the trigger for suicide in tbi survivors. I’m about to take the big step because after years of scraping through work to come home sit on the sofa and stare at the wall I’ve decided that’s not how I want to live, yet years of trying has shown i’m unlikely to have an alternative. Old, lonely, and no energy to do anything about it.

    If I don’t like a movie I walk out.

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    • secondchancetolive says

      March 7, 2010 at 1:53 pm

      Hi Pete,
      Thank you so very much for taking the time to write to me. I am honored by your time and kindness. Thank you. If I may, I would encourage you to not give up on your dreams my friend. More is yet to be revealed Pete. Good things are on the horizon.

      I have written several articles that you may find to be helpful. First of all, please realize that you are not alone.

      There is tremendous power in identification. The Power of Identification https://secondchancetolive.org/2007/04/18/the-power-of-identification/

      We can follow our bliss. Traumatic Brain Injury — Following our bliss…regardless
      https://secondchancetolive.org/2008/06/12/traumatic-brain-injury-following-your-bliss%E2%80%A6regardless/

      We can have a good self-esteem, self-respect and a sense of Significance Brain Injury, Self-Esteem, Self-Respect and Significance
      https://secondchancetolive.org/2009/02/03/brain-injury-self-esteem-self-respect-and-significance/

      We can rejoice in our small successes. Traumatic Brain Injury and Small Successes
      https://secondchancetolive.org/2008/04/24/traumatic-brain-injury-and-small-successes/

      I do not know if you are aware Pete, but I have a Site Map where I have a list of all of the articles that I have written and published on Second Chance to Live since I created Second Chance to Live on February 6, 2007. I would encourage you to read through articles that I have written. Take your time and go at your own pace my friend. Many of my articles contain Traumatic Brain Injury and Living with a Disability in their titles, however many other articles do not have Traumatic Brain Injury or Living with a Disability in their titles. Nevertheless, please remember that as you read through the titles in my Site Map that all of my articles contain information that will encourage, motivate, empower and give you hope Pete. In the event that you have any questions please feel free to ask. All questions are good questions.

      I will say so long for now. Have a great day and God bless both you and your family Pete.

      Craig

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