Happy holidays to you and your family my friend. Although this is the advent of a new year, with new anticipation; these 3 approaching holidays can be a trifecta of frustration and pain for many individuals. Pain because individuals are thrust back into having to interact with unresolved family dynamics. Old familiar rules such as don’t talk, don’t trust and don’t feel may again be expected as families interact. Like an ostrich that stick’s its head under the sand, so do many family members as they interact with one another. Like ignoring the pink elephant in the room, if matters are “tippee – toed”, around they do not have to be addressed or considered. Matter’s nevertheless persist like the undercurrent beneath the waves, churning up past hurts and resentments pulling each family member below the surface. But the good news is that we do not have to suffer in silence. We can stop walking on “egg shells.”
We can reach out for help. We no longer have to remain isolated in our pain. We can come out of hiding. We can begin to talk, trust and feel. We can claim our lives. We can experience a whole new way of living, regardless of the choices that other people make with their lives.
In the event that you are faced with a “pink elephant” in the room, that no one wants to talk about or face during the holidays; I have a suggestion. Consult your phone book or do a search on your computer for an Alanon Family Group meeting in your area. There are also Alateen groups for teenagers who are affected by a family member or a friends drinking. There are also other groups, such as Naranon; for family members who are affected by a family member or friend’s drug abuse. In the event that you find that you have an alcohol or drug addiction, get to an AA or NA meeting. Today is a great day to get clean or sober and start on a new way of living. Your family members will appreciate you taking the first step in your recovery process and your life will take on new meaning. Below are several resources that may be of a benefit to you and your family.
To read more about how to find freedom from 3 dysfunctional rules, Don’t Talk, Don’t Trust and Don’t Feel; that are prevalent in families and relationships where there is addiction, unresolved pain or hidden secrets click on this link: Freedom
And if you decide to begin this new way of living, please remember that the journey of a thousand miles begins with the 1st step. Once we start walking before long, we will be able to look back and see how far we have come; because we decided to take this 1st step.
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