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Several weeks ago I received a question from a friend, “How do we get past a victim mentality(victim hood))? I keep getting pulled back in!”
I have been thinking about that question and want to share some thoughts. First of all, I want to say thank you for asking the question.
I shared with my friend, “I think the biggest way that I get past and stay out of a victim mentality is to remember that I have choices, despite thinking that my circumstances don’t provide me with choices”
Seeing my Circumstances in a Different Light
Something that has helped me tremendously is to remember that my circumstances occur in my life to build me up, not to keep me down. They are not being done to me, but for me.
Not to hold me back, but to set me up.
What I discovered — through my process — has been that my circumstances are teachers. Teachers to provide me with lessons that prepare me to take advantage of opportunities that teach me further lessons.
Lessons and Opportunities that Lead me in Such a Way that Empowers my Ability to Fulfill m Destiny.
When I forget to look for the lessons provided by my circumstances; I focus on my circumstances.
When I focus on the circumstance, instead of looking for the lesson, I have a difficult time getting past a victim mindset.
I like the illustration of a tapestry.
On one side of the tapestry one sees many different colored threads. seemingly jumbled together. On the other side of a tapestry, there is a beautiful story being told.
Circumstances can be likened to threads in a tapestry. How I view these threads will determine whether I see myself as a victim or as an empowered co-creator of my destiny.
By trusting that each circumstance is being used (as a thread to weave) for my good, I am empowered.
The Jigsaw Puzzle
I also like the illustration of the jigsaw puzzle.
The jigsaw puzzle is made up of many pieces. Each puzzle piece, by themselves may make little sense.
Circumstances; can be likened to the pieces of a jigsaw puzzle. Individually, each circumstance may make little sense.
Nevertheless, as I gain the lesson provided by the circumstance, another puzzle piece falls into place.
Recognize Good Things
Our circumstances are meant for our good and not for our harm.
By trusting the process, a loving God and our ability to learn from each circumstance every (thread) will be weaved into place.
By trusting the process, a loving God and our ability to learn the (lesson) each puzzle piece will fall in place.
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