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“Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.” Carl Bard
In retrospect, I am thankful that my Dad chided me for doing things in a “half-assed” way. I am also thankful that I grew up believing that I needed to be perfect, to do more in my attempts to be enough. I am thankful for the work ethic that my Dad instilled in me, the motivation — although flawed in his methods — to succeed and not give up. I am equally thankful that I have had and have a program of recovery to be able to filter and re-frame the messages that my Dad conveyed to me. With being able to filter and re-frame the messages of “you’ll never amount to anything” with the messages that “I am a work in progress”. I am thankful that I have been able to recognize and replace the messages conveyed to me by a taskmaster called perfectionism, with the messages conveyed to me by the mentor called excellence — that motivate me to not give up because I am enough.
Below are several of the positive messages that my new mentor — excellence — has taught me. Messages that have given me the courage and ability to not give up on myself, when doing so seemed to be a justifiable option. Messages that have given me hope.
A mentor that encourages me to be true to myself. A mentor that reminds me that I do not have to should on myself. A mentor that helps me to remember that I can take the time to celebrate who I am and what I have accomplished with my life. A mentor who reminds me that I am loved and that my life has meaning and purpose. A mentor that coaches me to embrace the reality that, baby steps when put together turn into miles. A mentor that encourages me to look for possibilities when things do not go my way. A mentor that helps me to remember that my limitations do not have to be a reason to give up. A mentor that reminds me that I do not deserve to be bullied by anyone, including myself. A mentor the encourages me to have a healthy relationship with hope by doing the footwork and trusting a loving God with the outcomes.
A mentor that encourages me to follow my dreams. A mentor motivates me to stay committed regardless of that other people may be saying to me.
A mentor that reminds me that my flaws and imperfections can be used for a higher good. A mentor that encourages me to learn at my own rate and learning curve. A mentor that reminds me that I can live outside of the “box” and I can define my own identity. A mentor who encourages me to celebrate who I am and what I bring to the table of life. A mentor that helps me to realize that I can be my own hero through overcoming adversity. A mentor the reminds me that I can have an active role in building self-esteem and self-acceptance. A mentor that has helped me to make sense of “why” and have an active role in my destiny. A mentor that helped me to stop being my own enemy and create a life for myself. A mentor that helped me to realize that I could make peace with my past, so as to not spoil my present. A mentor that reminds me that more would be revealed.
A mentor that helped me to realize that I could take back my power. A mentor that revealed to me that I could identify, rather than compare myself with / to other people. A mentor that helped me to understand that my destiny was being created with puzzle pieces and threads. A mentor that showed me that I could empower my relationships through healing spiritually, emotionally and physically. A mentor that showed me how to accomplish goals through baking cakes. A mentor that helped me to realize that there was no such thing as failure. A mentor that helped me to understand that I could resolve to succeed by growing in awareness, acceptance and by taking action. A mentor that helped me to realize that I could make peace with God. A mentor that taught me how to trust to be empowered by what I would continue to learn on my journey.
“Regardless of your lot in life, you can build some thing beautiful on it.” Zig Ziglar
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