Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live. I am happy to see that you decided to stop by to visit with me. You are always welcome around my table. Of late I have been thinking about the concept of worth, value and significance. Upon reflection I found that – for many years — I sought to find my worth, value and significance from outside of myself.
Because I bought into the notion that my worth, value and significance could only be defined from outside of myself, I strove to prove my worth, value and significance through seeking to meet various requirements. In my experience, when I found that I was unable to meet the requirements set forth to prove my worth, value and significance I felt minimized, marginalized, dismissed and discounted.
As I felt minimized, marginalized, dismissed and discounted by people, I in turn allowed people to treat me with contempt. I allowed people to treat me with contempt because I bought into the notion that my life was of little value, worth or significance. Because I bought into the notion that my life was of little worth, value or significance I also regarded myself with contempt.
Because I was so focused on attempting to fulfill the external expectations – to feel worth, value and significance – I never took the time to look with in myself. Consequently, I never stopped to realize what other people thought of me was not as important as what I thought about myself. Because I spent my time and energy people pleasing and approval seeking, I never took the time to consider that my worth, value and significance were never meant to be defined for me.
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