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My choice would determine whether I would be empowered– because of my reaction / button — or if I would continue to believe that I was a victim / martyr because of my reaction / button. I could take ownership and responsibility for why I reacted to the facilitator and examine what I needed to resolve in myself to disarm the power of that reaction / button. I could internalize, justify or deny that I had anything to do with how I reacted to the situation and the facilitator. Lastly, I could actively persecute the situation and facilitator for why I reacted and thus make them responsible for my restlessness, anger and discontent — my button.
Through my experience I have found that the latter two choices have left me feeling alienated. Alienated from people, places and things as well as from myself. I have found that my critical nature — when I am not taking responsibility for my reactions / buttons invariabley wynds up swallowing me. In addition I have found that when I revert to the latter two choices I gravitate towards believing that I am a victim of my circumstances. Conversely, my experience has proven that by taking responsibility for my reactions and buttons — why I react to people, places and things — my process is empowered.
I decided to use my first choice and take ownership / responsibility for why I reacted to the facilitator and examine what I needed to resolve in myself to disarm the power of that reaction / button.
My experience has taught me that my buttons can not be pushed with out my consent. Consequently, I am able to recognize that my circumstances — reactions and buttons — are meant for my good and not for my harm. Therefore, I am released from the notion that my circumstances are meant to keep me down. With my understanding I know that my reactions and buttons occur to build me up and not tear me down.
“…no one can make you feel inferior with out your permission.” Eleanor Roosevelt
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