Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. Please remember that you are always welcome around my table. In March of 2008 I wrote the below article. I feel led to revisit that article. Because of the length of the original article I have decided to present the article in 2 Parts. Below is Part 1. Have a simply phenomenal day. Craig
Please make sure to read Part 2 of this article for the conclusion. Thank you.
Good afternoon and welcome back to Second Chance to Live. I am glad you decided to stop by and visit with me. For the past several days I have been experiencing some unrest. In my unrest I found myself becoming anxious and fearful. In my state of mind I opened the door to feeling less than, inadequate and unlovable. As the door stayed open I allowed the recipe of fear and doubt to delude me into believing that my good was simply not good enough.
You see I allowed myself to slip back into believing that because I was not experiencing specific outcomes there was something wrong with me. Like a knee jerk reaction from of old, I experienced debilitating shame. Shame for not being “good” enough. In my attempt to invalidate my sense shame — that who I am and what I do is enough — I found myself comparing myself to other people. In my comparing I found myself experiencing a series of reactions.
None of these reactions provided a reprieve or alleviated my sense of inadequacy. Instead these reactions perpetuated the notion that I needed to answer, defend, and explain who I am to my sense of shame. Because I felt inadequate I experienced some jealousy toward some of my peers, who I perceive are receiving more opportunities than I am in life. I then experienced some frustration because I felt powerless.
In my powerlessness I bought into the notion that I needed to do more to be more in order to be given more. In my delusion I lost sight of my being. As I lost sight of my being, I found myself becoming competitive in an attempt to overcompensate for my insecurities.
Please read Part 2 for context. Thank you.
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Thanks for sharing your experience, surely it will be helpful to someone. Remember that you are always good enough. Feeling like you are not good enough does not make it true, nor does someone else not believing that you are, you simply are. It is only when you don’t believe that you are that you don’t show up as that wonderful person that you were created to be, but that person is always there, just waiting for you to know that he lives.
Hello La’Tonya,
Thank you so very much for taking the time to write to me. Thank you for your words of encouragement. You are a blessing to me my friend. I do not know if you are aware that I have a Part 2 of the article. Here is the link to Part 2 of the article. https://secondchancetolive.org/2009/09/25/traumatic-brain-injury-and-letting-go-of-control/. May I encourage you to read Part 2 of my article. I have augmented the title of that article to reflect the emphasis of the 2 part series — Traumatic Brain Injury — Letting Go of Control.
My writing style through out Second Chance to Live is about Identification. Please read my article, The Power of Identification https://secondchancetolive.org/2007/04/18/the-power-of-identification/. I share my experiences — although initially what I share in my articles may sound like I am focusing on the problem — and then I provide solutions to what I have learned that has empowered my process. My motivation in sharing my experience is to then share what I have learned through the situation or circumstance. As a rule, I steer away from pontificating or lecturing as I have found that neither one of these styles of communication are empowering.
You may like to know that I have a Site Map my friend. Here is the link to my Site Map https://secondchancetolive.org/site-map/. I currently have 485 articles listed — that I have written during the past 2 1/2 years since I created Second Chance to Live. I would invite you to visit my Site Map and read through my titles. I would also encourage you to then spend time from my listed articles.
My hope is that as you read though my articles you will be inspired, encouraged, motivated and empowered by hope.
I look forward to being of service to you La’Tonya. If you have any questions please do not hesitate to ask. Thank you.
Thank you again for your time and kindness! 🙂
Have a simply phenomenal day and may God bless both you and your family La’Tonya.
Craig
Thanks for sharing your experience, surely it will be helpful to someone. Remember that you are always good enough. Feeling like you are not good enough does not make it true, nor does someone else not believing that you are, you simply are. It is only when you don’t believe that you are that you don’t show up as that wonderful person that you were created to be, but that person is always there, just waiting for you to know that he lives.
Thanks for sharing your experience, surely it will be helpful to someone. Remember that you are always good enough. Feeling like you are not good enough does not make it true, nor does someone else not believing that you are, you simply are. It is only when you don’t believe that you are that you don’t show up as that wonderful person that you were created to be, but that person is always there, just waiting for you to know that he lives.