Hi, and welcome back to Second Chance to Live. Thank you for honoring me with your presence. I have been in a funky place over the last 3-4 days. I have been mulling over reasons for my unrest, but could not put my finger on any specific reason until tonight. I have shared at length in my 4 part series, My Struggle Living with an Invisible Disability some personal awareness. I do not choose to point the finger in anyone’s direction, as that is very unproductive. As an empowered being I choose to own my “funkiness” as I explore my humanity. In my 2 part series, Having an Invisible Disability – The Consequence of Denying my Reality I elaborate on how I need to own my reality. I believe my “funkiness” was due to my buying in to a denial system earlier in the week. The denial system insinuates that I “should be” more than I can be today.
When I do not own my reality, I am susceptible to buying into a denial system that wants me to believe that I should not be impacted by the injury to my traumatic brain injury. Earlier this evening I read something that keyed the notion that typified that sentiment. The assertion stipulated that I unduly need help sorting large amounts of information. My reality is that I have problems sequencing information. I believe a lack of information or ignorance led the person to assume that I am “wasting peoples time” to help me understand. Part of me shakes my head like the duck in the TV and radio commercial that says “Aflack”. The other part of me becomes incensed by the belittling and condescending implication presented by the notion that because I have a brain injury I need to have my hand held. Where is the dignity or the grace in comments that come from a lack of information?
When I was in graduate school, one of my professors elaborated on the need for people with disabilities to educate people with out disabilities. As a master’s level rehabilitation counselor, who maintained my national credentials as a Certified Rehabilitation Counselor (CRC) for over 10 years, prior to being deemed disabled from the work force I have a strong opinion. We as people with traumatic brain injuries need to educate those individuals in our world who have not experienced a brain injury with our realities. Through owning our reality and by sharing how the injury to our brain has impacted our lives we are empowered. As we own our reality, we no longer need to cower in insecurity for what we now need to learn or grow as individuals who are brain injury survivors. We do not have to make excuses or justifications for our learning disabilities or limitations.
Please be advised that not all people will be willing to understand. My experience has proven that some people will have ears to hear while other people will not. In my 4 part series as mentioned above I discuss 4 types of people. You may find yourself discouraged and despondent because some people refuse to understand. I have been there too my friend. I have spent many hours attempting to educate some people, without success. I have learned, through my experience that I need to let those people believe what they want to believe. Some people are not capable of understanding or willing to empathize with our learning disabilities, deficits or limitations. They may instead — as I have had done to me — want to minimize your reality for various reasons. You may have people in your world that want you to measure up to their unrealistic expectations. Be encouraged my friend. You do not have to be more than you are today.
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