Questions to Help You Find Yourself After Brain Injury
Questions that may Help you to Find Yourself after your Traumatic or Acquired Brain Injury
Preface
Several days ago I wrote this article: How I was Able to Gain my Independence, Identity, and Control after My Traumatic Brain Injury? The below questions may help you also, as they have and continue to help me. Help me to gain independence, live my identity and purpose and own the power in my control.
Help you to find yourself after you sustained or acquired a brain injury, that may be invisible, too. Help you to gain independence, live your identity and purpose and own the power that is in your control.
My Suggestion
As you look over these questions I would encourage you to take out a piece of paper and begin to write. Write what comes to mind. What you write and how you express yourself does not have to be perfect. As you write you may be surprised by what you learn about yourself. Learn about yourself after your brain injury that will help you discover how to thrive in your life.
What I Discovered
What I discovered about myself helped me to know where other people end and I begin. What is good for me and what is not. Answers that I did not know until I asked myself. Answers that helped me be honest with myself. To learn how to accept myself when other people could or would not accept me.
Be honest and kind to myself, so that I could stop fighting with myself. Stop denying what I could not change, to change the things I could. So that I could stop trying to prove that my life was not impacted by a brain injury. To stop fighting with myself so that I could begin to create a good life in ways that would work.
The Various Questions
Why do I react?
Am I being bullied?
What is limiting me?
Am I lying to myself?
Whose truth am I living?
Have I given up too soon?
What am I telling myself?
What is holding me back?
What is keeping me stuck?
How am I cultivating hope?
Am I at peace with my past?
When will I find my destiny?
How am I looking at success?
How am I looking at adversity?
Am I dependent or independent?
Is my anger hurting or helping me?
How am I going to excel in my life?
What do I do when I face adversity?
Am I at peace with God and myself?
Has drama replaced living and why?
Where do I “fit” after my brain injury?
What is defining my worth and value?
How can I stop fighting against myself?
Am I asking “Why Me” or “Why not Me”?
Am I focusing on symptoms or solutions?
What am I doing to accomplish my goals?
How do I now learn after my brain injury?
What am I doing to create hope in my life?
What is keeping me in a ‘box” of limitation?
Why do I feel misunderstood and shunned?
What can I do to become more independent?
Am I living with limitations or opportunities?
Am I living with helplessness or hopefulness?
Is my brain injury making me bitter or better?
Is the group that I am in helping or hurting me?
Am I / do I challenge my brain injury awareness?
Am I looking at “what isn’t” instead of “what is”?
Am I moving from being bitter to becoming better?
What am I doing for improve the quality of my life?
What can I do about what I perceive is limiting me?
What can I do when circumstances change my plans?
Am I judging my insides with other people’s outsides?
Is my brain injury awareness making me bitter or better?
Am I identifying with people or comparing myself to them?
What am I doing to move from surviving to thriving in my life?
Am I OK with being a “square peg” in a world of “round holes”?
How do I keep from being pulled back into a “victim mentality”?
What is my destiny beyond the “box” of traditional employment?
What critical attitudes do I have toward myself and other people?
What am I doing to create dreams in my life after my brain injury?
Am I waiting for someone to accept me before I can accept myself?
What am I doing to replace negative thinking with positive messages?
What am I doing to empower the relationship that I have with myself?
Am I living in a “box” given to me or in a “box” that I created for myself?
Craig J. Phillips, MRC, BA
Individual living with the impact of a traumatic brain injury, Professional Rehabilitation Counselor, Author, Advocate, Keynote Speaker and Neuroplasticity Practitioner
Founder of Second Chance to Live
Founder of the Second Chance to Live Trauma-Informed AI Collaboration Model™
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