Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live. I am glad to see that you decided to stop by and visit with me. You are always welcome around my table. Over the past week I have been discussing the grieving process through a seven part series. In Traumatic Brain Injury and the Grieving Process, I shared how I needed to address my denial, anger and resentments in order to be able to pursue my passion through my
spiritual and emotional energy.
My journey beyond my grief process revealed that many of my limiting scripts — or old ideas of how I should relate to life — only perpetuated my sense of helplessness. I discovered that many of my old ideas — from my past — kept me trapped because I believed that I had to do “things” perfectly. Perfectionism, fueled by my sense of shame — which was driven by my fear of emotional and physical abandonment — held me hostage by my fear of failure.
Consequently, I found myself participating in self-defeating behaviors that validated my sense of inadequacy. Through my grieving process I found that my self-defeating behaviors had ties to my self-hate. Unconsciously I sought to sabotage myself.
Through my process I have learned that my old ideas — how I thought that I was meant to relate to life — needed to be left behind. Please read my post, Who is Limiting You? I needed to move beyond how I once lived my life. I needed to stop relating to life as if I was just not good enough and that my life did not matter. I needed to stop participating in behaviors that sabotaged my passion. I needed to confront the messages that sought to undermine my process.
I needed to confront the beliefs that skewed my ability to trust the process, a loving God and myself. I needed to be a proactive participant in my own positive process. I needed to become an actor –instead of a reactor — in my life.
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