18
Feb

Second Chance to Live no Longer Posting Articles on Facebook

Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live. I am happy to have you around my table. For the past 3 years or so I have been posting my articles and video presentations on Facebook. I have done this to be of service to people using the social networking provided by Facebook. Over the past month or so I have noticed a decline in the amount of people viewing the articles and video presentations that I have posted on Facebook. I am not quite sure what has created the decline in viewing. I asked people in various groups, how they had been benefited from the articles and video presentations that I have been sharing for the past 3 years or so, and I received little response. Because of the lack of response, I interpreted that Second Chance to Live was not meeting a need in the Facebook community or groups.

During the past 3 years or so I have invested a tremendous amount of time in providing a service to the Facebook Community and Facebook groups. With the lack of feedback and apparent disinterest I made the decision to begin to channel my time and energy away from Facebook and Facebook Groups. As I have shared in my About Page, for many years I felt like some one all dressed up with no where to go, although I diligently applied myself in my desire to be of service. Very few people seemed to want what I had to give. When I created Second Chance to Live in February 2007, I found a way to share what I had to give in ways that worked for me. I also found that many people and organizations, both domestically and internationally; wanted what I had to give. Click on this link Organizations to see them.

In my experience, for many years; I felt as though there was some thing wrong with me, because I was trying to give to people who did not want what I had to give. For quite some time I have felt similar feelings reminiscent of what I experienced for many years — on Facebook and in the different Facebook groups. Based on my experience and the similarities I have made the decision to stop posting my articles and video presentations on Facebook or on Facebook groups. For individuals, who I have met on Facebook and through the different Facebook groups, who are interested in what I have to give, please visit Second Chance to Live to read my articles and watch my video presentations. As an alternative to coming to Second Chance to Live you may subscribe to Second Chance to Live by clicking here: Subscribe

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I look forward to hearing from you.

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Craig

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17
Feb

Overcoming a Fear of Failure Video Presentation

Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. I am happy to have you around my table. Recently I wrote and published, Overcoming a Fear of Failure. In today’s article I am introducing the article in video presentation format. I create video presentations of my articles to offer the information to individuals who learn through watching and listening. Below is a brief excerpt from the article:

“In yesterday’s article Don’t Give Up — Your Life Matters! I encouraged my readers to continue on their journey, to build upon milestones and successes; and to not give up because your life matters. In today’s article, I would like to share some thing with you that has helped and continues to help me. In my experience, I discovered that I had a fear of failure for various reasons. In my experience and through my recovery process I discovered that there were various factors (balls) that contributed to and kept me tethered to a fear of failure.

What I discovered gave me the ability to progressively let go of the ball (s) that kept me tethered to the fear of failure. 

I discovered that perfectionism was at the root of what kept me tethered to a fear of failure. Through my recovery process, I discovered that various factors held me hostage to the belief that I needed to be perfect. I discovered that, as a result; I strove all the more to be perfect for various reasons. I discovered what fueled my need to be perfect, the belief that my best efforts were inadequate. Nevertheless, I strove all the more; only to again find that the proverbial bar of expectation had been either raised or moved. The impact of the bar repeatedly being moved and / or raised left me feeling shamed and discouraged for not being enough.

In response, I became angry and frustrated. I turned that anger and frustration in ward. In response, I experienced ongoing chronic depression.”  

To watch a video presentation of the article, you may  click on the following link: Overcoming a Fear of Failure Video Presentation

To read the article from which this presentation is made, you may click on this link: Overcoming a Fear of Failure

A Few Video Presentations that help me to Overcome my Fear of Failure   

Have You Ever Asked, “What is Keeping Me Stuck?” Part 1 and Part 2 Video Presentation

Second Chance to Live and The Principle of Progress Not Perfection Part 1

Second Chance to Live and The Principle of Progress Not Perfection Part 2

Second Chance to Live and The Principle of Progress Not Perfection Part 3

Second Chance to Live and The Principle of Progress Not Perfection Part 4

Second Chance to Live — The Principle of the Learning Curve

Running Our own Race — Video Presentation

Hope, Encouragement and the Parable of the Cracked Pot Part 1, Part 2 and Part 3 Video Presentation

Experiencing Adversity, Failures, Setbacks and Not Giving Up! Video Presentation

Traumatic Brain Injury and The Identified Patient — Video Presentation — Part 1

Traumatic Brain Injury and the Identified Patient — Video Presentation — Part 2

How I Broke Free from Being Bullied — Video Presentation

Living with an Invisible Disability — Taking Back my Power Video Presentation

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I look forward to hearing from you.

Have a great day.

Craig

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15
Feb

Overcoming a Fear of Failure

Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friends. I am happy to have you around my table. In yesterday’s article Don’t Give Up — Your Life Matters! I encouraged my readers to continue on their journey, to build upon milestones and successes; and to not give up because your life matters. In today’s article, I would like to share some thing with you that has helped and continues to help me. In my experience, I discovered that I had a fear of failure for various reasons. In my experience and through my recovery process I discovered that there were various factors (balls) that contributed to and kept me tethered to a fear of failure.

What I discovered gave me the ability to progressively let go of the ball (s) that kept me tethered to the fear of failure. 

I discovered that perfectionism was at the root of what kept me tethered to a fear of failure. Through my recovery process, I discovered that various factors held me hostage to the belief that I needed to be perfect. I discovered that, as a result; I strove all the more to be perfect for various reasons. I discovered what fueled my need to be perfect, the belief that my best efforts were inadequate. Nevertheless, I strove all the more; only to again find that the proverbial bar of expectation had been either raised or moved. The impact of the bar repeatedly being moved and / or raised left me feeling shamed and discouraged for not being enough.

In response, I became angry and frustrated. I turned that anger and frustration in ward. In response, I experienced ongoing chronic depression. 

In response to the criticism, blame and shame, I found myself recoiling like a snake, in an attempt to protect myself, from feeling bad and defective. With ongoing and repeated conditioning, I developed my fear of failure. In reaction, I became reluctant to try new things out of a fear of being criticized, blamed and shamed for not meeting expectations. As I started in my recovery process, I made several discoveries that helped me to understand what kept me tethered to a fear of failure. These discoveries helped me to progressively let go of the ball that kept me tethered to my fear of failure. In the process of letting go of the ball, I was able to begin taking risks.

In the event that you find yourself tethered to a fear of failure, I would like to share these discoveries with you. During the past 7 years, I have written articles and created video presentations, to share what has helped me to overcome my fear of failure. Below are a list of links to several of these articles and video presentations. Please let me know if the information, within my articles and video presentations; help you to overcome your fear of failure. Thank you.

A Few Articles that help me to Overcome my Fear of Failure  

Whose Shame are You Carrying?

Displaced Sadness

The illusion of failure

Conditions for Healing

Traumatic Brain Injury and the Learning Curve

Living with a brain injury and Overcoming the Fear of Failure Part 1

Living with a brain injury and Overcoming the Fear of Failure Part 2

Living with a brain Injury and Overcoming the Fear of Failure Part 3

Traumatic Brain Injury — THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS FAILURE! Part 1 of 3

Traumatic Brain Injury — THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS FAILURE! Part 2 of 3

Traumatic Brain Injury — THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS FAILURE! Part 3 of 3

Living with a brain injury and Running Our Own Race

A Few Video Presentations that help me to Overcome my Fear of Failure   

Have You Ever Asked, “What is Keeping Me Stuck?” Part 1 and Part 2 Video Presentation

Second Chance to Live and The Principle of Progress Not Perfection Part 1

Second Chance to Live and The Principle of Progress Not Perfection Part 2

Second Chance to Live and The Principle of Progress Not Perfection Part 3

Second Chance to Live and The Principle of Progress Not Perfection Part 4

Second Chance to Live — The Principle of the Learning Curve

Running Our own Race — Video Presentation

Hope, Encouragement and the Parable of the Cracked Pot Part 1, Part 2 and Part 3 Video Presentation

Experiencing Adversity, Failures, Setbacks and Not Giving Up! Video Presentation

Traumatic Brain Injury and The Identified Patient — Video Presentation — Part 1

Traumatic Brain Injury and the Identified Patient — Video Presentation — Part 2

How I Broke Free from Being Bullied — Video Presentation

Living with an Invisible Disability — Taking Back my Power Video Presentation

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I look forward to hearing from you.

Have a great day.

Craig

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11
Feb

Winning at the game of Solitaire, Life and Hope Video Presentation

Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. Yesterday I published Winning at the game of Solitaire, Life and Hope. Today, I will offer a video presentation of the article. I create video presentations of my articles to share the information with individuals who learn through watching and listening.

Below is an excerpt of the article:

“Several years ago I started to play solitaire, on my computer; to further improve and enhance my hand-eye coordination. In my experience, I have found that I do not complete each game — because of card selections that I make — but through the process of playing many games I have learned a very valuable lesson. As the game continues, cards previously hidden to me, present themselves to me.

A card — once hidden from me  — becomes apparent. By clicking on or moving one card, another card appears. 

Life can be likened to a solitaire game. What may appear to be an end to the game, takes on new life. By staying committed to the process and by staying on course, a new card (solution) will appear to me. That is what hope is for me. Hope is likened to the game of solitaire. Although cards may currently be hidden to me, as I stay committed to running my race and staying on my course; new cards will be presented to me. These cards (solutions) will empower me to stay on course and win in life.

Today’s Thought:

In life, you may feel as though you are playing a solitaire game, where cards are hidden to you. That you have played all the available cards given to you. As a result you may feel that little hope exists. My encouragement to you my friend, as I need to remember; is to hang in there. Keep playing with the cards that are available to you.  Cards previously hidden to you, will become available to you. Cards that previously remained hidden — to help you and I — will become apparent and help us.”

To watch and listen to the video presentation of the article, you may click here: Winning at the game of Solitaire, Life and Hope Video Presentation

To read the article from which this video presentation is made, you may click here: Winning at the game of Solitaire, Life and Hope

As you listen to, watch or read my articles and questions come to mind, please send those questions to mind. All questions are good questions. In the event that you would like to leave a comment,  I would love to hear from you.To do so, please use the below contact form. I will respond to your comments and questions. I look forward to hearing from you.

look forward to hearing from you.

Have a great day.

Craig

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6
Feb

Second Chance to Live — February 6, 2015 — 8th Year Anniversary

Last year I did the math wrong. I wrote the article Second Chance to Live — 8th Year Anniversary Video Presentation, which was in reality my 7th Year Anniversary; not my 8th Year Anniversary. Sorry for the confusion. Today is my 8th Year Anniversary — starting my 85 month.

Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. I am happy to have you around my table. Today marks a milestone for Second Chance to Live. Today is the 8th year anniversary. Second Chance to Live was created on February 6, 2007. During the past 7 years the author has written and published 1327 articles and created 253 video presentations for individuals who learn more effectively through watching and listening. The video presentations have been uploaded to and can be seen on You Tube. Recently the author of Second Chance to Live created 2 e Books to provide a selection of his articles and video presentations as a free download.

The author provides information to empower individuals to build a life for themselves, regardless of their particular set of circumstances. The author provides information to encourage and motivate each individual to live their lives, beyond the confines of any “box”. The author encourages hope, as he says; “Trust the process, a loving God and yourself. More will be revealed in time. The pieces of the puzzle will come together in the right order and at the right time.” The author wants to thank you for being a friend of Second Chance to Live during the past 7 years. He looks forward to continuing to be of service to you in the coming days, weeks and months.

In the event that you have a question or a comment, he would love to hear from you. All questions are good questions and all comments are welcome.

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4
Feb

Dispelling the Notion of Dis-ability — I Just Do Things in Ways that Work For Me Video Presentation

Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. Recently, I wrote the article: Dispelling the Notion of Dis-ability — I Just Do Things in Ways that Work For Me. In today’s article I am going to introduce the article in video presentation format. I create video presentations of my articles to provide, the information within the articles;  to individuals who learn more effectively through watching and listening. In my experience, I need to remember that I am the only one who can live my life. With that reality in mind I need to remember these quotes:

“I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something; and because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do something that I can do.” Helen Keller

“Regardless of your lot in life, you can build some thing beautiful on it.” Zig Ziglar

“It is not as important as what happens to us, but how we respond to what happens to us.” Craig J. Phillips MRC, BA

“One who gains strength by overcoming obstacles possesses the only strength which can overcome adversity.” Albert Schweitzer

“Everyone is trying to accomplish something big, not realizing that life is made up of little things.” Frank A. Clark

“What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals.” Zig Ziglar

Below is a brief excerpt from the written article: Dispelling the Notion of Dis-ability — I Just Do Things in Ways that Work For Me
“Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. Recently a friend wrote an article and I responded to him in the following. I thought I would share what I replied.

I can definitely identify with you on this front. I attempted to prove that I was “not” disabled for many years. I did so in an attempt to prove that I was not “defective”, that there was not something “wrong” with me and as a result, I was worth loving and given respect. In my experience, I had to reach a point when the pain of denying my reality had to supersede my need to deny my reality — in my attempt to prove that there was nothing “defective” or “wrong” with me. In my experience, I had to confront my denial — despite feeling defective and as though there was some thing wrong with me. In my experience, I had to confront my denial before I could begin to love and accept myself as an individual.   In my experience, I discovered that I needed  to move through the 5 stages of grieving, as posited by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross in her book; On Death and Denying. The five stages: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance.

In my experience, I discovered that I needed to confront both my denial and the denial systems set about me before I could dispel the notion of dis-ability. In my experience, I discovered that I needed to work through these stages before I could begin to see the possibilities of my ability.”

To listen to and watch the video presentation of the article, click on the following link: Dispelling the Notion of Dis-ability — I Just Do Things in Ways that Work For Me Video Presentation

To read the article from which this presentation is made, please click on the following link: Dispelling the Notion of Dis-ability — I Just Do Things in Ways that Work For Me

As you listen to, watch or read my articles and questions come to mind, please send those questions to mind. All questions are good questions. In the event that you would like to leave a comment,  I would love to hear from you.To do so, please use the below contact form. I will respond to your comments and questions. I look forward to hearing from you.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Have a great day.

Craig

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26
Jan

Dispelling the Notion of Dis-ability — I Just Do Things in Ways that Work For Me

Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. Recently a friend wrote an article and I responded to him in the following comment. I thought I would share what I shared with my friend.

Here is the comment.

I can definitely identify with you on this front. I attempted to prove that I was “not” disabled for many years. I did so in an attempt to prove that I was not “defective”, that there was not something “wrong” with me and as a result, I was worth loving and given respect. In my experience, I had to reach a point when the pain of denying my reality had to supersede my need to deny my reality — in my attempt to prove that there was nothing “defective” or “wrong” with me. In my experience, I had to confront my denial — despite feeling defective and as though there was some thing wrong with me. In my experience, I had to confront my denial before I could begin to love and accept myself as an individual.   In my experience, I discovered that I needed  to move through the 5 stages of grieving, as posited by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross in her book; On Death and Denying. The five stages: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance.

In my experience, I discovered that I needed to confront both my denial and the denial systems set about me before I could dispel the notion of dis-ability. In my experience, I discovered that I needed to work through these stages before I could begin to see the possibilities of my ability.

 In my experience, I had to work through the 1st 4 stages, to be able to get to a place of acceptance; before I could stop defending myself for having experienced a brain injury. In my experience, I needed to get to a place of acceptance before I could begin to see that I was not defective or that there was some thing wrong with me because I experienced a brain injury. In my experience, I needed to work on learning how to accept that I am powerless over the injury to my brain, while at the same time understanding that I am not not helpless. In my experience, as I began to realize that I was and am not helpless, I saw a “light” at the end of the proverbial “tunnel”. The light helped me to realize that I could get into action. The light helped me to realize that I could create a life for myself, within my reality; that would empower my life and in turn encourage people to see the light at the end of their “proverbial tunnels”.

The light at the end of the proverbial tunnel helped me to realize that although I may have a disability, I am not dis-abled.

“I am not disabled. I just do things in ways that work for me.” Craig J. Phillips MRC, BA

Today’s Thought

In the event that you are living with a disability, my encouragement to you my friend is to not focus on the dis, but focus on the ability. Look for ways to use the ability that you possess — your passion, skills, talents and abilities — in ways that will work for you. Learn some thing new, try some thing different and see yourself flourish.

As you listen to, watch or read my articles and questions come to mind, please send those questions to mind. All questions are good questions. In the event that you would like to leave a comment,  I would love to hear from you.To do so, please use the below contact form. I will respond to your comments and questions. I look forward to hearing from you.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Have a great day.

Craig

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16
Jan

Pursuing Your Dreams — Learning Some Thing New

Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. In the past 3 articles I introduced my 1st 2 e Book and the principles that I used in writing my 2 e Books. The process of constructing and then writing my e Books reinforced several lessons. I would like to share those lessons with you, as they relate to pursuing dreams through learning some thing new. As you read this article, may you be encouraged to pursue your dreams through learning some thing new.

As I shared in my article, How I Created my First e Book — Using Different Principles, I watched, listened to and took notes from various video presentations that I found on You Tube. I gathered the information from what I saw in the video presentations and studied the pattern that I learned from my friend. After doing so I attempted to apply what I learned to create my e Book. Each time I applied what I had learned, I got a different result; which left me frustrated. I then attempted to combine what I had learned, which also left me frustrated.

After spending about 35 hours or so trying unsuccessfully to make the system work for me, I called my friend who helped me to start the project in 2011. I told him that I realized that I was meant to write and needed help with this technical stuff. He told me not to worry and that he would help me. I thanked him and got away from the project. I went and worked out to clear my mind. The next day I decided to try some thing new. To my surprise and delight the changes I made worked and I began to create my 1st e Book.

To my surprise and delight the changes that I made worked and I was able to start the process of creating my 1st e Book. What I discovered was that the information that I gathered from You Tube and following my friends pattern — although good information — did not work for me.

The experience reinforced several lessons. How I may be attempting to learn from other people — directly or indirectly — may not be the way that I learn. What the experience reinforced to me was that although I need to gather information, ideas and patterns and then see how they are applied, I then need to take the time find out how to apply the information, ideas and patterns in ways that will work best for me.  What the experience reinforced to me is that I need to give myself the time to learn how to apply the information, ideas and patterns in ways that work best for me.

“Decision is the spark that ignites action. Until a decision is made, nothing happens.” Wilfred A. Peterson

“Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.” Thomas A. Edison

“What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals.” Zig Ziglar

Today’s  Thought

Do you have a dream? If you do, my encouragement would be that you make the decision to start making plans to fulfilling your dream. Gather information, ideas and patterns to approach achieving your dream. Gather as much information, ideas and patterns that will help you in the process of finding a way to see your dream come true. But, do not allow that information, those ideas or patterns to stop you from accomplishing some thing new. Take, and give yourself; the time to learn how to apply the information, ideas and patterns gained in ways that will work for you.

And don’t give up on the process, a loving God and yourself. More will be revealed in time.

“Here’s to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes… the ones who see things differently — they’re not fond of rules… You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them, but the only thing you can’t do is ignore them because they change things… they push the human race forward, and while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius, because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do.” Steve Jobs

Living with a Brain Injury — Putting the Pieces in Place 60 Video Presentations e Book (PDF file)

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Putting the Pieces in Place e Book Cover 1 15 15Being Your own Hero through Overcoming Adversity — Tools for Rebuilding Your Life e Book (PDF file)

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Being Your Own Hero Through Overcoming Adversity Book Cover January 16, 2015 FridayAs you listen to, watch or read my articles and questions come to mind, please send those questions to mind. All questions are good questions. In the event that you would like to leave a comment,  I would love to hear from you.To do so, please use the below contact form. I will respond to your comments and questions. I look forward to hearing from you.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Have a great day.

Craig

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10
Jan

How I Created my First e Book — Using Different Principles

In today’s article I would like to share some thing that may benefit you. Let me explain. Several years ago my best friend helped me begin a project of putting together an e Book. We worked on the project and then hit some impasses with his ability to continue to help me with the project. Consequently, the project stayed on the proverbial “shelf”. About a month ago during a conversation with another friend, she encouraged me to put together a book. So, I spoke with my friend — who helped me to begin the project in 2011 about continuing with the project of the e Book. As we spoke about continuing with the project, he encouraged me to learn how to construct an e Book for myself, as he would not always be available to help me.

His suggestion of learning how to construct an e Book  seemed daunting and overwhelming to me, given what we had worked on together. Nevertheless, I started on the journey of discovering how to create an e Book. Fist of all, I needed to decide on which program to use to create the e Book. I do not have Microsoft Office, nor can I afford to obtain a copy of Microsoft Office. My friend suggested that I use either Open Office or Libre Office, as both are open source productivity suites. Open source means that you do not have to pay to use them. Both Open Office and Libre Office offer similar capabilities — from what I understand — that Microsoft Office offers. So, what I did, after doing some research: I made the decision to use Open Office Writer, which is part of the Open Office Suite, to write my e Book.

After making this decision, I did extensive research over the course of 35 hours using various video presentations that people upload to You Tube. I took notes and retook notes and attempted to follow the pattern that my friend John had set to build the e Book we started working on in 2011. None of what I learned and attempted seemed to work, until I attempted to apply the principles that I learned through the various You Tube presentations and by examining the frame work that my friend used in 2011. By combining the terminology and the illustrations I was able to make the process of creating an e Book work for me. I am glad that I did not give up on the process. I am glad that I persevered through using different principles that I have learned on my journey.

 “It’s not that I’m so smart, it’s just that I stay with problems longer.” Albert Einstein

 Living with a Brain Injury eBook Putting the Pieces in Place 60 Video Presentations (PDF file)

Being Your Own Hero Through Overcoming Adversity Final Book and Side Cover

Below are a few of the principles that I applied that helped me through the process of learning and creating my first e Book. The highlighted and underlined links, attached to the principle (s); are  articles that I have written, which further  explain the principle that I used in the creation of my first e Book.

The principle in the riddle: How do you eat an elephant? Answer: One Bite at a Time. Although the project seemed daunting at times, by remembering that I could accomplish the project one bite at a time, I stayed with / in the process. Traumatic Brain Injury and the Elephant

The principle of Pieces:  Individually the pieces of the project, independently; did not seem to make much sense to me, but as I joined them together, collectively; they helped me to complete the project of writing my first e Book. Creating a Destiny with Puzzle Pieces and Threads

The principle of Baking the Cake: Individual each ingredient in the process of creating my e Book did not work to bake my cake (e Book), but by combining the various ingredients; I was able to bake the cake. By looking to different sources of wisdom and insight — through various You Tube Videos presentations and by following different patterns — I was able to gain the necessary ingredients to bake my “bake”, my first e Book. Accomplishing Goals and Baking Cakes

The Principle of Slow and Steady: By realizing that I was in a process, a journey of sorts; I remembered that I could learn at my own pace. I remembered that slow and steady wins the race.  Living with a brain injury and the Fable of the Tortoise and the Hare 

Today’s thought

In the event that you are thinking about starting a project, I would encourage you to use the above principles. The Principle of the Riddle. The Principle of the Pieces. The Principle of Baking a Cake and The Principle of Slow and Steady. And as I found, through the process of writing my first e Book;  you can take the process, one bite, one piece, one ingredient and at the process at your own pace. My only suggestion is that you stick with the process and not give up. If you need to, get away from the project for a while, do so my friend. By getting away from the project and by returning later, you will think more clearly — as I did — when you start working back on the project. What did not seem to make sense, will become more obvious to you.

Over a course of time you will consume your elephant (s), put your puzzle (s) together, bake your cake (s) and win your race (s) because you stuck with the process.

As you listen to, watch or read my articles and questions come to mind, please send those questions to mind. All questions are good questions. In the event that you would like to leave a comment,  I would love to hear from you.To do so, please use the below contact form.

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Have a great day.

Craig

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6
Jan

Living with a Brain Injury e-Book — Putting the Pieces in Place — 60 Video Presentations

Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. I am happy to see that you decided to stop by to visit with me. On July 29, 2011 at the encouragement of a friend I began making video presentations of my articles. I also created a You Tube channel and began uploading the video presentations to my You Tube channel. My motivation in creating video presentation of my articles was to provide the information to individuals who learn through watching and listening. During the past 29 months I have created and uploaded 250 video presentations to You Tube.

At the time that I began creating video presentations, I also created a Site Map for the video presentations that I created and uploaded to You Tube to warehouse the archive of these video presentations. Last spring, I created category archives of these video presentations, to ease the access of video presentations on specific topics. Approximately 1 month ago I began toying with the idea of creating an E-book of selected video presentations that I created and uploaded to You Tube. During the past three weeks I have worked diligently in the construction of this eBook.

Like the many pieces of a jigsaw puzzle, life can seem to be made up of lots of puzzle pieces that make little sense individually. My experience has shown that pieces do fall into place with time. In the articles that I have written and the video presentations that I have created I share pieces of the puzzle that have fallen into place for me.

Several weeks ago I asked friends of mine for their input on a subtitle for my eBook. I am thankful for each of my friends input. After considering the various subtitles and given the mission of Second Chance to Live, I decided on a title that my friend Jessica Prescott suggested to me. Putting the Pieces in Place. I decided on this title because of what Second Chance to Live has given me the ability to accomplish — to put the pieces of my life in place. My hope is that my articles and video presentations will help you to put the pieces of your life in place.

In this Video Presentations E-book I share 60 + pieces. The E-book is free to download, however because I have created hyperlinks to the video presentations, printing Living with a brain injury — Putting the Pieces in Place — 60 Video Presentations eBook would not give you the benefit of the hyperlinks. By clicking on the underlined hyperlinks with in the eBook, the video presentations will open for you on You Tube. You may share the video presentations with anyone whom you believe could benefit, I look forward to being of service.

 To open Living with a Brain Injury e-Book — Putting the Pieces in Place — 60 Video Presentations click on the below link:

Living with a Brain Injury e-Book — Putting the Pieces in Place — 60 + Video Presentations

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Disclaimer – This e Book and the information presented there in is from my experience, strength and hope. It is not meant to replace the advice that you receive from your physician, neurologist, neuropsychologist, counselor or other medical / psychological service providers.

Second Chance to Live and the author is not liable for any damages or negative outcomes that may occur from what I share with in my articles and video presentations. Second Chance to Live and the author is not responsible or liable for any financial damages that may arise from reading / watching / listening to my articles.

We are each responsible to and for our choices, actions and results.

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I look forward to hearing from you.

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Craig

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1
Jan

How to Better Achieve New Years Resolutions — Through Skills and Skill Sets

Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. I am happy to have you around my table. Today is January 1, 2015. Happy New Year to you and your family. In one of my articles, Neuroplasticity, Small Successes and Learning / Relearning Skill Sets I spoke about learning new skills through breaking the skill down into individual parts. By doing so I am able to celebrate each part of the skill. By working on individual parts of the skill, I am able to combine those parts to achieve a skill. As I achieve that skill, I am able to begin working on the parts of another skill.

As I learn the next skill, I am able to combine each skill that I develop into a skill set. As I learn and teach myself new skills, I am able to develop new skill sets. By combining different skill sets, I am able to work on developing an application of the skill sets.

During the past 2 1/2 years I have been concentrating on developing skill sets using single and double stick drills using rattan sticks. These drills have helped to improve my hand-eye coordination, agility, motor and fine motor skills, speed, precision and focus in both my dominant and non dominant hand. Developing these skills and skill sets, during the past 2 1/2 years has added to the skill and skill sets that I have developed over time.  Combining these various skills and skill sets have given me the ability to accomplish things with my body that I never dreamed possible.

Last night, during my work out; I had the opportunity to work with an individual who has trained in Wing Chun for nearly a decade. As we worked together, using sticky hand techniques; I had a spiritual awakening. I realized that he could have “decimated” me with his skill and skill sets in Wing Chun. The experience showed me that I need to begin working on the application of combining the individual skill and skill sets that I have developed through my training in different martial art disciplines. Although I train on my own, I can teach myself how to combine / apply my skills and skill sets.

Epilogue

In my experience, I learn best through endless repetition. In my experience, I gain skills by working on them over a long period of time. In my experience, I need to work on one skill and skill set, at a time. In my experience, I need to do so to be able to develop the muscle memory, hand eye coordination, agility, motor and fine motor skills, speed and precision in the skill and skill set. In my experience, I have found that combining skill sets, with the associated muscle memory, hand eye coordination, agility, motor / fine motor skills, speed and precision; requires considerable time / effort.

The application of these skills sets, in combination; adds a new dimension for me. My opportunity to work with my friend who has trained in Wing Chun helped me to realize several realities. Although I have developed different skills and skills sets in different disciplines, my skills and skill sets in individual disciplines, alone; do not serve me well. Consequently, I realized that I need to turn my focus to combining the various skill and skill sets. By doing so, I can learn how to apply what I have learned through my training in different disciplines — in ways that will work for me.

Over time, I will learn how to apply those skill sets in combination with other skill sets. In the process, I will find ways that work for me.

Today’s Thought

During the past year you also may have been working on different skills and skill sets. I applaud you for your efforts. Use these skills and skill sets, in the coming days, weeks and months; to combine them with the skill and skill sets that you have learned. And remember, the way you use and combine these skills and skill sets do not have to work for anyone else. With application, as I plan on doing in the coming days, weeks and months; you will become more proficient in the applications of the skill and skill sets that you have been working on over time.

More will be revealed to us with time. We will learn how to apply our skills and skill sets. We will learn how to apply them in ways that work for us.

In the event that you have not already begun working on a skill, start today by breaking down, the skill that you would like to accomplish; into parts. With time, you will learn how to put those parts together. You will learn how to use that skill. As you stay committed to learning new skills, you will find yourself combining those skills into skill sets. As you stay committed to learning, you will find yourself able to combine those skill sets with other skill sets. Over time, you will see yourself accomplishing things that you never dreamed possible, because you did not give up on your process.

Over time, you will learn how to apply those skill sets in combination with other skill sets. In the process, you will find ways that work for you.

“The journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step. Before long we will be able to look back, and see how far we have come; because we kept walking.” Craig J. Phillips MRC, BA

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28
Dec

More than a Survivor — 250th — Video Presentation

Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. I am happy to have you around my table. Several days ago I wrote an article, More than a Survivor. I wrote that article to encourage anyone who may be facing adversity to not give up, for any reason. I know, from personal experience; that obstacles are a part of the equation when facing adversity. What I have found is that obstacles are meant to set me up, not set me back; in life. What I need to remember, is that more will be revealed in time. What I need to remember, is that I am not what other people say. I am what I am.

I am more than a survivor.

Epilogue

I wrote More than a Survivor to encourage people. who have been faced with adversity; to not get trapped into believing that they are victims of what has befallen them. I did not mean to challenge the reality of what has transpired in our lives, that we have survived.

I wrote More than a Survivor to encourage people who are faced with trauma, abuse and life changing events to not allow those events to define who they are as individuals.

I wrote More than a Survivor to encourage people to see themselves as more than a survivor of those life changing events. By seeing myself as more than a survivor, I begin to realize that I have choices. These choices help me to grow in awareness and acceptance of the event so that I can get into action.

I wrote More than a Survivor to encourage people faced by life changing evening to get into action to pursue their dreams, their destinies and to impact their world.

This video presentation marks my 250th video presentation that I have created for Second Chance to Live.

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Below are several quotes that inspire me to remember, that I can be more than a survivor. As you read these quotes, may you also be inspired to remember; that you can be more than a survivor.

“I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something; and because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do something that I can do.” Helen Keller

“Insist on yourself, never imitate. Your own gift you can present every moment with the cumulative force of a whole life’s cultivation; but of the adopted talent of another, you have only an extemporaneous half-possession…Do that which is assigned to you, and you cannot hope too much or dare too much.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

“History has demonstrated that the most notable winners usually encountered heartbreaking obstacles before they triumphed. They won because they refused to become discouraged by their defeats.” B.C. Forbes

“Regardless of your lot in life, you can build some thing beautiful on it.” Zig Ziglar

“Don’t judge your day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds you plant.” Robert Louis Stevenson

“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.” Theodore Roosevelt

“Absorb what is useful, reject what is useless and add specifically your own.” Bruce Lee

“If you advance confidently in the direction of your dreams and endeavor to live the life that you have imagined…you will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.” Henry David Thoreau

“I will prepare and some day my chance will come.” Abraham Lincoln

“What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals.” Zig Ziglar

“Decision is the spark that ignites action. Until a decision is made, nothing happens.” Wilfred A. Peterson

“Our circumstances are not meant to keep us down, but they are meant to build us up.” Craig J. Phillips MRC, BA

“Sometimes adversity is what you need to face in order to become successful.” Zig Ziglar

“In my experience I have found that adversity is what has made me successful, because I refused to give up because of adversity.” Craig J. Phillips MRC, BA

“Here’s to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes… the ones who see things differently — they’re not fond of rules… You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them, but the only thing you can’t do is ignore them because they change things… they push the human race forward, and while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius, because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do.” Steve Jobs

“Be the change you want to  see in the world.” Mahatma Ghandi

As you listen to, watch or read my articles and questions come to mind, please send those questions to mind. All questions are good questions. In the event that you would like to leave a comment,  I would love to hear from you.To do so, please use the below contact form. I will respond to your comments and questions.

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Craig

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25
Dec

How I Found Myself and Broke Free of Agendas

Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. I am happy to have you around my table. Several days ago I wrote and published an article, More than a Survivor. In that article I encouraged individuals who are living with adversity to see themselves as more than survivors and to not get trapped in a “box” set forth for us by a diagnosis, treatment plan, prognosis, stereotype or a societal stigmatization that is based on a contempt prior to investigation. In July of 2014 I wrote an article, Life may not be the party we had hoped for, but…. In this article, I encouraged my readers to live life to the fullest, regardless of what we may have found powerless to change.

In today’s article I would like to echo what I shared in these 2 articles and add some thing else to keep in mind. In my experience, I had to let go of the way that I expected my life to turn out, before I could learn to grow and create with in my set of circumstances. In my experience, I had to work through a grieving process so that I could stop blaming other people and myself. In my experience, I had to work through my own denial, anger, depression and bargaining before I could get to a place of acceptance. In my experience, I had to address my own denial, anger and depression, that festered with in me; before I could stop fighting battles with other people and myself. Before I could find my true self and break free of agendas.

In my experience, I had to do the work to get comfortable in my own skin, so that I could stop looking back to at the way that I envisioned the way my  life was supposed to look. In my experience, I discovered that I did myself a HUGE favor by doing the work that enabled me to stop fighting against other people and with myself. In my experience, through doing the work; I discovered that other options existed. Options that I never knew existed or thought could be a fit to me. Options to use my gifts, talent and abilities in ways that once seemed out of my grasp. In the process, I discovered that I could live my life beyond the expectations that other people set for me. In the process, I discovered parts of myself that I had disowned many years ago.

Parts of myself that I had disowned, for many years; in order to live in a belief system that unknowingly sought to manipulate and control me. A belief system, rooted in denial and fueled by unresolved pain and anguish. A belief system that needed for me to remain in denial and fighting against myself.  A belief system that, in effect; sought to hold me hostage to a variety of agendas.

Several years ago I wrote an article to share what I discovered that helped me to find parts of myself that I had disowned for many years. In the process, I became aware and my awareness helped me to break free from a variety of agendas. I would like to share the article with you. Due to the length and content of the article, I have divided the article into Parts. To aid in accessing the article, I have included a link to each of the 10 Parts of the article. Each Part defines and further explains what I share in the previous part (s) of the article. Consequently, I would encourage you to read each Part of the article to gain the benefit of the complete article. The information helped me to find a freedom. A freedom that I never knew existed.

Although you may not be living with a brain injury, the information in the series can benefit you. Replace the word Traumatic Brain Injury with whatever you may be facing and apply the principles to your particular set of circumstances. I believe that by doing so, through reading the article series; that you will experience a freedom. A freedom that you never knew existed.

Traumatic Brain Injury — What Empowers Me to Go and Make it a Good Day — On the Road to Healing — Part 1

Traumatic Brain Injury — What Empowers Me to Go and Make it a Good Day — On the Road to Healing –Awareness — Part 2

Traumatic Brain Injury — What Empowers Me to Go and Make it a Good Day — On the Road to Healing — Acceptance — Part 3

Traumatic Brain Injury — What Empowers Me to Go and Make it a Good Day — On the Road to Healing — Action — Part 4

Traumatic Brain Injury — What Empowers Me to Go and Make it a Good Day — Coming out of Isolation — Part 5

Traumatic Brain Injury — What Empowers Me to Go and Make it a Good Day — Breaking Free — Part 6

Traumatic Brain Injury — What Empowers Me to Make it a Good Day — No Longer in the Shadows — Part 7

Traumatic Brain Injury — What Empowers me to Go and Make it a Good Day — Exchanging a lie for the truth — Part 8

Traumatic Brain Injury — What Empowers Me to Go and Make it a Good Day — On the Road to Healing — Learning to Trust — Part 9

Traumatic Brain Injury — What Empowers Me to Go and Make it a Good Day — On the Road to Healing — Empowerment — Part 10

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Craig

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16
Dec

Living with a Disability, Feeling Excluded and Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer

Living with a disability, invisible or otherwise can leave many of us feeling excluded, isolated and wondering if our lives really matter. In December 2009 I wrote an article and divided the article into parts. The article’s title was Traumatic Brain Injury — Facing Alienation and Isolation — Turning Confusion into Clarity. Each year, during the holiday season and Christmas; I re-post the article. In the event that you are living with a disability, feeling excluded and isolated because of your disability, may this article encourage you to celebrate who you are as an individual. 

Below the article I will include a link to the video presentation of the article, under the title Celebrate What Makes You Different and Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer Video Presentation

And now the article

During this time of the year we may hear and maybe singing various carols. These Christmas carols / songs have become synonymous with this time of the year. One of these carols /songs is Rudolph the Red nose Reindeer. As a youth I heard this carol / song sung with the thought that, “This is a happy song”. As I have grown older the words of this song have taken on a different meaning. As the song begins, we are drawn to the names of Santa’s reindeer:  Dasher, Prancer, Vixen, Comet, Cupid, Donner, Blitzen and Rudolph. As the song continues special attention is drawn to Rudolph.

As I have grown older, the words of this song have taken on a different meaning.

As the song begins, we are drawn to the names of Santa’s reindeer:Dasher, Prancer, Vixen, Comet, Cupid, Donner, Blitzen and Rudolph. As the song continues special attention is drawn to Rudolph. The song tells us that Rudolph had a bright red shiny nose that some say even glowed. We are given the impression that Rudolph’s nose distinguished Rudolph from the other reindeer: Dasher, Dancer, Prancer, Vixen, Comet, Cupid, Donner and Blitzen. With the next several lines of the carol / song we hear that Rudolph is laughed at, called names and not allowed to join in reindeer games.

Although the reason (s) why Rudolph is shunned, laughed at and called names is not made clear ― what is made clear is that Rudolph’s bright red shiny nose made him different from the other reindeer. Although Rudolph is merely a fictional character in a Christmas song, his plight can easily be identified with by individuals who have experienced similar rejection and ridicule ― because they are different from other members of the “herd”. As I listened to the song – with my new understanding – I found that I could identify with Rudolph’s experience with in the “herd”.

Although I attempted to go along to get along — for many years ― to find my place and position in the herd I continued to experience feelings of alienation and isolation for being different.

As we continue to listen to the lyrics of the song we hear, “then one foggy Christmas night Santa came to say…”. In this part of the song we hear that Santa recognized the value of what made Rudolph different and uniquely qualified to fulfill a unique need – to empower the herd and his mission. Upon reflection I can only imagine what Rudolph and the other reindeer thought when Santa asked Rudolph “Won’t you guide my sleigh tonight?” What the herd had laughed at and ridiculed and scorned, Santa saw as essential to accomplishing the mission before him – to guide his sleigh.

Rudolph’s gift – what made him different – empowered him to fulfill what none of the other reindeer could hope to do. What made Rudolph different equipped him to be of maximum service to Santa, to his fellow reindeer and as the song infers, to many boys and girls.

In my experience, because I bought into the notion that I deserved to be ostracized, ridiculed and rejected – because of what made me different – I criticized and berated myself for being different. Consequently, I had a difficult time celebrating the possibilities surrounding what made me different. Subsequently, instead of feeling connected – with a sense of belonging and inclusion – I experienced feelings of alienation and isolation. Instead of using my time and energy to explore how I could use what made me different, I sought to gain the approval and validation of the herd.

I continued to feel alienated and isolated from the “herd” and from myself until I experienced a spiritual awakening. The spiritual awakening revealed to me that I could no longer afford to be distracted by what the herd could not understand or accept.

My spiritual awakening revealed to me that I no longer had to wait for the herd to recognize, accept or approve the value of what made me different. My spiritual awakening revealed to me that I needed to begin to use what made me different despite the “herds” continued ridicule and exclusion. My spiritual awakening revealed to me that a loving God wanted to use what made me different to be a blessing to the “herd”, as well as to individuals ostracized by the herd – just as Santa used what made Rudolph different to bless the herd, the mission and to many individuals outside of the herd.

In your experience, you may have also found that – as Rudolph and I have discovered – that there is something that makes you different. You may be a traumatic brain injury survivor, an individual living with a disability or you may have experienced some other kind of trauma, abuse or adversity. Consequently, you may find yourself feeling ridiculed,ostracized and excluded by the herd. In the process, you may have a difficult time accepting yourself for being who you are as an individual. As I have shared in this article, I can identify with you. But that is not the end of the story.

The end of the story is that a loving God is going to use what makes us different, as Santa used Rudolph. What makes you and I, different is essential. What makes you and I different, is essential to God fulfilling a unique mission through us. What makes you and I different, will be used to draw the herd to fulfill its purpose. What makes you and I different, will be used as beacons of hope to draw our brother and sisters from the shadows of isolation feelings of alienation. What makes you and I different, will make us leaders. What makes you and I different, will help dreams live in people. What makes you and I different will empower people to move beyond the shore (s) of their fear and apprehension. What makes you and I different, will give people courage. What makes you and I different, will bring about the change that we want to see in our world.

First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win.” Mahatma Ghandi

“Be the change you want to see in the world.” Mahatma Ghandi

Do not wait for leaders; do it alone, person to person.” Mother Teresa

“You don’t have to be a person of influence to be influential. In fact, the most influential people in my life are probably not even aware of the things they’ve taught me.” Scott Adams American Cartoonist

Insist on yourself, never imitate. Your own gift you can present every moment with the cumulative force of a whole life’s cultivation; but of the adopted talent of another you have only an extemporaneous half-possession…Do that which is assigned to you, and you can not hope too much or dare too much.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

If you advance confidently in the direction of your dreams and endeavor to live the life that you have imagined…you will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.” Henry David Thoreau

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14
Dec

What Helped me to Form a Healthy Relationship with Hope Video Presentation

Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. I am happy to have you around my table. Several days ago I wrote What Helped me to Form a Healthy Relationship with Hope. In this article I shared what I discovered; that I had a dysfunctional relationship hope for many years. I went on the share what I discovered about hope that helped me to form a healthy relationship with hope. This too has been a process for me, but I have discovered when I use what I share in this articles, I am empowered by hope.

I would invite you discover what I learned through this presentation.

Below is an excerpt from the written article:

“What I discovered through my process and share in this article, What Helped me to Form a Healthy Relationship with Hope; forever changed my relationship with hope. What changed, helped me to form a healthy relationship with hope.

For many years I had a dysfunctional relationship with hope. I expected hope to do for me what I needed to do for myself.

For many years I found myself buying into the notion that if I just hoped enough, what I hoped for would manifest itself. Sort of like that magical thinking manifested in fairy tales. Consequently, when hope did not manifest itself, I became discouraged and despondent. You see I had bought into the notion that hope had let me down, because hope did not play by the rules that I had made for hope. Consequently, I found myself scoffing at the idea of hope. My cynicism surrounding the idea of hope continued until I reached an emotional bottom and experienced a spiritual awakening. My spiritual awakening revealed to me that hope is neither passive nor ambiguous, but active and engaging.

 With my spiritual awakening, hope helped me to realize that I could no longer sit on the “side lines”. With my spiritual awakening, I began to see hope as a coach, who encouraged me to get and stay in the “game”. With my spiritual awakening, hope helped me to realize that I needed to learn.”

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12
Dec

Do I want to be right or Do I want to be happy? Video Presentation

Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. I am happy to have you around my table. Several days ago I wrote Do I want to be right or Do I want to be happy? Today I would like to share the article with you in video format. I create video presentations of my articles to make the information available to individuals who learn through listening and watching. I wrote this article to share a principle that I learned and was able to apply in a situation that I did not like and did not think was fair. In hind’s sight, I am thankful that I took the action that I speak about in this article…

For I have gotten better results.

Below is a brief excerpt from the article, as the article is short.

“Over the course of the past week I have been woken by neighbors. I attempted to resolve the matter in several ways unsuccessfully. I found myself being angry and frustrated at the neighbors and then I  made a decision to do some thing different. In the process of making the decision and executing the plan, I found myself continuing to be frustrated and angry. My thoughts were, “Why do I need to do something different, when these neighbors are not being considerate?”. In my frustration and anger. I remembered some thing that I have heard, “Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?”.

To listen to and watch the presentation, please click on this link: Do I want to be right or Do I want to be happy? Video Presentation 

To read the article from which this presentation is made, please click on this link: Do I want to be right or Do I want to be happy?

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10
Dec

EEG’s, Neuro Psychological Evaluations and Brain Injury Recovery Outcomes Video Presentation

For your information, the blue links with in this article are links to previous articles that I have written. The articles will give further insight into what I discuss in the below article. Click on the blue links to open and read the article. Any questions, please ask.

Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. I am happy to have you around my table. For the past several weeks I have felt led to write articles and have subsequently neglected making video presentations of my articles. Over the next several days I am going to create video presentations of the articles that I have recently written and published on Second Chance to Live.

In today’s article, I am introducing a video presentation of one of  my recent articles.

In my experience and as I will share in this presentation, I have undergone 3 EEG’s and 2 Neuro Psychological Exams over the course of the past 47 years. The EEG’s and Neuro Psychological Exams verified the impact of the traumatic brain injury that I sustained when I was 10 years old. The results showed that I would probably not be able to succeed beyond high school academically. In 1993 I underwent another EEG and a Neuro Psychological Evaluation. In 1998 I was deemed, after a Department of Vocational Rehabilitation evaluation process; to be unemployable.

I am glad that I did not allow the findings and predictions of these tests and evaluations to dissuade me from following my dreams and learning how to use my passion through my gifts, talents and abilities in ways that would work for me. I am glad that I did not give up on the process, a loving God or myself, for I found that more would be revealed in time.

I wrote EEG’s, Neuro Psychological Evaluations and Brain Injury Recovery Outcomes and am making this video presentation of the article to encourage you, who may have also sustained a brain injury and have undergone EEG’s, Neuro Psychological Evaluations and Department of Vocational Rehabilitation evaluations; to not allow the findings of an EEG (s), a Neuro Psychological evaluation (s) or a Department of Vocational Rehabilitation evaluation process to discourage you from pursuing your dreams and learning how to use your passions through your gifts, talents and abilities in ways that will work for you.

Below is a brief excerpt from the article:

“An EEG (s) and a neuropsychological exam (s) can give us insight into how our brain and personality have been affected by the brain injury, but they do not have to define who we are my friend. We can live outside and beyond of the box that an EEG (s), a neuropsychological evaluation (s), a DVR evaluation (s) and their findings may communication to us. We can succeed far beyond all reasonable expectations, through sheer persistence, tenacity and motivation; by not giving up on our process, a loving God or ourselves. Move will be revealed to us in time. We can learn how to use our passions — through our gifts, talents and abilities — in ways that will work for us, for people who want what we have to give.

Consequently my friend:

We can run our own race,  at our own pace. We can celebrate our efforts. We can map our own course, and be ourselves. We can live in hope and we can live our dreams.”

To listen to and watch the video presentation of the article, please click on this link: EEG’s, Neuro Psychological Evaluations and Brain Injury Recovery Outcomes Video Presentation

To read the article from which this video presentation is made, please click on this link: EEG’s, Neuro Psychological Evaluations and Brain Injury Recovery Outcomes

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I look forward to hearing from you.

Craig

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9
Dec

What Helped me to Form a Healthy Relationship with Hope

My hope is that if you have given up on hope, this article will help you to see hope in a new light.

Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. I am happy to have you around my table. Several days ago I wrote the article, Do I want to be right or Do I want to be happy?. In the article I spoke about having choices amidst what I did not like and could not change. In response to this article, I received a lot of positive feedback and a few comments. In response to these comments, I would like to share some thing that has helped me. What I discovered through my process and share in this article, What Helped me to Form a Healthy Relationship with Hope; forever changed my relationship with hope. What changed, helped me to form a healthy relationship with hope.

For many years I had a dysfunctional relationship with hope. I expected hope to do for me what I needed to do for myself.

For many years I found myself buying into the notion that if I just hoped enough, what I hoped for would manifest itself. Sort of like that magical thinking manifested in fairy tales. Consequently, when hope did not manifest itself, I became discouraged and despondent. You see I had bought into the notion that hope had let me down, because hope did not play by the rules that I had made for hope. Consequently, I found myself scoffing at the idea of hope. My cynicism surrounding the idea of hope continued until I reached an emotional bottom and experienced a spiritual awakening. My spiritual awakening revealed to me that hope is neither passive nor ambiguous, but active and engaging.

 With my spiritual awakening, hope helped me to realize that I could no longer sit on the “side lines”. With my spiritual awakening, I began to see hope as a coach, who encouraged me to get and stay in the “game”. With my spiritual awakening, hope helped me to realize that I needed to learn.

What my spiritual awakening, hope helped me to realize that I needed to have an active role in the process of hope by learning from my each circumstance that touched my life. Hope also helped me to realize that as I learned from each circumstance, I would be given opportunities and these opportunities would be part of learning about hope. Hope helped me to understand that as I learned from my circumstances and took advantage of my opportunities that I would become a team player. Hope helped me to realize that as I learned and took advantage of circumstances and opportunities, I would learn how to create hope. I would learn how to use them to create active and practical hope.

Our circumstances are not meant to keep us down, but they are meant to build us up; for they teach us lessons that prepare us to take advantage of opportunities! Circumstances and opportunities teach us how to create hope from what we may not like or understand at the present time.

With my spiritual awakenings, I engaged in a relationship with hope. With my spiritual awakenings, I involved myself in the process of creating active and practical hope. On February 6, 2007 I created Second Chance to Live to share what helped me to have a healthy relationship with hope. Over the course of time, I have written a series of articles and created video presentations of my articles to share what I learned that helps me to create practical hope. I would like to share what I learned with you through these articles and video presentations. To aide in accessing the articles and video presentations, I have created 2 archives, one for my articles and one for my video presentations.

To access the articles that I have written on having and creating hope, please click on this link: Articles on Having Hope

To listen to and watch video presentations on having and  creating hope, please click on this link: Video Presentations on Having Hope.

Once  you click on the above links, you will see a list of articles and / or video presentations. By clicking on the title of the article and /or video presentation, the article will open for you on Second Chance to Live and the video presentation will open for you on You Tube.

As you read the articles and / or watch the video presentations, please let me know if the articles / video presentations benefit you my friend. Thank you.

As you listen to, watch or read my articles and questions come to mind, please send those questions to mind. All questions are good questions. In the event that you would like to leave a comment, I would love to hear from you.To do so, please use the below contact form. I will respond to your comments and questions.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Craig

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5
Dec

Do I want to be right or Do I want to be happy?

Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. I am happy to see that you decided to stop by to visit with me. Over the course of the past week I have been woken by neighbors. I attempted to resolve the matter in several ways unsuccessfully. I found myself being angry and frustrated at the neighbors and then I made a decision to do some thing different. In the process of making the decision and executing the plan, I found myself continuing to be frustrated and angry. My thoughts were, “Why do I need to do something different, when these neighbors are not being considerate?”. In my frustration and anger. I remembered some thing that I have heard, “Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?”.

As I thought about this statement, I found myself empowered by what I could change. I could change my bedroom furniture to move my bed away from my bedroom window. In the process of moving my computer desk, work desk and bed, I found myself empowered by the things that I could change, instead of continuing to fight against what I am powerless to change — other people.

Process

In my anger and frustration, I realized that I had choices. I could continue to be angry and frustrated or I could do some thing different. I could choose to stay stuck, or I could choose to be happy. I could choose to get into action, by accepting the things that I could not change. I could choose to accept the things that I am powerless over — the way that neighbors behave — and I could choose to do something different to get different results. I could choose to use my time and energy in ways that would empower my life, instead of continuing to be angry and frustrated. I could choose to move my bedroom furniture, in order to move my bed further away from my bed room window. Consequently, I  chose to change the things I could, and as a result I got a better nights rest.

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29
Nov

Living with a brain injury — Overwhelmed and Over Reacting — Taking Back my Power

Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. Yesterday I published Living with a brain Injury and Dealing with Stress during Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years. In this article, I explain how several factors can exacerbate stress during the holiday season. The increased stress, can overwhelm any one; but can leave individuals living with brain injuries feeling overwhelmed and finding themselves over reacting in response to the stress. In Part 3 of yesterday’s article, I included links to a 2 Part article series Traumatic Brain Injury and Identified Patient. I included links to the article to share what I discovered that helped me to understand that I was not the cause of the stress. What I learned and shared in the article helped me to learn to love and accept myself. What I learned and shared in this article helped me to take back my power.

The awareness’ that I gained and shared in the article helped me to stop taking responsibility for the stress that I encountered during the holidays. The awareness’ that I gained and shared in the article, helped me to stop taking responsibility for other people’s business, particularly their irritability, restlessness and discontent. The awareness’ that I gained and shared in this article helped me to begin to make peace with myself and in the process taught me how to take back my power as an individual. 

These awareness’ that I gained helped me to begin to recognize why I felt overwhelmed at times and why I over reacted to people, places and things in my life, starting with family members. In the event that you find yourself overwhelmed and over reacting to the people, places and things in your life, starting with family members; the awareness’ that I shared in this 2 part article may help you to begin to love and accept yourself. The awareness’ that I shared in this 2 Part article may help you to understand why you may feel overwhelmed and why you over react to the people, places and things in your life, starting with family members. The awareness’ that I shared in this 2 Part article helped me to make peace with my past, so as to not spoil my present. The awareness’ that I shared in this 2 Part article may also help you to make peace with your past, so as to not spoil your present.

The awareness’ that I gained and shared in this article may help you to stop taking responsibility for other people’s business, particularly their irritability, restlessness and discontentment. The awareness’ that I shared in this article may help you to make peace with your past and teach you how to take back your power as an individual. The awareness’ that I shared in this article may help you to make changes in your life, so that you are not overwhelmed and over reacting; to the people, places and things in your life.

In the event that the awareness’ that I share in this 2 Part article benefit you, please let me know. I would love you hear from you. Thank you.

Below are links to the written article and video presentation of the article. Click on the article links and they will open for you on Second Chance to Live. Click on the video presentation links and they will open for you on You Tube.

 Traumatic Brain Injury and the Identified Patient — Part 1

Traumatic Brain Injury and the Identified Patient — Part 2

Living with Adversity and the Power of Identification Part 1 Video Presentation

Living with Adversity and the Power of Identification Part 2 Video Presentation

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I look forward to hearing from you.

Craig

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25
Nov

Living with a brain Injury and Dealing with Stress during Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years

Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live. Thank you for making the decision to stop by to visit with me. In October 2009 I wrote an article series to share what I discovered about dealing with stress during Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years. What I share in this article may also help you to deal with stress as you interact with family and friends during the holiday season. If the information helps you, please let me know my friend.

To make read / watching and listening to the article more manageable, I have divided the article into 4 parts. I will included links to the additional 3 Parts of the article to read below, as well as links to the 2 Parts of the video presentation series of the article below. I would encourage you to read and / or listen to / watch each of the 4 parts of the article to gain the full benefit of the article series. As questions arise, send those question to me.

 Traumatic Brain Injury — Stress, Anxiety and Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years Part 1

Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live. I am happy to see that you decided to stop by to visit with me. A few days ago I received a request to write an article addressing stress related to the holiday season. In the following article I will address several of the factors that I believe impact the lives of brain injury survivors during the holiday season.

In 2 weeks Thanksgiving will be upon us, then 3 weeks later Christmas and a week later New Years Eve and New Years Day. For many families these 5-6 weeks — with the anticipation and preparation for Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years — can be laden with anxiety and stress.

For many traumatic brain injury survivors the filters with in their brains — that monitor impulsive behavior and mood changes — are damaged at the time of their brain injuries. With increased stress and sensory overload — during Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years — the brain injury survivor filters are taxed. Consequently, the brain injury survivor is more susceptible to impulsive behavior and unexplained mood swings. Consequently, the brain injury survivor may feel shunned and shamed around family and friends because of the invisible nature of their disability. The brain injury survivor may subsequently experience feelings of isolation and alienation.

My suggestion here would be to love and accept yourself and be your own advocate. Rather than feeling shame and shunned — because of your deficits and limitations — be honest and share your struggles with family members and friends.

Below are links to the other 3 Parts of the written article:

Traumatic Brain Injury — Stress, Anxiety and Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years Part 2

Traumatic Brain Injury — Stress, Anxiety and Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years Part 3

Traumatic Brain Injury — Stress, Anxiety and Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years Part 4

Below is a video presentation of the article. I have combined parts 1 and 2 in one presentation and parts 3 and 4 in the 2nd presentation. Click on the links and the video presentation (s) will open on You Tube.

Traumatic Brain Injury — Stress, Anxiety and Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years Part 1 and Part 2 Revisited Again Video Presentation

Traumatic Brain Injury — Stress, Anxiety and Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years Part 3 and Part 4 Revisited Again Video Presentation

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24
Nov

EEG's, Neuro Psychological Evaluations and Brain Injury Recovery Outcomes

For your information, the blue links with in this article are links to previous articles that I have written. The articles will give further insight into what I discuss in the below article. Click on the blue links to open and read the article. Any questions, please ask.

Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live. I am happy to have you around my table. Over the weekend I engaged myself in a discussion that opened a door that I had kept closed. As the door opened, I realized that I needed to further engage myself in the discussion. As with each article that I write and publish on Second Chance to Live, my motivation is to share my experience, strength and hope from the power of identification. I believe that identification empowers each individual to come out of shadows of isolation, by realizing that they are not alone in the struggle to understand and live their lives as an individual who experienced an injury to their brain.

A question was posited concerning the experience of individuals regarding neuropsychological evaluations. In 1968 I underwent 2 EEG’s and a neuropyschological exam. The results were shared with my parent, who decided not disclose the results with  me. Some 29 years later I found out the results, which showed that I would probably not be able to succeed beyond high school academically. In 1993 I underwent another EEG and a neuropsychological evaluation. The results were shared with me that showed that I had succeeded far beyond all reasonable expectations through sheer persistence and motivation. I was later deemed to be unemployable by a DVR evaluation.

For those individuals who are not familiar with my process and journey, I obtained my undergraduate degree in 10 years and my graduate degree in 3 1/2 years. I have a masters degree in rehabilitation counseling.

In preparation for a keynote presentation, I wrote an article to share some back ground information with individuals attending the presentation, being that I would only have 25 – 30 minutes to present. In this article, I share what I experienced since the 1st 2 EEG’s, a neuropsychological evaluation, through my 3rd EEG, 2nd neuropsychological evaluation and up to the date of writing the article in  preparation to  the keynote presentation that I gave at the 2013 Southwest Conference on Disability. I would invite you to read the article that I wrote in preparation by clicking on this link: Article.

The reason why I share the above information with you is encourage you to live your life to the full, regardless of what the results / findings may show from an EEG (s) or a neuropsychological evaluation (s) that you may undergo as a result of your traumatic brain injury.

Lessons Learned from my undergoing 3 EEG’s and 2 Neuropsychological Evaluations

An EEG (s) and a neuropsychological exam (s) can give us insight into how our brain and personality have been affected by the brain injury, but they do not have to define who we are my friend. We can live outside and beyond of the box that an EEG (s), neuropsyhological evaluation (s) and reports may communication to us. We can succeed far beyond all reasonable expectations, through sheer persistence and motivation; by not giving up on our process, a loving God or ourselves. Move will be revealed to us in time. We can learn to use our passions — through our gifts, talents and abilities — in ways that will work for us, for people who want what we have to give. Consequently my friend:

We can run our own race,  at our own pace. We can celebrate our efforts. We can map our own course, and be ourselves. We can live in hope and we can live our dreams.

As you listen to, watch or read my articles and questions come to mind, please send those questions to mind. All questions are good questions. In the event that you would like to leave a comment, I would love to hear from you.To do so, please use the below contact form. I will respond to your comments and questions.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Craig

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21
Nov

Traumatic Brain Injury Recovery Predictions — What May be Limiting Your Recovery Process? Video Presentation

Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. I am happy to see that you decided to stop by to visit with me. Thank you. Several days ago I wrote an article, in which; I shared 3 contributing factors that I believe undermine and limit the recovery process of traumatic brain injury survivors. In today’s article I would like to share that article Traumatic Brain Injury Recovery Predictions — What May be Limiting Your Recovery Process? with you in video format. I create video presentations of my articles to share the information with individuals who learn more effectively through listening and watching.

In my experience, these 3 contributing factors, in effect; kept me focused on what I could not change. These 3 contributing factors, in effect; kept me fighting against myself, instead teaching me how to champion the gains that I was and am making as an individual who is living with the impact of a traumatic brain injury. As your read, watch / listen to this article, may you be encouraged to change your focus from what you can not change to what you can accomplish with in your set of circumstances. As you read, watch / listen to this article, may you be encouraged to stop fighting against yourself and start championing the gains that you make my friend.

As you read, watch / listen to this article, may you grasp hope and move forward in your recovery process as an individual who is living with the impact of a traumatic brain injury. As you read, watch / listen to this article, may you be encouraged to run your own race.

Below is an excerpt from the written article.

“In this article I will share 3 contributing factors that I believe influence recovery predictions for individuals who sustain traumatic brain injuries. In my experience, I believe that no 2 traumatic brain injuries are the same, as no 2 individuals are the same. To give predictions concerning the recovery process of each individual is to place limits on each individual’s recovery process. I recently wrote 2 articles in which I spoke to 2 contributing factors – “struggling to accept myself when other people can’t or won’t” and “its all up in your head”. I believe that these 2 factors and their messages serve to undermine and limit the recovery process of traumatic brain injury survivors.

Let me explain. Both messages communicate to brain injury survivors that there is some thing wrong with us, that it is our fault and that is the reason why people do not accept us. The implications of these messages can lead brain injury survivors to believe that “if” they do not recover in specified ways that there is something inherently wrong with them. The implications of these messages also serve to set brain injury survivors up to fail. What I mean by setting up brain injury survivors to fail is that the brain injury survivor can be led to believe that if they do not meet specific “criteria” that demonstrate recovery gains, then they are not “recovering”. Brain injury survivors may subsequently become frustrated and disheartened in their recovery process because of these messages. For many years, I remained frustrated and disheartened.

For many years I found myself frustrated and disheartened because I bought into the 2 message that set me up to believe there was some thing wrong with me, that it was my fault and that I was the reason why people did not accept me. These messages undermined my capacity to recover, because I didn’t know any better.”

To listen to and watch the video presentation of the article, please click on this link: Traumatic Brain Injury Recovery Predictions — What May be Limiting Your Recovery Process? Video Presentation

To read the article, please click on this link: Traumatic Brain Injury Recovery Predictions — What May be Limiting Your Recovery Process?

As you listen to, watch or read my articles and questions come to mind, please send those questions to mind. All questions are good questions. In the event that you would like to leave a comment, I would love to hear from you.To do so, please use the below contact form. I will respond to your comments and questions.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Craig

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18
Nov

Traumatic Brain Injury Recovery Predictions — What May be Limiting Your Recovery Process?

Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. I am happy to have you around my table. Thank you for deciding to stop by to read this article. In this article I will share 3 contributing factors that I believe influence recovery predictions for individuals who sustain and are living with traumatic brain injuries. In my experience, these 3 contributing factors, in effect; kept me focused on what I could not change. These 3 contributing factors, in effect; kept me fighting against myself, instead teaching me how to champion the gains that I was and am making as an individual who is living with the impact of a traumatic brain injury.

As your read, watch / listen to this article, may you be encouraged to change your focus from what you can not change to what you can accomplish with in your set of circumstances. As you read, watch / listen to this article, may you be encouraged to stop fighting against yourself and start championing the gains that you make my friend. As you read, watch / listen to this article, may you grasp hope and move forward in your recovery process as an individual who is living with the impact of a traumatic brain injury. As you read, watch / listen to this article, may you be encouraged to run your own race.

My Observations of the 3  Contributing Factors

In my experience, I believe that no 2 traumatic brain injuries are the same, as no 2 individuals are the same. To give predictions concerning the recovery process of each individual is to place limits on each individual’s recovery process. I recently wrote 2 articles in which I spoke to 2 contributing factors that I believe, in effect; undermine and limit the recovery process’ of traumatic brain injury survivors. These 2 contributing factors — “struggling to accept myself when other people can’t or won’t” and “its all up in your head”–  imply and assign blame to traumatic brain injury survivors. Blame for some thing that they are powerless over being able to change.

Let me explain. Both messages communicate to brain injury survivors that there is some thing wrong with us, that it is our fault and that is the reason why people do not accept us. The implications of these messages can lead brain injury survivors to believe that “if” they do not recover in specified ways that there is something inherently wrong with them. The implications of these messages also serve to set brain injury survivors up to fail. What I mean by setting up brain injury survivors to fail is that the brain injury survivor can be led to believe that if they do not meet specific “criteria” that demonstrate recovery gains, then they are not “recovering”. Brain injury survivors may subsequently become frustrated and disheartened in their recovery process because of these messages. For many years, I remained frustrated and disheartened.

For many years I found myself frustrated and disheartened because I bought into the 2 message that set me up to believe there was some thing wrong with me, that it was my fault and that I was the reason why people did not accept me. These messages undermined my capacity to recover, because I didn’t know any better.

In my recovery process, I discovered a 3rd contributing factor that can limit and undermine the recovery process of traumatic brain injury survivors. Let me explain. During this past weekend, I spent some time with a friend. During our time together I asked him to show me how to back up a browser profile. He showed me and then wanted me to duplicate what he showed me. As I attempted to recreate what he showed me, he became frustrated with me. I then proceeded to sit down and write down each step of the process of backing up a browser profile, that he explained; through a list of 9 steps. I share the interaction with my friend to illustrate the 3rd contributing factor. The way that people may be trying to teach you as a traumatic brain injury survivor may not be the way in which you learn, which may be leaving you frustrated and disheartened.

In a later conversation, during our visit; my friend said that he does not know how to teach me. His statement reinforced the significance of the 3rd contributing factor.

Solution

What the experience, with my friend over the weekend; reinforced was that the recovery process of traumatic brain injury survivors may be limited, not because of our inability to learn, but because of the way in which people have been trying to teach us. With this consideration, I would encourage you to challenge the prediction of your recovery, as a traumatic brain injury survivor. Maybe you have not been making the recovery gains that you would like as a traumatic brain injury survivor because of the ways that people have expected you to learn. Some thing else that you may like to consider is that maybe your learning style has changed after you sustained your traumatic brain injury. Consequently, the recovery predictions that have been given to you may have nothing to do with you, but with the way you now learn.

With the 3rd consideration you may want to have your learning style tested to determine how you best learn. In September of 2007 I wrote an article to share some information that has benefited me: Traumatic Brain Injury and Activities of Daily Living. Here is a link to the article Traumatic Brain Injury and Activities of Daily Living and a link to the video presentation of the article Traumatic Brain Injury and Activities of Daily Living Video Presentation. I would encourage you to read, watch or listen to the article and then ask your counselor to test your current learning style (s). By understanding and incorporating your true learning style, you may find that recovery process will take on new life. By doing so, you may find yourself surpassing the predictions that were made; concerning your recovery process.

Article and Video Presentation Links

Below are links to the 2 articles that I spoke to at the beginning of this article, along with links to the video presentations of these article: and , as well as the video presentations of these 2 articles: Living with an Invisible Disability — Accepting Ourselves when Other People Can’t  Video Presentation and Living with a Brain Injury — “it’s all up in your head” — Lest I be lulled back into Denial Video Presentation

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Craig

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Nov

Living with an Invisible Disability — Accepting Ourselves when Other People Can’t Video Presentation

Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. I am happy to have you around my table. I recently wrote an article that I would like to share in video format at this time. I share my articles in video format to make the information available to individuals who learn more effectively through listening and watching.

In my experience, I had to get to a place where I could accept my reality, even though there were family members and friends who could not accept me. In this article / video presentation I share several lessons that I learned from my interactions with 4 different mindsets, as an individual living with an invisible disability. Understanding these 4 different mindsets helped me to realize what I was facing as I interacted with family and friends.

Below is a brief except from the article: Living with an Invisible Disability — Accepting Ourselves when Other People Can’t

“As you may know, I sustained my brain injury in 1967. Once the external wounds healed, the impact of my traumatic brain injury was never again factored into the difficulties that I experienced for the next 39 years…. In my experience, when I reached a point in my life where the pain of denying my reality, exceeded the pain associated with my needing to deny my reality, so that I would not feel flawed and defective; I found myself angry, confused and depressed.

The reality was that I had felt flawed and defective for many years. I felt flawed and defective because I was unable to meet the expectations of many people — who could or would not accept the possibility that my life was being impacted by the open skull fracture that I experienced when I was 10 years old. I have heard that anger turned inward is depression. Because I received blame and criticism for not meeting expectations, I internalized my inability to meet those expectations as a reflection of who I was as an individual.

I wrote an article in May 2007 to explain what I discovered as I came out of denial: Whose Shame are you Carrying. Here is a link to that article Whose Shame are You Carrying? The information that I share in this article helped me understand why people wanted and even needed me to maintain the denial…. As I moved through my denial, I became aware of the struggle that I faced as I interacted with people as an individual living with an invisible disability.” 

To watch the video presentation of the article, Living with an Invisible Disability — Accepting Ourselves when Other People Can’t please click on this link: Living with an Invisible Disability — Accepting Ourselves when Other People Can’t  Video Presentation

To read the article Living with an Invisible Disability — Accepting Ourselves when Other People Can’t please click on this link: Living with an Invisible Disability — Accepting Ourselves when Other People Can’t

At the bottom of the article, Living with an Invisible Disability — Accepting Ourselves when Other People Can’t I included links to the video presentation series in which I share the awareness’ that I gained through interacting with the 4 different mindsets of individuals. The awareness’ helped me to grow in self-acceptance and gave me the ability to detach — with understanding — from people who are unable to accept me because of their denial.

May you also be encouraged as you grow in awareness as you listen to and watch this 4 part video presentation series. Awareness that will help you to love and accept yourself as you interact with these 4 different mindsets, that I speak to in this series.

My Struggle Living with an Invisible Disability Part 1 Video Presentation

Understanding the People we Interact with as Traumatic Brain Injury Survivors—Learning to Accept Our Reality Part 2 Video Presentation

Understanding the People we Interact with as Traumatic Brain Injury Survivors—Learning to Accept Our Reality Part 3 Video Presentation

Understanding the People we Interact with as Traumatic Brain Injury Survivors— Win / Win Outcomes Part 4 Video Presentation

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I look forward to hearing from you.

Craig

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Nov

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Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. I am happy to have you around my table. Several years ago I got the idea and was able to create a tool to aid my non-English speaking / reading friends with the ability to translate Second Chance to Live into their home language. By using my tool, Easy Translator into Your Language; all of Second Chance to Live will be converted to your home language. Below are links to the languages that are included in the tool. By clicking on the link of your home language, Second Chance to Live will automatically be translated for you.

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I look forward to being of service.

Have a great day.

 Craig

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