4
Sep

My Trip to My Mom’s Birthday Video Presentation

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Several days ago I wrote an article, My Trip to My Mom’s Birthday in which I shared an important lesson. In today’s article I would like to share the information with in the article in video format. I believe the information will benefit you too. Below is an except from the article.

“I have not written recently because I have been out-of-town visiting my Mom to celebrate her birthday. I returned home late last night and have been busy getting things done today, after being away for 5 days. In this article I would like to share part of my journey with you. I have come to realize that it is, and when it is as it is, my job is to adapt. Let me explain. After flying from Charlotte to Dallas I had a connection that needed to be made in a different terminal. n order to get to that terminal, terminal E — the only one that is not connected to the other terminals A, B, C and D — I needed to take Sky link. So up the elevator I went to get on the Sky link to take me to terminal E, however when I arrived at the top; the Sky link was not working.”

To learn from what I discovered, in video format; you may click on this link: My Trip to My Mom’s Birthday Video Presentation

To read the article from which this video presentation is made, you may click on this link: My Trip to My Mom’s Birthday

You have my permission to share my articles and or video presentations with anyone you believe could benefit, however please attribute me as being the author of the article (s) video presentation (s), and provide a link back to the article (s) on Second Chance to Live. In the event that you have questions, please send those questions to me. All questions are good questions. Thank you. I look forward to hearing from you. Copyright 2007-2015.

31
Aug

THE POWER OF KIND WORDS

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Our lives can impact millions of lives’, one life at a time

In yesterday’s article My Trip to my Mom’s Birthday I spoke about a lesson that I learned through my travels. In today’s article I would like to share a blessing that I received after I returned home from visiting with my Mom and celebrating her birthday. The blessing that I received was in the form of an email, that I would like to share with you. The email came from a lady that I interacted with for a brief period of time on a returning flight.

“Hello, Craig!  Just wanted to say thank you one more time for helping me put my suitcase up on the flight from Phoenix to Dallas!  You are such a powerful personality.  It wasn’t just me, I saw how you interacted with everyone around us on that flight.  You are such a breath of fresh air.  Thank you for being you!” Dawn H.

Her kind email was just what I needed, a word of encouragement; to encourage me to keep being myself in my interactions. 

Thank you so very much Dawn. Your kindness in taking the time to write and send your email helped me tremendously, as I sometimes wonder if being who I am — in my desire to encourage, motivate, empower and share hope — is making a difference as I go about my business.

“Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.” Mother Teresa

“Do not wait for leaders; do it alone, person to person.” Mother Teresa

For many years I felt like some one all dressed up with nowhere to go, despite my hard work and determination. When I reached a point in time when I realized that I could not contribute in a traditional setting, my focus changed. I realized that I needed to create a way to contribute in a way that would work for me. In the below 2 part written article and video presentation I share what that process looked like to me. That is when I set out to find a way that would work for me — a way to use my gifts, talents and abilities — through Second Chance to Live and Create a Spark of Hope

Answering the Call that Never Came — Pursuing Our Destinies Part 1

Answering the Call that Never Came — Pursuing Our Destinies Part 2

Answering the Call that Never Came — Pursuing Our Destinies Part 1 and Part 2 Video Presentation

Dawn’s email made a huge difference because I was questioning my efforts through Second Chance to Live and Create a Spark of Hope. Her email gave me the “shot in the arm” that I definitely needed. Thank you again Dawn!!! God used you in a BIG WAY in my life my friend!!!

Today’s Thought

My encouragement to you is to keep being who you are, as you go about your business. Although you may have people who overtly or covertly discourage you from being you, keep being yourself. Realize that the impact of your life is creating echoes and ripples. You are creating a “foot print” on your generation. Look for people to be kind to as you live your life. Realize that your life is having a profound impact on people in your world and be encouraged.

“Do not judge your day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds you plant.” Robert Louis Stevenson

You have my permission to share my articles and or video presentations with anyone you believe could benefit, however please attribute me as being the author of the article (s) video presentation (s), and provide a link back to the article (s) on Second Chance to Live. In the event that you have questions, please send those questions to me. All questions are good questions. Thank you. I look forward to hearing from you. Copyright 2007-2015.

30
Aug

My Trip to My Mom’s Birthday

Mom 89 010I have not written recently because I have been out-of-town visiting my Mom to celebrate her birthday. I returned home late last night and have been busy getting things done today, after being away for 5 days. In this article I would like to share part of my journey with you. I have come to realize that it is what it is, and when it is as it is, my job is to adapt. Let me explain. After flying from Charlotte to Dallas I had a connection that needed to be made in a different terminal. In order to get to that terminal, terminal E — the only one that is not connected to the other terminals A, B, C and D — I needed to take Sky link. So up the elevator I went to get on the Sky link to take me to terminal E, however when I arrived at the top; the Sky link was not working.

I was told that there was some computer issues that were interfering that needed to be repaired. So I waited and waited hoping the Sky Link would be back up and running. Well, after an hour I decided that I needed to follow an alternative plan. I found out that I would need to leave terminal C, get on a bus to be able to get to terminal E and then go through security again, once I had arrived at terminal E. Thank God that I had a long layover between my first and second flight. So I left terminal C and found where I was supposed to wait for the bus, which turned out to have a 12 seat capacity. I was the 13th person onto the bus and was told that I would have to get off. I pleaded and two ladies were kind enough to create a space between them so that I sit down to be able to travel to terminal E.

After about what seemed to be a 15 minute bus ride, we arrived at terminal E. I walked through the door, to a long line waiting to funnel through TSA.  I am glad that I stayed aware as the person screening luggage took my carry on off the belt. He needed to re screen because of an error on his part. Thankfully, after imploring him to send my carry on through the x-ray machine; my carry on luggage was cleared by TSA and I was off to my connecting flight. I am grateful that I made my connecting flight and arrived on time to be picked up to go to my Mom’s house. Lesson learned is that when there is a problem noted — that is out of my control when traveling — deploy plan B, as matters may not change, as was the case with Sky link.

Upon arriving at terminal E, I looked up and saw that the Sky link was still not in operation. I am so glad that I made the decision to deploy plan B.

You have my permission to share my articles and or video presentations with anyone you believe could benefit, however please attribute me as being the author of the article (s) video presentation (s), and provide a link back to the article (s) on Second Chance to Live. In the event that you have questions, please send those questions to me. All questions are good questions. Thank you. I look forward to hearing from you. Copyright 2007-2015.

23
Aug

A Powerful Tool — Written or Verbal Documentation Video Presentation

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To protect yourself from all angles of attack

Several day’s ago I wrote and published the article A Powerful Tool — Written or Verbal Documentation. In today’s article I would like to offer the article in video format, for individuals who learn more through watching and listening. Below is a brief excerpt from the article: 

“In today’s article, I would like to speak to a tool that has served me many times as I interact with individuals and groups of individuals. This tool has given me peace of mind, eliminated a he said / she said discourse of convolution and aided in me in the process of keeping my side of the street clean. Although I am powerless over what other people say and do, I am not powerless over stating my truth, perception and my motivation.

The tool that I am referring to is the tool of documentation. In essence what documentation establishes (verbally or written documentation) is to let you know, that I know, that we know. Documentation helps me to nip, being misrepresented; in the bud.

To listen to a watch the video presentation of the article, you may click on the following link: A Powerful Tool — Written or Verbal Documentation Video Presentation

To read the complete article, you may click on the following link: A Powerful Tool — Written or Verbal Documentation

You have my permission to share my articles and or video presentations with anyone you believe could benefit, however please attribute me as being the author of the article (s) video presentation (s), and provide a link back to the article (s) on Second Chance to Live. In the event that you have questions, please send those questions to me. All questions are good questions. Thank you. I look forward to hearing from you. Copyright 2007-2015.

23
Aug

How to Stop Pushing People Away Video Presentation

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Several days ago I wrote the article, How to Stop Pushing People Away. In today’s article I would like to share that article in video format. I create video presentations of my articles to provide the information in a format that empowers individuals who learn through watching and listening. Below is a brief excerpt from the article:

“In yesterday’s article, Is Life Making You Bitter or Better? I spoke about a decision that each of us are faced with given our history and life’s experiences. With that decision comes a personal accountability and responsibility, to both ourselves and other people. How we respond to that accountability and responsibility will undoubtedly impact both our well-being and our relationships. What helps and gives me comfort in this process is to recognize that life is always teaching. What determines whether I learn from what life is teaching me is my willingness.

A willingness to be willing to process my feelings and reactions to what makes me uncomfortable. Being uncomfortable, I have found; usually indicates that I need to look at some thing in my own life. Essentially, my reactions are my reality. If I am reacting to some thing in someone, my reaction is more than likely about me than about the other person. The other person or situation is merely reflecting or acting out what I don’t like about myself. The other person , in essence; is a mirror of what I may be denying and don’t want to look or see in myself.”

To watch and listen to the video presentation of the article, you may click on this link: How to Stop Pushing People Away Video Presentation

To read the entire article, you may click on this link: How to Stop Pushing People Away

You have my permission to share my articles and or video presentations with anyone you believe could benefit, however please attribute me as being the author of the article (s) video presentation (s), and provide a link back to the article (s) on Second Chance to Live. In the event that you have questions, please send those questions to me. All questions are good questions. Thank you. I look forward to hearing from you. Copyright 2007-2015.

20
Aug

Living with Limitations and NOT Giving UP on Ourselves

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At the end of April 2007 I wrote an article that I would like to speak to in this article. The article, Following your bliss…regardless.

In life, events, circumstances and disappointments may redirect our experience. In an instant — like a switch on a railroad — life events can set us in the opposite direction of our hopes and dreams. In the process our hopes, dreams, and aspirations may be dashed. We may have lost limbs or suffered permanent brain damage. Our damaged bodies may subsequently limit our abilities. Consequently, we may be sad, angry or even bitter with life. But that does not have to be the end of the story. I want to share something with you that revolutionized my world. I am more than a survivor.

Please read my article Moving Beyond a Survivor Mindset.

Who I am on the inside matters more than who I am on the outside. My body may be broken and battered by an injury. I may not be as smart as I used to be before my disability. And I may be discouraged at times, but that does not change my passion. I need to remember this reality. I am not my disability, my limitations or my deficits. My passion resides within my being and is not dependent upon the shape of my body or my mind. Because my passions lie at the core of my being I can learn how to channel my creative energy even thou I may have a disability, deficits or limitations.

My passion provides the mechanism that empowers my gifts, talents and abilities. As I follow, develop and learn to channel my passions, the fruit of my purpose becomes apparent. My passions are channeled through my gifts, talents and abilities. My gifts, talents and abilities echo my passions. My passions subsequently point me in the direction of my destiny. In the process I experience my purpose. In the process I fulfill God’s will for my life — one day at a time. My encouragement to you my friend is that you do not let anyone lead you to believe that your set of circumstances count you out.

Please read my article Stay Committed to Your Course — Run Your Own Race

Although I have limitations because I sustained a traumatic brain injury I am not limited. Although you may have limitations because of your disability, you are not limited. Regardless, of how you or I came to be disabled we do not have to give up on our passions. We can learn how to channel those passions in ways that work for us. We can learn to experience life more abundantly. We no longer need to buy in to the notion that our circumstance are meant to keep us down. Instead we can learn to use our circumstances to build us up and in the process empower our dreams.

We can learn to use our set of circumstances to enhance both our lives and the lives of individuals who touch our lives. 

Today’s Thought

Be encouraged my friend. Your are a gift to your world. Our traumatic brain injury / disability is not meant for our harm. In reality what we have been given is a gift. What we thought was meant for our harm will be used for our good. Your disability will direct your life — like the switch on the railroad of life — in the direction of your destinies. Don’t let anyone tell you or lead you to believe that you are limited. You can learn how to use your passions in ways that will enhance both your life and the lives of individuals who come into your world. More will be revealed to you in time.

Follow your passions. Follow your bliss. Take the time to breathe because you will learn how to channel your passions in ways that work for you. Do not give up on yourself or on your journey. You are on the right path. Be encouraged my friend. You will find your way. Only believe. And if you have a hard time believing, believe because I believe. You can trust the process, a loving God and yourself. More will be revealed to us. The pieces of the puzzle will come together at the right time and in the right order. What may be hidden or unclear to us now, will take on new meaning.

DON’T Give up On Yourself.

You have my permission to share my articles and or video presentations with anyone you believe could benefit, however please attribute me as being the author of the article (s) video presentation (s), and provide a link back to the article (s) on Second Chance to Live. In the event that you have questions, please send those questions to me. All questions are good questions. Thank you. I look forward to hearing from you. Copyright 2007-2015.

18
Aug

Subscribe to Second Chance to Live by Email

Several weeks ago, I moved from secondchancetolive.wordpress.com to secondchancetolive.org. In the process, my email subscription may have stopped working for you to receive updates to Second Chance to Live. I have remedied that a little while ago by including a way for you to sign up to receive updates to secondchancetolive.org. At the top of my right side bar on my home page, there is a BUTTON. Click on that button, enter your email address, click on add, confirm your desire to receive email updates and you will begin to receive updates of my articles in your email inbox.

I look forward to your subscribing, sharing my articles and video presentations with you and being able to be of service to you. As you read my articles or watch my video presentations and questions come to mind, please send those questions to me. All questions are good questions. I look forward to hearing from you. In the event that you would like to leave a comment or a suggestion, I would love to hear from you. Below are a list of my articles and video presentations previously published on Second Chance to Live.

To see a list of articles previously written and published on Second Chance to Live, you may click on this link: Article Archives

To see a list of video presentations created and published on Second Chance to Live, you may click on this link: Video Presentations Archives

You have my permission to share my articles and or video presentations with anyone you believe could benefit, however please attribute me as being the author of the article (s) video presentation (s), and provide a link back to the article (s) on Second Chance to Live. In the event that you have questions, please send those questions to me. All questions are good questions. Thank you. I look forward to hearing from you. Copyright 2007-2015.

18
Aug

A Powerful Tool — Written or Verbal Documentation

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In today’s article, I would like to speak to a tool that has served me many times as I interact with individuals and groups of individuals. This tool has given me peace of mind, eliminated a he said / she said discourse of convolution and aided in me in the process of keeping my side of the street clean. Although I am powerless over what other people say and do, I am not powerless over stating my truth, perception and my motivation.

The tool that I am referring to is the tool of documentation. In essence what documentation establishes (verbally or written documentation) is to let you know, that I know, that we know. Documentation helps me to nip, being misrepresented; in the bud. 

During the past several weeks I have had situations arise through my interactions, that have been emotionally charged. Once these situations occurred I took steps to verbally document what occurred with a person in authority connected to the interaction, who may or may not have seen what occurred. I then took further steps to insulate myself by speaking with several other individuals in the tier of authority with in the establishment.

I took further steps by speaking to other people with in the tier of authority to protect myself from being misrepresented by miscommunication among the individuals with in the tier of authority. By doing so I set and put in safe guards and a buffer.

Although I am powerless over the outcome from the “emotionally charged” events, I am able to take steps to protect myself from being misrepresented. In the event that I said some thing, which I did in one of the events during the past several weeks; I can then take steps to making an amends. Through having documented the events that transpired — with the various individuals in the tier of authority — I was able to be clean with the entire process.

Documentation, I have found (either verbally or in writing) serves to curtail anxiety as I work to keep my side of the street clean. 

Today’s Thought

In the event that you have emotionally charged interactions with people or groups of people — that have the potential of stirring up anxiety — take steps to eliminate being misrepresented. Speak with the individuals who are in a tier of authority or write them a letter documenting the events,  your perception and motivation surrounding the interaction(s). By taking steps to document, you will reduce anxiety in yourself and keep the entire process clean.

You have my permission to share my articles and or video presentations with anyone you believe could benefit, however please attribute me as being the author of the article (s) video presentation (s), and provide a link back to the article (s) on Second Chance to Live. In the event that you have questions, please send those questions to me. All questions are good questions. Thank you. I look forward to hearing from you. Copyright 2007-2015.

12
Aug

How to Stop Pushing People Away

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In yesterday’s article, Is Life Making You Bitter or Better? I spoke about a decision that each of us are faced with given our history and life’s experiences. With that decision comes a personal accountability and responsibility, to both ourselves and other people. How we respond to that accountability and responsibility will undoubtedly impact both our well-being and our relationships. What helps and gives me comfort in this process is to recognize that life is always teaching. What determines whether I learn from what life is teaching me is my willingness.

A willingness to be willing to process my feelings and reactions to what makes me uncomfortable. Being uncomfortable, I have found; usually indicates that I need to look at some thing in my own life. Essentially, my reactions are my reality. If I am reacting to some thing in someone, my reaction is more than likely about me than about the other person. The other person or situation is merely reflecting or acting out what I don’t like about myself. The other person , in essence; is a mirror of what I may be denying and don’t want to look or see in myself.

In my experience, until I was willing and able to look at what life was teaching me I felt like a pinball, that ricocheted off of a series of resentments, discouragements and disappointments. Unknowingly, this manner of relating to people, places and things left me drained, depleted and feeling helpless. This manner of relating to people, places and things led me to believe that I needed to defend, answer and explain myself. Although I spent much of my time and energy seeking to endure and survive circumstances, to feel safe; I rarely felt quite secure.

In my experience, when I reached a point in time when I realized that relating to people, places and things in the above manner was no longer working, I made some practical and life changing decisions for myself. I made the decision that I no longer wanted to merely be a survivor, tossed about by my reactions to people, places and things. With this decision, I realized that some thing needed to change. I realized that I needed to embark on a new way of living. I realized that I needed to use my time and energy in more productive ways, by examining why I reacted.

As I took the time to examine why I reacted to people places and things, some thing began to change in me. I began to realize that I was / am powerless over people, places and things. With this awareness, it also became apparent to me that I was / am the only one who I can change. With these awareness’, I came to realize that although I am powerless over being able to change people, places and things, I am not powerless to change how I react to people, places and things. With is realization, I began to grasp the reality that I could experience a new freedom in my life.

With this awareness, I began to realize that I had a choice in the matter. Whether I stayed bitter or got better. Whether I experienced a new freedom or whether I stayed stuck in life . With my awareness, I began to realize that the choice was / is entirely up to me.

With my new way of living and through my recovery process, I discovered that I could stop being bitter by ceasing to make other people, places and things responsible for my choices. By making the choice to stop putting the blame on people, places and things — for my reactions — I discovered that the energy once used to maintain resentment and bitterness became available. Available to enhance and make my life, as I related to people, places and things; better. Available to invite and cultivate relationships with people, instead of pushing those people away from me.

Through taking responsibility and by being accountable to myself and for my reactions I discovered that my life became more manageable by changing the things  that I could — myself. 

“When we are no longer able to change a situation – we are challenged to change ourselves.” Viktor E. Frankl

“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” Reinhold Niebuhr

You have my permission to share my articles and or video presentations with anyone you believe could benefit, however please attribute me as being the author of the article (s) video presentation (s), and provide a link back to the article (s) on Second Chance to Live. In the event that you have questions, please send those questions to me. All questions are good questions. Thank you. I look forward to hearing from you. Copyright 2007-2015.

5
Aug

Second Chance to Live, a Metamorphosis and a New Look Video Presentation

With the help of a friend, I recently completed the move from wordpress.com to a managed wordpress self-hosted web sites on Godaddy, for both secondchancetolive.org and createasparkofhope.com. In today’s article I will share a video presentation of the article notifying my readers of the change. Below is the article.

To listen to and watch the presentation of the article, you may click on this link: Second Chance to Live, a Metamorphosis and a New Look Video Presentation

In one of my early articles, The Flight of the Butterfly; I spoke to the principle of metamorphosis and the importance of struggle for the butterfly to be able to fulfill it’s purpose. With out struggle the caterpillar could not experience a second chance to live as a butterfly. And so, struggle is an essential part of the process that allows both you and I to experience a second chance to live to fulfill the purpose for which we were created to become in this life. Struggle gives us the ability to achieve what we otherwise may not be able to accomplish with our lives.

In my last article, Second Chance to Live –1400th Article — Special Edition; I shared with you that I was in the process of moving from secondchancetolive.wordpress.com to secondchancetolive.org. In this article, I wanted to write to let you know that the move has been completed. With the move comes a new look. I have changed the look of Second Chance to Live to make Second Chance to Live increasingly mobile friendly. The metamorphosis of Second Chance to Live will hopefully bring about an ever-increasing ability to be of service.

I am in the process of researching the best way to provide an email subscription service to individuals, who may be interested in receiving updates to my articles as I publish them. When a decision is made, I will write an article with that information. Thank you for your patience in this process.

You have my permission to share my articles and or video presentations with anyone you believe could benefit, however please attribute me as being the author of the article (s) video presentation (s), and provide a link back to the article (s) on Second Chance to Live. In the event that you have questions, please send those questions to me. All questions are good questions. Thank you. I look forward to hearing from you. Copyright 2007-2015.

 

5
Aug

Second Chance to Live –1400th Article — Special Edition Video Presentation

Several weeks ago I wrote and published the article, Second Chance to Live — 1400th Article — Special Edition. Below is the article. Today, I am going to create a video presentation of the article for individuals who learn through watching and listening. As you listen to and watch the presentation and questions come to mind, please send those questions to me. All questions are good questions.

To listen to and watch the video presentation of the article, you may click on this link: Second Chance to Live –1400th Article — Special Edition Video Presentation

Today’s article marks my 1400th article written since creating Second Chance to Live on February 6, 2007. Since creating Second Chance to Live some exciting events have taken place. Earlier this year I created 5 e Books to consolidate some of my articles and video presentations.

Below are links to my 5 e Books that are free for download

Living with a Brain Injury eBook Putting the Pieces in Place 60 Video Presentations (PDF file)

Being Your own Hero through Overcoming Adversity – Tool for Rebuilding Your Life e Book

Living with a brain injury and Building Self-Esteem and Self-Acceptance e Book 

Living with a Brain Injury, Making Sense of Why and What is my Destiny? e Book

Living with a Brain Injury, What Helped Me to Stop being my Enemy and Create a life for Myself e Book

On June 16, 2015 I launched a second website, Create a Spark of Hope; to share principles of recovery that have helped me to remove blocks and create hope in my life during the past 48+ years post traumatic brain injury.

In the last several weeks I have taken steps to have my own “real estate” on the world-wide web. My websites can now be found at the below addresses:

Second Chance to Live at secondchancetolive.org and Create a Spark of Hope at createasparkofhope.com.

With a help of a friend, I am in the process of moving Second Chance to Live and Create a Spark of Hope.

Once the move has been completed, I will write an article to let you know; so that you can begin reading article at those locations.

  For the time being, no changes need to be made on your end.

I look forward to continuing to write, publish and create video presentations.

Have a great day.

Craig

You have my permission to share my articles and or video presentations with anyone you believe could benefit, however please attribute me as being the author of the article (s) video presentation (s), and provide a link back to the article (s) on Second Chance to Live. In the event that you have questions, please send those questions to me. All questions are good questions. Thank you. I look forward to hearing from you. Copyright 2007-2015.

3
Aug

Second Chance to Live, a Metamorphosis and a New Look

In one of my early articles, The Flight of the Butterfly; I spoke to the principle of metamorphosis and the importance of struggle for the butterfly to be able to fulfill it’s purpose. With out struggle the caterpillar could not experience a second chance to live as a butterfly. And so, struggle is an essential part of the process that allows both you and I to experience a second chance to live to fulfill the purpose for which we were created to become in this life. Struggle gives us the ability to achieve what we otherwise may not be able to accomplish with our lives.

In my last article, Second Chance to Live –1400th Article — Special Edition; I shared with you that I was in the process of moving from secondchancetolive.wordpress.com to secondchancetolive.org. In this article, I wanted to write to let you know that the move has been completed. With the move comes a new look. I have changed the look of Second Chance to Live to make Second Chance to Live increasingly mobile friendly. The metamorphosis of Second Chance to Live will hopefully bring about an ever increasing ability to be of service.

I am in the process of researching the best way to provide an email subscription service to individuals, who may be interested in receiving updates to my articles as I publish them. When a decision is made, I will write an article with that information. Thank you for your patience in this process.

 You have my permission to share my articles and or video presentations with anyone you believe could benefit, however please attribute me as being the author of the article (s) video presentation (s), and provide a link back to the article (s) on Second Chance to Live. In the event that you have questions, please send those questions to me. All questions are good questions. Thank you. I look forward to hearing from you. Copyright 2007-2015.

23
Jul

Second Chance to Live –1400th Article — Special Edition

Today’s article marks my 1400th article written since creating Second Chance to Live on February 6, 2007. Since creating Second Chance to Live some exciting events have taken place. Earlier this year I created 5 e Books to consolidate some of my articles and video presentations.

Below are links to my 5 e Books that are free for download

Living with a Brain Injury eBook Putting the Pieces in Place 60 Video Presentations (PDF file)

Being Your own Hero through Overcoming Adversity – Tool for Rebuilding Your Life e Book

Living with a brain injury and Building Self-Esteem and Self-Acceptance e Book 

Living with a Brain Injury, Making Sense of Why and What is my Destiny? e Book

Living with a Brain Injury, What Helped Me to Stop being my Enemy and Create a life for Myself e Book

On June 16, 2015 I launched a second website, Create a Spark of Hope; to share principles of recovery that have helped me to remove blocks and create hope in my life during the past 48+ years post traumatic brain injury.

In the last several weeks I have taken steps to have my own “real estate” on the world-wide web. My websites can now be found at the below addresses:

Second Chance to Live at secondchancetolive.org and Create a Spark of Hope at createasparkofhope.com.

With a help of a friend, I am in the process of moving Second Chance to Live and Create a Spark of Hope.

Once the move has been completed, I will write an article to let you know; so that you can begin reading article at those locations.

  For the time being, no changes need to be made on your end.

I look forward to continuing to write, publish and create video presentations.

Have a great day.

Craig

You have my permission to share my articles and or video presentations with anyone you believe could benefit, however please attribute me as being the author of the article (s) video presentation (s), and provide a link back to the article (s) on Second Chance to Live. In the event that you have questions, please send those questions to me. All questions are good questions. Thank you. I look forward to hearing from you. Copyright 2007-2015.

22
Jul

Resentment and The Power of Forgiveness Video Presentation

Several weeks ago I wrote and published the article, Resentment and The Power of Forgiveness. Today I will publish a video presentation of the article. Below is a brief excerpt of the article.

 “Forgiveness is unlocking the door to set someone free and realizing you were the prisoner!” Max Lucado

Last night I attended a support group meeting the topic of forgiveness was tabled for discussion. I listened to what people shared and when it came time for me to share. I shared my perspective. In my experience, I have found that resentments stem from unforgiveness and unforgiveness many times can be traced to expectations that have not been met or fulfilled. In my experience, I have found I may  not even be aware of the reasons for resentment (s) until a current event reminds me of my resentment(s).

Resentment (s), unchecked and unresolved; smolder like lava beneath a volcano. Resentment (s), unchecked and unresolved, grow like a malignant tumor slowly destroying beneath the surface. Resentment (s), unchecked and unresolved; come out sideways, as the lava of unforgivenesss, through anger; oozes out at unpredictable and unexpected times. Resentment (s) unchecked and unresolved; leave banished souls in their wake. Banished from relationships, hopes and dreams that might have been.

“Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.” Carrie Fisher
 
“Bitterness and resentment only hurt one person, and it’s not the person we’re resenting – it’s us.” Alana Stewart

 “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of harming another; you end up getting burned.” Author unknown

“Resentments leave me stuck believing that I am a victim of some thing that I am powerless to change. The good news is that as I let go of the resentment (s), I am able to stop believing that I am a victim over that which I am powerless to change.” Craig J. Phillips MRC, BA 

But there is good news. I have found that resentments can be checked and resolved through a process. The process involves being honest with myself, taking the time to examine who I am resentful at, the cause of my resentment, how the resentment impacts (impacted) my — self-esteem, personal relationships, finances, material goods, security, ambitions and my emotional well-being and what were my motives that resulted in my becoming resentful (what part did my motives play in forming the resentment).”

To watch and listen to the video presentation of the article, you may click on this link: Resentment and The Power of Forgiveness Video Presentation

To read the article from which this video presentation in made, you may click on this link: Resentment and The Power of Forgiveness

You have my permission to share my articles and or video presentations with anyone you believe could benefit, however please attribute me as being the author of the article (s) video presentation (s), and provide a link back to the article (s) on Second Chance to Live. In the event that you have questions, please send those questions to me. All questions are good questions. Thank you. I look forward to hearing from you. Copyright 2007-2015.

 

22
Jul

What’s Holding You Back? Video Presentation

Several weeks ago I wrote and published the article, What’s Holding You Back? Today, I am going to make a video presentation of the article. Below is a brief excerpt from the article:

“I attended a support group meeting earlier today. The topic that was selected was spiritual awakenings. The discussion was set and people began to share their experiences with spiritual awakenings. When the time came for me to share, this is what I discovered through my recovery process. First, I discovered that I had transferred my relationship with my Dad on to my relationship with God. The relationship I had with my Dad was one in which my good was rarely good enough, to be enough. I experienced a come close go away relationship with my Dad.

That coupled with being blamed, shamed and made to feel responsible for the criticism that I received for not being good enough. I internalized the message that I was therefore not worth being enough, to be able to count on my Dad. In my desire to please my Dad I strove all the more to gain his approval, which only came when I worked  to meet his expectations. I also felt responsible for the reason why my Dad did not give me his approval, because I clearly did not prove my worth and value in his eyes. As an adult I continued to seek the approval of surrogate “dads”.

Through my recovery process I discovered that much of my approval seeking and people pleasing was driven by my desire to gain my Dad’s approval. What I discovered through my recovery process was that I had transferred my concept of God from my relationship with my Dad. I am not blaming my Dad, for he did the best he knew how to do; probably because of the example that his Dad set with him. Although I am not, I imagine being a Dad is very difficult. What I discovered through my recovery process was that I needed to forgive my Dad, to make peace with God.”

To watch and listen to the video presentation of the article, you may click on this link: What’s Holding You Back? Video Presentation

To read the article from which this video presentation is made, you may click on this link: What’s Holding You Back?

 You have my permission to share my articles and or video presentations with anyone you believe could benefit, however please attribute me as being the author of the article (s) video presentation (s), and provide a link back to the article (s) on Second Chance to Live. In the event that you have questions, please send those questions to me. All questions are good questions. Thank you. I look forward to hearing from you. Copyright 2007-2015.

 

19
Jul

Limbic System, Fight or Flight Response and Brain Injury Recovery

My friend, Mr. Ken Collins; has been speaking about the need to consider how the Limbic System and the flight or flight response affects individuals living with brain injuries with regard to stress. Understanding how stress impacts the manner in which individuals respond and relate to life plays a major role in each individuals recovery process. The fight or flight response can be exacerbated by a number of factors in the lives of individuals living with the impact of a brain injury.  The reaction to these factors, for individuals living with brain injuries; can be accelerated and exacerbated by filters in the brain that have been damaged due to a brain injury.

Understanding how these filters have been damaged due to an injury to a brain injury can be very helpful. Understanding how these damaged filters impact how individuals react to the fight or flight process can be pivotal in the individuals recovery process. By understanding how these filters have been damaged, the individual then can take steps to monitor and use different techniques to process the stress. Through being aware of how they react to stress, individuals can in turn use the stress to empower their lives. Instead of being a reactor to the stress or, through a fight or flight response; the individual can take steps to be empowered by each stressful situation or event that occurs in their lives.

In my experience, I have found that many stressful events, evoking a “fight or flight response” in present day events; have their origins in past events.

The fight or flight response can unconsciously be triggered by unresolved issues or resentments experienced in the body, soul and spirit of the individual. These reactions can be exacerbated by damage to the filters in the brain that regulate impulse control. These unconscious reactions can unknowingly create negative consequences in an individual’s life, unless identified and addressed to a positive resolution. Techniques to quiet the “storm” at the time of the “stress-or” help to relieve the “stress or”. Facing, addressing and overcoming triggers, evoking the  current stress / flight or flight response; can result in reducing future related stress.

“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” Albert Einstein

Through the articles and video presentations that I have written, published and created for Second Chance to Live; I have spoken to facing, addressing and overcoming stress producing stimuli. With out being aware, I am prone to being victimized by repeating what has not worked for me, created unrest and stress in my life. By facing, addressing and working to overcome the  effect of “stress ors” in my mind, body and spirit I find that I am less susceptible to reacting to those stress ors. Through being aware, I am able to make different and better choices in my life. Through using principles and strategies, I find that I am less prone to reacting to my life and more prone to responding to my life.

Facing, addressing and overcoming stress is and continues to be a process for me, as I encounter stress in my life. I have not arrived, but I am glad that I have the tools to face, address and overcome the impact of stress ors in my life. I am grateful that I do not have be controlled by the fight or flight response. I am grateful to be aware of the fight or flight response and to have the tools to help me respond to what occurs in my life, instead of subconsciously or unconsciously reacting; to what occurs in my life. I am grateful that I have tools to make peace with my past in my present, so that “stress ors” related to my past do not continue to control how I respond in my present, as I live my life.

Make Peace with Your Past, so that Your Past Does Not Spoil Your Present

Thank you Mr. Ken Collins for the important work that you are doing to bring awareness and understanding to how the Limbic System and the fight or flight response impacts the lives of individuals living with brain injuries.    

 You have my permission to share my articles and or video presentations with anyone you believe could benefit, however please attribute me as being the author of the article (s) video presentation (s), and provide a link back to the article (s) on Second Chance to Live. In the event that you have questions, please send those questions to me. All questions are good questions. Thank you. I look forward to hearing from you. Copyright 2007-2015.

 

17
Jul

Recognizing, Addressing and Overcoming Blocks to Recovery

In my experience and through my recovery process I discovered that there were various blocks that impeded my ability to create a life for myself. In my experience I discovered how to recognize, address and work to overcome those blocks. I launched Create a Spark of Hope on June 16, 2015 to share, in a methodical and progressive manner; the blocks that I discovered through my recovery process that hindered my ability to be aware, accept and then create a life for myself as an individual living with the impact of a brain injury and an invisible disability.

Through my recovery process, I discovered that living with the impact of a brain injury and an invisible disability were secondary to these blocks. Living with a brain injury and invisible disability created a puzzle in and of itself, however until I began to recognize and address these blocks I found myself stuck and bewildered as I ran into one wall after another wall as I attempted to create a life for myself.

Create a Spark of Hope is an ongoing distillation of the principles and strategies that I have shared through my nearly 1400 articles and 273 video presentations published on Second Chance to Live and uploaded to You Tube.  That is why I encourage my readers to start from the beginning of my Site Map of Articles on Create a Spark of Hope and read forward. The principles and strategies can help anyone create a life for themselves, regardless of the adversity they may be facing in their lives due to a disability or some other life changing event / circumstance.

The high lighted links that you see in this paragraph are links to the progression of articles posted in my Site Map of Articles on Create a Spark of Hope. I would invite you to click on each link to read through the progression of articles. By doing so you will gain insight into the process of my recognizing, addressing and overcoming these blocks to recovery. Through my recovery process I discovered that I needed to have a  healthy relationship with hope, before I could begin to open, move through the door of hope, confront my denial, recognize factors that distract, realize how the drama was impacting my life, begin to own my reality, grasp that I no longer had to give my power away, keep from falling back into a victim role, breaking free from isolation and the benefit of having healthy boundaries.

I plan to continue to share information through articles on Create a Spark of Hope that you may find to be helpful in recognizing, addressing and overcoming blocks in your recovery process. Follow Create a Spark of Hope and you will receive articles as I write and publish those articles. There is a tab on Create a Spark of Hope that you can click on to follow Create a Spark of Hope.

I will say so long for now.

Have a great day.

Craig

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Copyright 2007-2015.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Have a great day.

Craig

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15
Jul

Don't Let Anyone tell You — You Aren't Enough

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure, it is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We were all meant to shine as children do. It is not just in some of us, it is in everyone. And as we let our own light to shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same, as we are liberated from our own fear. Our presence automatically liberates others. Sir, I just want to say thank you. You saved my life.”  From the movie, Coach Carter, quote attributed to Marianne Williamson

Living with a disability — visible or invisible — can leave you and I feeling impotent in many ways.

Impotent in these ways

powerless, ineffective, ineffectual, weak, feeble, useless, worthless, futile

We may have people in our lives who reinforce those feelings of being powerless, ineffective, weak, feeble, useless, worthless and futile. These people may lead you and I to believe that with out their  “special knowledge”we will not amount too much in life. We may have people in our lives who, although we have achieved far beyond all reasonable expectations despite obstacles and adversity; minimize, marginalize, discount, dismiss who we are and what we have to contribute to what they are seeking to accomplish. We may find that those individuals patronize who we are once we have learned how to overcome obstacles and achieve milestones with out their help. Interestingly, those individuals do not herald who we are and what we have overcome, despite how our example could encourage, enhance and positively impact the lives of the people in their charge.

Interestingly, these individuals do not bring us to the table to encourage, enhance  and better the lives of the people whom they say they want to help. As a result we may feel as though what we have achieved is insignificant and of little value.

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”  Steve Jobs

As a result — of the people who in practice minimize, marginalize, dismiss, discount and by their actions patronize who we are as individuals — we may find ourselves shrinking back. We may find ourselves being lulled into believing that our voice and who we are as individuals really does not matter. We may have people in our lives who communicate to us —  overtly and covertly — that their opinions, not ours; matter. As a result, we may find ourselves discouraged from listening to our inner voice, our intuition and our heart. As a result, we may have since paid little attention to our inner voice. As a result, we may have traded our judgment for the judgment of other people. As a result, we may have a difficult time trusting ourselves, a loving God and our process. As a result, we may have been led to believe that we are not enough.

 Well, I have good news for you. We can trade the truth for a lie. We are enough. Our inner voice, intuition and heart do matter. Our inner voice, intuition and heart will guide us. We can trust ourselves and how we feel led, over the opinions of other people. We can trust the process, through what is being revealed to us; and we can trust a loving God to lead and guide us each day. We don’t have to figure this stuff out on our own. We can ask for help and then follow our inner voice, our heart and our intuition. We can replace our judgment, for the judgment of other people. A loving God will guide us along our journey. And as we are led, we can trust that our light will shine in the darkness. That our presence will liberate other people. And that our being, by being who we are, not who other people may want us to believe; will give people the courage to carry on with their lives.

Through our example, they will in turn let their light to shine in darkness. Through our example, they will in turn liberate others. And through our example their being, by being who they are, not what other people may want them to believe; they will give other people the courage to carry on with their lives.

Some Quotes that Inspire

“Insist on yourself, never imitate. Your own gift you can present with the cumulative force of a whole life’s cultivation, but of the adopted talent of another you only have an extemporaneous half-possession. Do that which is assigned to you and you can not hope too much or dare too much.” Henry David Thoreau

“History has demonstrated that the most notable winners usually encountered heartbreaking obstacles before they triumphed. They won because they refused to become discouraged by their defeats.” B.C. Forbes

“Regardless of your lot in life, you can build some thing beautiful on it.” Zig Ziglar

“Don’t judge your day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds you plant.” Robert Louis Stevenson

“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.” Theodore Roosevelt

“If you advance confidently in the direction of your dreams and endeavor to live the life that you have imagined…you will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.” Henry David Thoreau

“Absorb what is useful, reject what is useless and add specifically your own.” Bruce Lee

“I will prepare and some day my chance will come.” Abraham Lincoln

“What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals.” Zig Ziglar

“Decision is the spark that ignites action. Until a decision is made, nothing happens.” Wilfred A. Peterson

Our circumstances are not meant to keep us down, but they are meant to build us up.” Craig J. Phillips MRC, BA

“Sometimes adversity is what you need to face in order to become successful.” Zig Ziglar

“In my experience I have found that adversity is what has made me successful, because I refused to give up because of adversity.” Craig J. Phillips MRC, BA

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Copyright 2007-2015.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Have a great day.

Craig

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14
Jul

Defining the Basics of a Successful Training Camp Part 1 Video Presentation

In yesterdays article Training Camps and Winning in Life, I spoke about the basics that make a successful training camp. In the article I shared that by applying the basics —  hard work, commitment, determination, drive, discipline, fortitude, persistence, tenacity and courage — before long we will be able to look back and see how far we have come in our progress, because we did not give up.

My Use of Martial Arts -- Neuroplasticity

In today’s articles I would like to explore the meaning of several of the words or concepts that go into making a training camp successful. To gain a greater understanding of the words and concepts, I will do some research; and share what I discover. I will then share my perspective and provide a link to an article that I have written, that speaks to the word or the concept.

To share the information individuals who learn through watching and listening I will create a video presentation of Part 1 of the article, Defining the Basics of a Successful Training Camp.

To watch and listen to Part 1 of the video presentation, you may click on the following link: Defining the Basics of a Successful Training Camp Part 1 Video Presentation

To read the article from which Part 1 of this video presentation is made, you may click on this link: Defining the Basics of a Successful Training Camp Part 1

If you have not already watched Part 2 of the video presentation, you may click here: Defining the Basics of a Successful Training Camp Part 2 Video Presentation

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I look forward to hearing from you.

Have a great day.

Craig

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14
Jul

Defining the Basics of a Successful Training Camp Part 2 Video Presentation

If you have not already watched Part 1 of the video presentation, you may do so by clicking here: Defining the Basics of a Successful Training Camp Part 1 Video Presentation

In today’s article I will share Part 2 of the article, Defining the Basics of a Successful Training Camp in video presentation format. I create video presentations of my articles for individuals who learn more effectively, as I do; through watching and listening.

In Part 2 of this article, I will speak to the remaining basic concepts that lead to a successful training camp: discipline, fortitude, persistence, tenacity and courage. As with Part 1 of this article, I will do some research and share what I discover. I will then share my perspective of the word or concept and provide a link to an article that I have written that speaks to the word or concept.

 To watch and listen to Part 2 of the video presentation, you may click on the following link: Defining the Basics of a Successful Training Camp Part 2 Video Presentation

To read the article from which part 1 of this video presentation is made, you may click on this link: Defining the Basics of a Successful Training Camp Part 2

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I look forward to hearing from you.

Have a great day.

Craig

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12
Jul

Creating Hope after Experiencing a Brain Injury

In my experience I have found that there is a path that leads to a freedom. A freedom to be myself, to pursue my dream and to find fulfillment. The freedom that matures and is experienced as I grow in awareness, acceptance and action. When I realize that I am responsible for my life and well-being. What I have discovered through my experience is that I need to do the work to have serenity in my life.

Serenity is not going to show up with out my being an active participant in my life, instead of being a reactor to what happens in my life.

In my experience, I have found that I can not “stand idle” and experience hope in my life. I need to examine what may be interfering with what is leading me to be restless, irritable and discontent. On June 16, I launched a new web site to share what I discovered, in a methodical way; that helps me to experience serenity in my life. I would encourage you to visit and spend time reading articles from the Site Map of my new website.

“We all have dreams. But in order to make dreams come into reality, it takes an awful lot of determination, dedication, self-discipline, and effort.” Jesse Owens
Below are links to my current 16 articles that I have written and published on Create a Spark of Hope.

Introducing Create a Spark of Hope Website

Creating a Healthy Relationship with Hope

Opening the Door to Hope

Moving through the Door of Hope

Challenges to Overcome — Facing and Confronting Denial

Betrayal — A Way Out

Has Drama Replaced Living for You?

Helping Children Create Hope in Their Lives

Creating Hope Beyond Generational Messages

Understanding and Overcoming Societal Bullying

Owning Our Reality — No Longer a Victim

How to Keep From Falling Back into a Victim Role

So How to Get Started — Training Camps and Winning in Life

How to Be Successful in a Training Camp Part 1

How to Be Successful in a Training Camp Part 2

Creating Hope One Ingredient at a Time

Celebrating Hope in Each Success

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9
Jul

Resentment and The Power of Forgiveness

 “Forgiveness is unlocking the door to set someone free and realizing you were the prisoner!” Max Lucado

Last night I attended a support group meeting the topic of forgiveness was tabled for discussion. I listened to what people shared and when it came time for me to share I shared my perspective. In my experience, I have found that resentments stem from unforgiveness and unforgiveness many times can be traced to expectations that have not been met or fulfilled. In my experience, I have found I may  not even be aware of the reasons for resentment (s) until a current event reminds me of my resentment(s).

Resentment (s), unchecked and unresolved; smolder like lava beneath a volcano. Resentment (s), unchecked and unresolved, grow like a malignant tumor slowly destroying beneath the surface. Resentment (s), unchecked and unresolved; come out sideways, as the lava of unforgivenesss, through anger; oozes out at unpredictable and unexpected times. Resentment (s) unchecked and unresolved; leave banished souls in their wake. Banished from relationships, hopes and dreams that might have been.

“Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.” Carrie Fisher
 
“Bitterness and resentment only hurt one person, and it’s not the person we’re resenting – it’s us.” Alana Stewart

 “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of harming another; you end up getting burned.” Author unknown

“Resentments leave me stuck believing that I am a victim of some thing that I am powerless to change. The good news is that as I let go of the resentment (s), I am able to stop believing that I am a victim over that which I am powerless to change.” Craig J. Phillips MRC, BA 

But there is good news. I have found that resentments can be checked and resolved through a process. The process involves being honest with myself, taking the time to examine who I am resentful at, the cause of my resentment, how the resentment impacts (impacted) my — self-esteem, personal relationships, finances, material goods, security, ambitions and my emotional well-being). I also need to examine what my motives were that resulted in or led me to my being resentful.   .

Resentments are often tied to my fear of losing some thing or not getting some thing that I want of think I need. The good news is that I can examine my fear (s) as they relate to my resentments, so that these fears no longer have to paralyze me. Examining my fear (s) can also open the door to a freedom that I never knew existed. By examining my resentments I am able to also examine the expectations that were (are) at the root of my resentment (s). By examining my expectations, I am able to curtail future resentment.

Examining my resentments empower me to forgive, both myself and other people, Examining my resentments help me to grow in awareness. Examining my resentments help to free up internal energy so that I can take action. Action that will both empower my process. my relationships and enable me to pursue my dreams and my destiny with out restraint.

The Prayer of Saint Francis of Assisi

Lord, make me an instrument of thy peace.
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
Where there is injury, pardon;
Where there is doubt, faith;
Where there is despair, hope;
Where there is darkness, light;
Where there is sadness, joy.

O divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek
To be consoled as to console,
To be understood as to understand,
To be loved as to love;
For it is in giving that we receive;
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
It is in dying to self that we are born to eternal life.

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4
Jul

What's Holding You Back?

I attended a support group meeting earlier today. The topic that was selected was spiritual awakenings. The discussion was set and people began to share their experiences with spiritual awakenings. When the time came for me to share, this is what I discovered through my recovery process. First, I discovered that I had transferred my relationship with my Dad on to my relationship with God. The relationship I had with my Dad was one in which my good was rarely good enough, to be enough. I experienced a come close go away relationship with my Dad.

That coupled with being blamed, shamed and made to feel responsible for the criticism that I received for not being good enough. I internalized the message that I was therefore not worth being enough, to be able to count on my Dad. In my desire to please my Dad I strove all the more to gain his approval, which only came when I worked  to meet his expectations. I also felt responsible for the reason why my Dad did not give me his approval, because I clearly did not prove my worth and value in his eyes. As an adult I continued to seek the approval of surrogate “dads”.

Through my recovery process I discovered that much of my approval seeking and people pleasing was driven by my desire to gain my Dad’s approval. What I discovered through my recovery process was that I had transferred my concept of God from my relationship with my Dad. I am not blaming my Dad, for he did the best he knew how to do; probably because of the example that his Dad set with him. Although I am not, I imagine being a Dad is very difficult. What I discovered through my recovery process was that I needed to forgive my Dad, to make peace with God.

What I discovered, through my recovery process; changed the way in which I see my Dad (although he has passed away) and changed the way that I see God. What I  discovered forever changed my relationship with God.  In October 2014 I wrote Moving from Fear to Faith — Making Peace with God to share in detail what I learned through my recovery process that forever changed my relationship with God. In the event that you find yourself struggling in your relationship with God, I would invite you to read my article. Here is a link to my article: Moving from Fear to Faith — Making Peace with God. My experience may benefit you.

You have my permission to share my articles and or video presentations with anyone you believe could benefit, however please attribute me as being the author of the article (s) video presentation (s), and provide a link back to the article (s) on Second Chance to Live. In the event that you have questions, please send those questions to me. All questions are good questions. Thank you. I look forward to hearing from you. Copyright 2007-2015.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Have a great day.

Craig

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1
Jul

Training Camps and Winning in Life Video Presentation

Several weeks ago I wrote and published the article, Training Camps and Winning in Life. Today I would like to create and present a video presentation of the article. I create video presentations of my articles to aid in the accessing of the information in my articles for individuals who learn through watching and listening.

Below is a brief excerpt from the article:

In today’s article I would like to share some thing that has helped me in my recovery process. I would like to borrow from the concept that many sports use in their preparations, training camps. Training camps prepare the individuals in the sport to achieve effectively and efficiently. Like training camps in sport preparation, I have come to realize that life’s experience provide many training camps. These camps are designed to empower you and I to perform effectively and efficiently. And as with any training camp, those who participate in the camp must dedicate themselves to the activities of the camp. The benefit received by each participant is dependent upon the effort put forth during the camp.

But in order to benefit from the training camp the participant needs to stay committed to the process, while executing the basics — determination, drive, discipline, fortitude, persistence, tenacity and courage. 

Training camps necessitate hard work, commitment, determination, discipline, drive, fortitude, persistence, tenacity and courage. Making the decision to not give up despite…When the individual makes a decision to persevere in the face of discouragement and setbacks, character is formed. Character enables the individual to grow and develop in ways that once seemed to be out of their reach. Character must be established on a foundation of humility. Apart from humility, any progress that is made during the camp will be eclipsed by arrogance. Arrogance interrupt’s the participant’s ability to progress in the camp, because the individual becomes resistant to learning. The product of arrogance closes the eyes and ears of the camp’s participant.

No one is coming to save you or me. We have do do our own work.

When we get busy, we get better.

To listen to and watch the video presentation of the article, you may click on this link: Training Camps and Winning in Life Video Presentation

To read the complete article from which this video presentation is made, you may click on this link: Training Camps and Winning in Life

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I look forward to hearing from you.

Have a great day.

Craig

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30
Jun

Challenges to Overcome — Facing and Confronting Denial

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Below is an article that I wrote and published on Create a Spark of Hope today. Please share and invite your friends to subscribe to Create a Spark of Hope.

Yesterday I shared Moving through Doors of Hope. Walking through the door that has opened can be a challenge when there are people in your life who don’t want you to change. Denial can be used to convince you that you are wrong and they are right. Buying back into that denial (system) may appear real if you have traded your judgement for their judgement, for many years.

Making the break from the denial system can also feel like betrayal. A betrayal to a family system that defined your worth and value for many years. Betrayal of yourself, as you attempt to break free from an all too familiar role that you played  and found yourself identifying with for many years. Breaking free of such a system and role is very painful.

This was my experience, as I was led to believe that I was to blame for the irritability, restlessness and discontent with in the system for many years. Growing up with an invisible disability bound me to the family system and the role because I was unaware. Unaware of many things that were out of my control and that I could not be changed.

In my experience, I had to hurt enough before I was able to confront both the denial of the family system and my role with in the family system. In my experience, as part of the process of confronting the denial of the family system and the role with in the system, I needed to confront the denial of the impact of my invisible disability.

As pain increased, so did my willingness to look closer at the “tentacles” that sought to keep me enmeshed to the denial from which I needed to find freedom. I needed to find freedom to be able to have a self and self-esteem. I needed to break free of the denial of the system, role and my limitations so that I could have a separate self.

I needed to break free of the denial so that I could begin to grow in self-awareness and self-acceptance. I needed to break free of the denial that kept / led me to believe that I was tied and bound to the limitations of my invisible disability. I needed to break free of the denial so that I could begin to find a way to create, apart from ways that did not work for me.

“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” George Bernard Shaw

You have my permission to share the articles that I present here on Create a Spark of Hope, however please attribute me as being the author of the article (s) and provide a link back to the article (s) on Create a Spark of Hope. Thank you. Copyright 2015

29
Jun

Moving through the Door of Hope

Below is an article that I wrote and published on my new website, Create a Spark of Hope. Please share Create a Spark of Hope with your family and friends.Thank you.

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In a recent article, Opening the Door to Hope;  I spoke to the need to face and address loss, to be able to move on with life. The first step in this process is to face the denial that seeks to keep me in darkness. The denial that seeks to deceive and keep the individual from seeing the light that is on the other side of the door, that is opening.

Denial seeks to keep the individual fixated on the door that has closed. Denial can be likened to a warm blanket that shields and protects. Nevertheless, after a time, denial only serves to mask feelings that fester, undermine and cripple. Denial interferes, as it seeks to justify and legitimate through blame, shame and scapegoating.

Denial searches to make someone else responsible for…Denial perpetuates feelings of helplessness and keeps the individual focused on what can’t be changed. Denial leads the individual to believe that they are a victim of circumstances. Denial seeks to keep the individual stuck and prone to re-injury. Re-injury to their mind, body, soul and spirit, that only promotes unrest and acts like a cancer that devours from with in the individual.

But the good news is that denial no longer has to limit, cripple or undermine. Little by little, by focusing on what we can change; the pain that once stymied us becomes a catalyst and a guide. A catalyst to motivates and a guide to lead us through the door created by the grieving process. A process that will open our eyes to see the light that is on the other side of the door. The door that will open to a new room, where we can begin to create hope.

I feel that as long as you’re honest, you have the opportunity to grow. It’s when you shut down, go into denial, and try to start hiding things from yourself and others, that’s when you lock in certain behaviors and attitudes that keep you stuck.” Tracy McMillan

See my article, Creating Hope One Ingredient at a Time by clicking on this link: Creating Hope One Ingredient at a Time

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26
Jun

Second Chance to Live — About Page — Enhanced

My name is Craig J. Phillips. I possess an undergraduate degree in theology and physical education / recreation. I possess a master’s degree in rehabilitation counseling. I have worked during the past 30 years assisting individuals in various altruistic capacities in their pursuit of their dreams and their destinies. While working through undergraduate and graduate school I worked in a variety of human service positions assisting individuals in various capacities. Among these capacities, I worked in assisted living centers, in a residential treatment center and as a counselor with in the cemetery and funeral industries. In these positions, roles and capacities, I sought to enhance the individuals and families well-being and offer hope.

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAPost graduate school, I worked as a certified rehabilitation counselor (CRC) in both public and private rehabilitation settings assisting individuals with physical, emotional and psychological disabilities. My focus has been to help individuals find ways to use their gifts, talents and abilities to pursue their dreams and their destinies. Each of my altruistic pursuits has provided a unique window into the lives of individuals throughout the spectrum of life’s experiences. With this window of understanding and my desire to be of service, I have sought to grow in my self-discovery, self-reflection and self-exploration, to then in turn give of what I have gained through my pursuit of personal growth and personal empowerment.

Through my professional pursuits, as well as my personal endeavors to be of service; I have sought to grow in self-awareness and self-acceptance. As I have grown in self-awareness and self-acceptance, I have grown in my ability to take healthy and positive action in life. This action has given me a fresh perspective on how to create hope in my life. With this exploration, I was able to reach a place of acceptance with some thing, that I would like to share with you. I am a traumatic brain injury survivor. My brain injury occurred as a result of a motor vehicle accident in 1967 when I was 10 years old. I sustained an open skull fracture, right frontal lobe damage, a several brain bruise with brain stem involvement. I remained in a coma for 3 weeks.

In 1967 there was not much known about brain injuries or neurological rehabilitation. Once my external wounds healed my traumatic brain injury was never again considered to be a factor in my development or my difficulties. Because I was able to teach myself how to walk, talk, read, write and speak in complete sentences the effects of the injury to my brain became invisible and hidden. Although I was not expected to succeed beyond high school academically, I was able to graduate on time with my high school class and then go on to obtain my undergraduate (4 majors, 2 universities and one junior college in 10 years) and graduate degree (3 1/2 years and 2 different grad schools).

I later discovered that the difficulties that I encountered during both my undergraduate and graduate degree programs were due to the residuals from my brain injury. In addition to having difficulties in both my undergraduate and graduate programs, I had a long history of getting and losing jobs. While working as a vocational rehabilitation counselor, I became a client of the Dept. of Vocational Rehab. After becoming a client of the Department of Vocational Rehabilitation and completing their evaluation process, I was deemed to be unemployable. Because I had been able to obtain my undergraduate and graduate degrees, I found myself in a very frustrating conundrum; having done the work to contribute professionally, I was unemployable.

To gain more insight into my experience leading up to being deemed unemployable by the  Department of Vocational Rehabilitation, you may watch and listen to a 2 part series that I created in August of 2011 by clicking on these links:

My First Department of Vocational Rehabilitation Experience

My Second Department of Vocational Rehabilitation Experience

Although I had diligently applied myself – both academically and vocationally – I felt like some one all dressed up with nowhere to go. Although I had diligently applied myself — both academically and vocationally — I found that no one seemed to want what I had to give.  Although I had diligently applied myself – both academically and vocationally – I found myself unable to succeed. Although I had diligently applied myself – both academically and vocationally – I found myself declared disabled by the Social Security Administration in 1999.  Although I had diligently applied myself – both academically and vocationally – I found myself living on a fixed income. Not the dream I had hoped to live.

Although I had diligently applied myself both academically and vocationally for many years, I found myself being effectively discounted and dismissed by society. Like a broken toy tossed into a box to be forgotten. Although I felt like a broken toy, discounted and dismissed by societies standards, I still had a desire to follow my dreams and my destiny. In my desire to follow my dreams and my destiny, I discovered some thing very important. A lesson that would lay a foundation upon which I would learn to build. A foundation, that would equip me to follow my dreams and my destiny. A foundation upon which I would learn how to create hope.

Read my article by clicking on this link: Opening the Door to Hope.

To gain insight into what I encountered and overcame in the process of creating Second Chance to Live you may read my 2 part article Back Story of Second Chance to Live, by clicking on the following 2 links:

Back Story of Second Chance to Live Part 1

Although I felt minimized, marginalized, dismissed and discounted by people who did not want what I had to give, I still had a desire to encourage, motivate, empower and share hope. In my process of finding a way that would work for me I wrote an autobiography, a book and then on February 6, 2007, at the encouragement of a friend; I found my way to share hope through my web log Second Chance to Live. I began writing and publishing articles on Second Chance to Live. During the past 89 months I have written a total of now 1385 articles for Second Chance to Live. To view a list of the articles that I have written and published on Second Chance to Live you may click on this link: Site Map for my Articles.

To aid in accessing my articles, I recently created article categories of my articles and video presentation categories of my video presentations uploaded to You Tube. Here are links to my article categories and my video presentation categories: Article Categories  and Video Presentation Categories.

On July 29, 2011 I created a You Tube channel to begin creating video presentations for individuals who learn more effectively through watching and listening. To date I have created 270 video presentations for my Second Chance to Live 2dogbull You Tube channel.  With in my Site Map for my Video Presentations, there is a list of the titles of the video presentations that I have created. By clicking on the title (s) of the video presentation (s) in my Site Map for my Video Presentations, the video presentation (s) will open for you on my You Tube channel.

In early 2015 I created 5 e Books5 e Books — to offer another way to access the information with in my articles and video presentations. My e Books are free for download and contain information that have empowered my ability to address, handle and overcome adversity, to be able to pursue my dreams and my destiny despite being disabled and unemployable.

To further be of service and After much thought and prayer, on June 16, 2015; I decided to create a new website Create a Spark of HopeCreate a Spark of Hope  – to share what I discovered that has helped me to begin to create sparks of hope in my own life. Create a Spark of Hope will be different from Second Chance to Live in that I will provide succinct and consolidated articles from a professional perspective. Create a Spark of Hope will also be different in that it will only present articles and thus be easily uploaded to your mobile devices.

In October 2013, I was a keynote speaker at the Southwest Conference on Disability in association with the University of New Mexico. I spoke to an audience of between 600 – 700 individuals. During my 30 minute presentation, I spoke to not giving up in the face of adversity, as well as how using the concept of neuroplasticity has empowered my life. During my keynote, I included a 5 minute video presentation that a friend helped me to create a month before the conference. To watch the video presentation shown at the conference, you may click on this link: Demonstration.

To introduce the demonstration to my readers, on Second Chance to Live; I wrote an article. Here is a link to the article: Brain Injury, Neuroplasticity, Healing and Martial Art Disciplines. In August of 2014, a friend filmed another demonstration in which I use double rattan sticks (siniwali) drills to enhance my ability to use both sides of my brain — using the concept of neuroplasticity. Here is a link to that Demonstration. In response to a comment, I wrote an article. Here is a link to the article: A Collection of my Articles — To Share the Story Behind my Martial Arts Training

Here are several Endorsements that I received from my keynote presentation at the Southwest Conference on Disability 2013:

Niketa P. Sheth, MPA

Senior Vice President, Quality of Life

Christopher & Dana Reeve Foundation

I met Craig at the 2013 Southwest Conference on Disability, where he spoke as one of the keynote speakers for the conference. His remarkable words of inspiration moved hundreds of individuals in the room. Craig has an impressive ability to share his personal experience in a way that just about anyone can relate. His remarks brought strength and motivation to many in the audience. Craig has also invested much time and effort in creating many resources for individuals. I admire Craig’s dedication to inspire our community through his work with Second Chance to Live.

Rolf B. Gainer, PhD

Chief Executive Officer

Neurologic Rehabilitation Institute at Brookhaven Hospital

Tulsa, Oklahoma

Craig Phillips is an exceptional person who has constructed his life to help others. I had the privilege to meet Craig, in person, at the Southwest Disability Conference in Albuquerque, New Mexico in October 2013 where he was a keynote speaker. I had known Craig prior to that conference through his website and on-line presence where we had the opportunity to interact and learn about his work. What is impressive about Craig is his forthright manner about discussing his brain injury, it’s impact on his life and his devotion to helping others through Second Chance to Live. Craig has written a blog on our NeuroNotes which has brought his work to others living with brain injury.

In preparation of my keynote presentation, I wrote the following article to provide more detailed information for those individuals attending the 2013 Southwest Conference on Disability. Click on this link to read the article Back Ground Information for Keynote Presentation Craig Phillips Founder and Creator Second Chance to Live Southwest Conference on Disability 2013.

In response to the article: Wow! What a story of accomplishment! Craig, you stared adversity right in the eye and said: “Get out of the way – I have something to do with my life! Way to go! There needs to be more people in the world like you!

Ken Collins, Program Manager at San Juan Center for Independence, Gallup, New Mexico

And one more Endorsement:

Craig’s message is universal. “You can find your way thru tragedy and build a new life.” It may not be the life you had before, but Craig’s message of hope, empowerment and love can help you discover your second chance to live – and live well. I am grateful for Craig’s beautiful writings. They inspire me and bring me comfort. As a speaker, Craig, speaks from the heart and is a living testament to his message. I am honored to know and learn from Craig Phillips.

Viki Kind, MA – January 18, 2014 4:58 pm Bioethicist and author of The Caregiver’s Path to Compassionate Decision Making: Making Choices for Those Who Can’t

http://www.KindEthics.com
http://www.TheCaregiversPath.com

To see a list of several organizations – past and present – using Second Chance to Live as a Resource, please click on the following link: Resource

To empower individuals whose primary language is not English, I have created a tool. I have named the tool, Easy Translator into Your Language. This tool can be accessed by clicking on the following link, Easy Translator into Your Language. By using this tool, Second Chance to Live can be converted into these languages.

As you read my articles and questions arise, please do not hesitate to contact me with those questions. And please remember, all questions are good questions. You may do so through my Contact Information Page

Second Chance to Live has and continues to meet a unique a unique need, both nationally and internationally. Second Chance to Live has subsequently been honored in different ways. To see a few of those ways, please take the time to click on the following links. As you read the various pages and questions or comments come to mind, please let me know my friend. All questions are good questions and all comments are welcome my friend. Thank you.

During the past 89 months Second Chance to Live has been of service and met a unique need, both nationally and internationally. To see some of the ways that Second Chance to Live has been of service, please click on the below high lighted links. Thank you.

Qualifications

Testimonials / Endorsements

Publications and Honors

Site Map for Interviews and Guest Radio Appearances

Second Chance to Live and the American Association of Neuroscience Nurses

Second Chance to Live and the Australasian Rehabilitation Nurses’ Association

Second Chance to Live and CDS at the University of Hawai’i at Manoa

Second Chance to Live and Intute

European Brain Injury Society

Second Chance to Live and the Brain Injury Association of Canada

To read a more detailed account of my journey and my process during the past 48 years, please read my 8 part series My Journey thus Far. Thank you.

Click on each link and the part will open for you.

My Journey Thus Far

My Journey thus Far — Part 2

My Journey thus Far — Part 3

My Journey thus Far — Part 4

My Journey thus Far — Part 5

My Journey thus Far — Part 6

My Journey thus Far — Part 7

My Journey thus Far — Part 8

I want to thank you for being a friend of Second Chance to Live. I look forward to being of service to you and your family. In the event that I can be of service, please let me know. I look forward to hearing from you. I will say so long for now, but before I do let me share some of my favorite quotes with you. As you read these quotes, may you be encouraged to follow your dreams, to trust the process, a loving God and yourself.

“Be encouraged my friend, our circumstances are not meant to keep us down, but they are meant to build us up.” Craig J. Phillips MRC, BA

“Do not wait for leaders, do it alone, person to person.” Mother Teresa

“If you advance confidently in the direction of your dreams and endeavor to life the life that you have imagine…you will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.” Henry David Thoreau

“Do not judge your day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds that you plant.” Robert Louis Stevenson

“Insist on yourself, never imitate. Your own gift you can present with the cumulative force of a whole life’s cultivation; but of the adopted talent of another you only have an extemporaneous half-possession…Do that which is assigned to you, and you can not hope too much or dare too much.”Ralph Waldo Emerson

“You don’t have to be a person of influence to be influential. In fact, the most influential people in my life are probably not even aware of the things they’ve taught me.” Scott Adams — American Cartoonist

“Everyone is trying to do some thing big, not realizing that life is made up of small things.” Frank A Clark

“I have heard that the journey of a thousand miles begins with  a single step. The good news is that once we start walking on that journey, before long we will be able to look back and see how far we have come on our journey — because we did not give up.” Craig J. Phillips MRC, BA

“…You see, in the final analysis it is between you and God; it was never between you and them anyway.” Mother Teresa

“For I know the plans that I have for you – says the Lord – plans for good and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope.” Jeremiah 29:11 Old Testament

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25
Jun

Opening the Door to Hope

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 As shared in my about, I have worked with in both the funeral and cemetery industries while I was in graduate school. During graduate school I gave a presentation on the grieving process and its importance. Grieving helps the individual move from the shock of denial to a place of acceptance.

Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, in her book; On Death and Dying speaks to 5 stages in the process of grieving: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. These stages provide a pathway to move through the process of grieving. Apart from moving through the grieving process, however painful; the individual may find themselves “stuck” and unable to move forward with life and living.

The process of grieving, by moving through the 5 stage process; can help the individual to reach a place of acceptance with any kind of loss. The process of grieving helps the individual to move forward with their lives. The process of grieving helps the individual to lay a new foundation, upon which they can create hope.

By using the principles of the grieving process, the individual will be able to grow in awareness and acceptance of that which is lost, to be able to get into action. Getting into action, through gaining awareness and arriving at a place of acceptance; will allow the individual to realize that new possibilities do exist.  The grieving process will help the individual to stop looking at the door that has closed, in order to see the door that has opened to them. The process of grieving will liberate the individual to dream in the now.

“When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed-door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.” Helen Keller

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23
Jun

Create a Spark of Hope Website

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Introducing

Create a Spark of Hope Website

My name is Craig Phillips and I am a master’s level rehabilitation counselor, an author, an educator, a coach, an advocate and a keynote speaker. I am an expert on addressing, handling and overcoming adversity. On February 6, 2007 I created Second Chance to Live to share strategies that have empowered me to succeed far beyond all reasonable expectations. To be of service, I have created 1382 articles and 270 video presentations for individuals who are visual and auditory learners.

In the summer of 2014 I created categories for my articles and video presentations Article and Video Presentation Categories. I did so to further aid in the accessing of the information on specific topics of interest in my articles and video presentations. In early 2015 I created and published 5 e Books to present the information from my articles and video presentations for download, without charge or expense to you.

To further be of service and After much thought and prayer, on June 16, 2015; I decided to create a new website Create a Spark of HopeCreate a Spark of Hope  – to share what I discovered that has helped me to begin to create sparks of hope in my own life. Create a Spark of Hope will be different from Second Chance to Live in that I will provide succinct and consolidated articles from a professional perspective.

Create a Spark of Hope will also be different in that Create a Spark of Hope will only present articles and thus be easily uploaded to your mobile devices.

My encouragement would be that you read my page: Creating Hope and the articles that  I have written and published and are in my Site Map. I would encourage you to read each of these articles, as I am creating a road map with each of the articles that I have written thus far for Create a Spark of Hope.

As you read articles from Create a Spark of Hope, that create sparks of hope in your life; share the information to create sparks of hope in other people’s lives.Thank you.

You have my permission to share the articles that I present here on Create a Spark of Hope, however please attribute me as being the author of the article (s) and provide a link back to the article (s) on Create a Spark of Hope. Thank you.

Copyright 2015

Have a hope filled day.

Craig

22
Jun

Second Chance to Live — Lessons Learned and Shared with a Support Group Part 2 Video Presentation

In today’s article I am going to present Part 2 of my article Second Chance to Live — Lessons Learned and Shared with a Support Group in video presentation format. I create video presentation of my articles to offer the information to individuals who learn through watching and listening. Below is a brief excerpt from Part 2 of the 2 Part article series.

“I can learn how to talk, trust and feel through sharing my experience, strength and hope and by listening to other people share their experience, strength and hope. I have the power to choose in life. When I am being critical of other people, I am usually being critical of myself. If I am at peace with myself, I find that I am usually at peace with other people. My perceptions are usually impacted by the way in which I frame my experience. Consequently, as I change the way that I frame my experience, my perceptions change. If some one throws me the ball (wants me to engage in some way that is not productive) and I do not catch the ball, the game is over. I don’t have to engage in the drama or the argument. I have come to realize that when I am getting a double message from someone, that entails “come close, go away” that I am participating in crazy making. My own crazy making. With my awareness, I need to detach myself from such relationships. My experience has taught me that these relationships do not end well for me.

Approval seeking and people pleasing are red flags for me. If I find myself engaging in these behaviors, I need to examine my motivations and ask, “What am I wanting / seeking to gain from the approval seeking and people pleasing?”. People pleasing and approval seeking are indicators that I need to make peace with myself. I am enough, just for today. Humility is not humiliation as humility encourages identification, but humiliation promotes comparison. I needed to make peace with God, by making peace with my Dad. I need to remember that the life that I am living is not a dress rehearsal. What I do with my time between the Dash (date born — date deceased) matters. I can have a significant impact upon my generation, one day at a time. I need to remember to not give up on my dreams, although I may have to modify how I go about achieving / realizing my dreams. Although I may have people in my life who are unable to “get it”, for what ever reason; I need to remember that I am the one who needs to” get it”.”

To listen to and watch the 2nd Part of the article, you may click on this link: Second Chance to Live — Lessons Learned and Shared with a Support Group Part 2 Video Presentation

To read Part 2 of the article, you may click on this link: Second Chance to Live — Lessons Learned and Shared with a Support Group Part 2

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 You have my permission to share my articles and or video presentations with anyone you believe could benefit, however please attribute me as being the author of the article (s) video presentation (s), and provide a link back to the article (s) on Second Chance to Live. In the event that you have questions, please send those questions to me. All questions are good questions. Thank you. I look forward to hearing from you. Copyright 2007-2015.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Have a great day.

Craig

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