In a recent article, Acceptance, Action and a Dream of a Second Chance I shared, "until I reached a place of acceptance in my life, awareness only pointed out to me that a problem existed in my life. Awareness did little to change what I had become aware of in my life." As I went on to share in that article, through doing the work to reach a place of acceptance I am given the … [Read more...]
Coming Out of Isolation to Create Hope in Our Lives
In my previous articles I have spoken to issues that I believe are important to being able to create hope in our lives. Among theses are examining my relationship with hope, opening and moving through the door of hope, the need to confront denial, recognizing factors that seek to keep me from moving through the door, the impact of drama on hope, addressing generational messages … [Read more...]
How to Keep from Falling Back into a Victim Role
In yesterday's article, Owning Our Reality -- No longer a Victim I spoke to 3 rules that need to be broken to be able to heal and create hope. In today's article, I would like to share what I discovered that occurs when I lapse back into denying my reality. The below are "red flags". When I notice that the below is occurring in my life, I know that I need to take an inventory. … [Read more...]
Owning Our Reality — No Longer a Victim
Three rules are often used to mask reality. These rules are Do Not Talk, Do Not Trust and Do Not Feel. These rules give way to a state of helplessness. When helplessness becomes a learned behavior, individuals may unconsciously believe they are trapped by their circumstances. Instead of seeking to learn and grow from their circumstances, being a victim becomes an alternative to … [Read more...]
Understanding and Overcoming Societal Bullying
In yesterday's article, I shared what I found to be a core factor in limiting the individual's ability to create hope. As explained in yesterday's article, this factor is used to control and manipulate the individual to comply to contain the denial repressing or suppressing pain. The core factor, shame coupled with reprisal inhibits or stymies the individual from individuating … [Read more...]