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Second Chance to Live

Empowering the Individual, Not the Brain Injury

Although You May Feel Stuck at Times, Don’t Give Up!

October 19, 2019 By Second Chance to Live

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  • To listen to and watch the video presentation of the article, click on this link: Although You May Feel Stuck at Times, Don’t Give Up! Video Presentation
  • In life, my friend, we may feel stuck. We may feel stuck because of what does not make sense. Make sense to us. Consequently, we may want to give up on ourselves and our dreams.
  • But the good news is that our circumstances do not have to dictate the course of our lives. Asking “Why?” no longer has to dictate the quality of our lives or the course of our dreams.
  • Asking “Why?” changes nothing beyond becoming aware. Becoming aware gives us the ability to accept what we can not change.
  • Change the course of our lives to pursue our dreams. Pursue the course of our dreams, although we may feel stuck at times.
  • Why Not Me
  • In my experience, I have found that when I think in terms of Why Me I revert to the notion that I am a victim of what is, instead of looking at the possibilities in “Why, not Me”.
  • By doing so, I am able to move in a new direction…the direction of my destiny.
  • I am able to replace doubt and cynicism with trust, a trust in a loving God to guide me.
  • I am able to stop living in the “What If’s” and start living in the “What Is”. I am able to start living in the now(s), instead of living in the past.
  • I am able to stop living in regret and start living in response.
  • “Regardless of your lot in life, you can build something beautiful on it.” Zig Ziglar
Although You May Feel Stuck at Times, Don't Give Up!
Although You May Feel Stuck at Times, Don’t Give Up!

To listen to and watch the video presentation of the article, click on this link: Although You May Feel Stuck at Times, Don’t Give Up! Video Presentation


In life, my friend, we may feel stuck. We may feel stuck because of what does not make sense. Make sense to us. Consequently, we may want to give up on ourselves and our dreams.

In the process, we may be asking, “Why?” “Why” has this happened to me? In the process, we may feel stuck by a set of circumstances. A set of circumstances that seem to dictate the course of our lives.

But the good news is that our circumstances do not have to dictate the course of our lives. Asking “Why?” no longer has to dictate the quality of our lives or the course of our dreams.


Asking “Why?” changes nothing beyond becoming aware. Becoming aware gives us the ability to accept what we can not change.

By accepting what we can not change we are given the ability to get into action. Get into action to change the course of our lives.

Change the course of our lives to pursue our dreams. Pursue the course of our dreams, although we may feel stuck at times.


“Every strike brings me closer to the next home run.” Babe Ruth

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” Thomas Edison

“Sometimes adversity is what you need to face in order to become successful.” Zig Ziglar

“In life, what happens to me is not as important as how I respond to what happens to me.” Craig J. Phillips MRC, BA

“One who gains strength by overcoming obstacles possesses the only strength which can overcome adversity.” Albert Schweitzer

“I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still, I can do something; and because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do something that I can do.” Helen Keller


In September 2012 I wrote the below article that I would like to share with you today.


Why Not Me

 Recently I was looking through some magazines looking for topics to write about and I came across the title, “Why Me”. I have been thinking about that title and wanted to share some of my thoughts on the topic. What came to mind is, “Why not Me”.


In my experience, I have found that when I think in terms of Why Me I revert to the notion that I am a victim of what is, instead of looking at the possibilities in “Why, not Me”.


In my experience, I discovered when I think in terms of “Why Not Me?”, I am given a gift. The gift of acceptance. By accepting what is, I am able to move beyond what is not and take advantage of a new set of circumstances. By doing so I move beyond believing that I am now somehow limited, to realizing that I have been given the opportunity to grow beyond my perceived limitations. By doing so, I am able to move beyond the notion that my life is somehow over.


By doing so, I am able to move in a new direction…the direction of my destiny.


So when I stop buying into the mindset of “Why Me” I am able to take back my power. I am able to begin to see life in a different way. I am able to see life as an adventure set forth in terms of learning curves and progress. I am able to see my destiny in terms of progress, not perfection. I am able to replace a fear of failure with the anticipation of what I am going to learn from my experience. I am able to replace my apprehension with tenacity and persistence.


I am able to replace doubt and cynicism with trust, a trust in a loving God to guide me.


I am able to stop trying to figure things out by myself. I am able to let go of my need to control outcomes. I am able to stop trying to anticipate how the dots of my footwork are going to connect. I am able to let go of how I think things should be in my life. I am able to trust that the pieces of the puzzle – that guide me to my destiny – will come together in the right order and at the right time. I am able to suit up and show up in life. I am able to trust that I will get what I need. I am able to use what I have been given, and stop comparing myself to other people.


I am able to stop living in the “What If’s” and start living in the “What Is”. I am able to start living in the now(s), instead of living in the past.

I am able to stop living in regret and start living in response.


“Regardless of your lot in life, you can build something beautiful on it.” Zig Ziglar


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