Through my recovery process I discovered that overcoming anxiety could occur by changing the way I looked at my experience. To share what I discovered I have written a series of articles.
Below are highlighted links to articles written on specific topics that helped me to look at my experience in a different way.
I would invite you to read the below article and click on the highlighted links.
Doing so may help you to look at your experience in a different and empowering way.
“Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.” Carl Bard
In retrospect, I am thankful that my Dad chided me for doing things in a “half-assed” way. I am also thankful that I grew up believing that I needed to be perfect, to do more in my attempts to be enough. I am thankful for the work ethic that my Dad instilled in me, the motivation — although flawed in his methods — to succeed and not give up.
I am equally thankful that I have had and have a program of recovery to be able to filter and re-frame the messages that my Dad conveyed to me. With being able to filter and re-frame the messages of “you’ll never amount to anything” with the messages that “I am a work in progress”.
I am thankful that I have been able to recognize and replace the messages. Replace messages conveyed to me by a taskmaster called perfectionism, with the messages taught to me by my new mentor: Excellence.
A mentor that motivates me to not give up because I am enough.
“Yard by yard, life is hard. Inch by inch life, is a cinch.” author unknown
Below are several new ways that my new mentor — EXCELLENCE — has taught me. Ways that have given me the courage and ability to not give up on myself, when giving up seemed to be a justifiable option.
Ways that have given me hope.
Click on the below-highlighted links to read the article to learn what EXCELLENCE has taught me.
A mentor that encourages me to be true to myself. A mentor that reminds me that I do not have to should on myself. A mentor that helps me to remember that I can take the time to celebrate who I am and what I have accomplished with my life. A mentor who reminds me that I am loved and that my life has meaning and purpose. A mentor that coaches me to embrace the reality that, baby steps when put together turn into miles. A mentor that encourages me to look for possibilities when things do not go my way. A mentor that helps me to remember that my limitations do not have to be a reason to give up. A mentor that reminds me that I do not deserve to be bullied by anyone, including myself. A mentor the encourages me to have a healthy relationship with hope by doing the footwork and trusting a loving God with the outcomes.
A mentor that encourages me to follow my dreams. A mentor motivates me to stay committed regardless of what other people may be saying to me.
“If you advance confidently in the direction of your dreams and endeavor to live the life that you have imagined…you will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.” Henry David Thoreau
A mentor that reminds me that my flaws and imperfections can be used for a higher good. A mentor that encourages me to learn at my own rate and learning curve. A mentor that reminds me that I can live outside of the “box” and I can define my own identity. A mentor who encourages me to celebrate who I am and what I bring to the table of life. A mentor that helps me to realize that I can be my own hero through overcoming adversity. A mentor the reminds me that I can have an active role in building self-esteem and self-acceptance. A mentor that has helped me to make sense of “why” and have an active role in my destiny. A mentor that helped me to stop being my own enemy and create a life for myself. A mentor that helped me to realize that I could make peace with my past, so as to not spoil my present. A mentor that reminds me that more would be revealed.
“Insist on yourself, never imitate. Your own gift you can present every moment with the cumulative force of a whole life’s cultivation, but of the adopted talent of another you only have an extemporaneous half-possession…Do that which is assigned to you and you cannot hope too much or dare too much.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
A mentor that helped me to realize that I could take back my power. A mentor that revealed to me that I could identify, rather than compare myself with / to other people. A mentor that helped me to understand that my destiny was being created with puzzle pieces and threads. A mentor that showed me that I could empower my relationships through healing spiritually, emotionally and physically. A mentor that showed me how to accomplish goals through baking cakes. A mentor that helped me to realize that there was no such thing as failure. A mentor that helped me to understand that I could resolve to succeed by growing in awareness, acceptance and by taking action. A mentor that helped me to realize that I could make peace with God. A mentor that taught me how to trust to be empowered by what I would continue to learn on my journey.
“Regardless of your lot in life, you can build some thing beautiful on it.” Zig Ziglar
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