For many years I struggled with the question of, What is my Destiny? My efforts to define that process started very early in life, with the question, “So what do you want to do when you grow up?”. So as I grew up I struggled to define what that for myself. Because I used much of my time and energy to contain what I spoke to in several of my past articles, as noted by the below links; here on Create a Spark of Hope, I had little time and energy to figure out what I wanted to do when I grew up, much less what my destiny was supposed to look like as I went about living.
To gain insight into what I discovered that hindered and helped me to find my destiny, I would encourage you to click on each of the below links. What I share in my articles may benefit you.
open, move through the door of hope, confront my denial, recognize factors that distract, realize how the drama was impacting my life, begin to own my reality, grasp that I no longer had to give my power away, keep from falling back into a victim role, breaking free from isolation, benefit of having healthy boundaries, Empowering Relationships through Detachment, The Illusion of Resentment — Am I Lying to Myself?, Finding Freedom from Fear and Anxiety as well as other article found in my Site Map of Articles,
Several years ago the movie, Forrest Gump was applauded by those who watched Forrest’s innocence and determination with apparent bewilderment. At one point in movies he asked, “Mama, what is my destiny?” At another point in the movie, when speaking to a woman, Forest said, “Mama says that life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you are going to get”. Both these lines spoke to me. I had no idea what my destiny was — fate, chance or choice — and I did not know if I was supposed to just grin and bear life as it happened to me.
I felt like I had been given a box full of dark chocolate, bitter to my taste and that my destiny was fading into a dark comedy of errors. I have since discovered that I was blind and could not see.
Through my experience I have come to understand that life is what I make of what has been given to me. My experience has taught me that I needed to grow in awareness and acceptance in order to be able to take positive and empowering action in my life. My awareness and acceptance has given me the ability to realize that regardless of what happens in my life, I get to choose whether I react or respond. If I react, I am not able to gain the benefit of what happens to me, but if I respond to what happens to me I am able to harness what happens to me in life.
“I have discovered that it is not as important as what happens to me, but how I respond to what happens to me. What happens to me is mostly out of my control, but how I respond to what happens to me is an active choice. As I embrace this reality, I am empowered by what happens to me.” Craig J. Phillips MRC, BA
Finding Destiny is a question that many people ask. Destiny is some thing that is experienced with each new choice. Destiny is found in the small things. Several years ago I wrote an article to share what helped me to better measure my destiny Here is a link to that article: The Measure of Destiny?
Please let me know if this article helps you to make sense of What is my Destiny, Anyway?
As you read my articles and questions come to mind, please send those questions to me. All questions are good questions. You have my permission to share the articles that I write and publish on Create a Spark of Hope. My only request is to attribute me as being the author and provide a link back to Create a Spark of Hope. Thank you. Copyright, 2015
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