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Empowering the Individual, Not the Brain Injury

Not Judging my Insides with Other People's Outsides

March 31, 2014 By Second Chance to Live

Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. I am happy to see you around my table. You are always welcome. Last week I shared that I had been struggling and frustrated. I also found myself angry as a result. I knew that the problem existed with me and not because of some one else. I was the one who was restless, irritable and discontent. I knew that I needed to examine the root. I wrote in a journal and spoke with a mentor of mine. Nevertheless, I still had a difficult time putting my finger on what what what was at the root of my funk.

Yesterday in my morning meditation I began to receive some clarity. I realized that I needed to get back to basics. You see I had fallen into the trap of comparing my lot in life with other peoples lot’s in life. By doing so I had allowed the expectations surrounding other people’s lots to be the expectations for my lot in life. In my awareness, I found that I had been judging my insides with other people’s outsides. In my awareness, I found that I had been experiencing a sense of shame for not being enough on my lot. In my awareness, I found that I had judged my being. 

What began to be clear to me was that I needed to stop judging what I was doing with my lot. What began to be clear to me was that I needed to focus on what I am doing with my lot. What became clear to me was that I needed to celebrate what I am building on my lot. What became clear to me was that I needed to stop judging my efforts by the expectations of what I perceived other people were building on their lot. What became clear to me was that I needed to see the value of what I am building on my lot, apart from what I perceived other people were building on their lots.

With this renewed awareness, I refocused my attention to my mission and vision. With this renewed awareness, I began to see the value of what I am creating on my lot. With this awareness, I saw the reality of my strengths. With this renewed awareness, I reminded myself of my being and my great value. With this renewed awareness, I was able to stop judging my insides, with the values that other people place on their lots. With this renewed awareness, I found the freedom to once again build on my lot. With this renewed awareness, I was able to root out of my funk.

“Regardless of your lot in life, you can build something beautiful on it.”  Zig Ziglar

Today’s thought

What other people build on their lot in life is none of our business. What we are building on our lot in life is none of their business. If I find myself judging my lot to another person’s lot, I need to re-focus. I need to re-focus my commitment to my mission and vision. I need to stay committed to building on my lot. By keeping the focus on my lot, I am able to keep from falling into the trap that occurs when I judge my insides with / to other people’s outsides.

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