Life is a mystery filled with winding roads and sometimes, steep slopes. Each step can appear to be daunting and foreboding. Questions also arise, often too many, even before one can be answered. At times, my path appeared to be leading me into a maze of choices. Although I looked for specific directions, clarity seemed to evade my understanding. At these times, I felt like I … [Read more...]
The Illusion of Resentment — Am I Lying to Myself?
One of the most disparaging things we can do to ourselves is to hang onto and nurture resentments. Resentments give the illusion of control and power. That some how being resentful, angry and bitter is going to help, save or even protect us. But the illusion of resentment in reality serves to distracts us from realizing that resentment, anger and bitterness only serve to eat … [Read more...]
Empowering Relationships through Detachment
In the process of living, social dynamics are inevitable. When two individuals interact, challenges can ensue. These challenges often arise when expectations become apparent as a friendship or relationship develops. These expectations may be connected to a fear of either losing something they have or not getting something they want out of the relationship. Fear can then … [Read more...]
Coming Out of Isolation to Create Hope in Our Lives
In my previous articles I have spoken to issues that I believe are important to being able to create hope in our lives. Among theses are examining my relationship with hope, opening and moving through the door of hope, the need to confront denial, recognizing factors that seek to keep me from moving through the door, the impact of drama on hope, addressing generational messages … [Read more...]
How to Keep from Falling Back into a Victim Role
In yesterday's article, Owning Our Reality -- No longer a Victim I spoke to 3 rules that need to be broken to be able to heal and create hope. In today's article, I would like to share what I discovered that occurs when I lapse back into denying my reality. The below are "red flags". When I notice that the below is occurring in my life, I know that I need to take an inventory. … [Read more...]