Hello and welcome Back to Second Chance to Live my friend. I am happy to have you around my table. This morning, during my meditation and reflection I thought about some thing that I would like to share with you. Interesting how memories can be triggered and the feelings associated with those memories. So this is what I want to share with you. Several years ago after attending a weekly support meeting, I found myself being incensed at a woman in the meeting. We had a good rapport, however I was feeling some animosity toward her. I had been experiencing this uneasiness for several weeks. Initially, I could not put my finger on why I felt this animosity, as she and I had a good rapport. However upon further reflection, I had a spiritual awakening. Realizing that my reactions to present events and people are often connected to past events, I sat with my uneasy feelings for several weeks and continued to examine why I found myself reacting.
I said nothing to the individual and continued to be kind to her. By reflecting and sitting with my feelings, for several weeks; it began to dawn on me that my reaction to the woman in the meeting had little to do with her. Instead, my interactions with her gave me the gift to be at peace with myself and other people.
By examining my feelings, meditating, writing and speaking with my mentor I discovered why I felt animosity toward the woman in the meeting. As I reflected upon why I was felt this animosity toward the woman in the meeting, it dawned on me that her geographical accent reminded me of my x fiance’s geographical accent. Although I thought that I had made peace with and had been able to let go of my feelings, surrounding the ending of our relationship; the trigger (the woman’s geographical accent) revealed to me that I had not completely made peace with the ending of the relationship. The trigger (the geographical accent), became my teacher. By then processing my feelings, I was able to identify and then let go of the hurt stemming from the relationship ending. Through doing the work, I was able to make peace and let go of that relationship, make peace with my past, stop feeling animosity toward the woman in the meeting and be at peace with myself.
“Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves.” Confucius
“Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.” Carrie Fisher
“Anger, resentment and jealousy doesn’t change the heart of others– it only changes yours.” Shannon A. Alder
“When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.” Catherine Ponder
“Forgiveness is unlocking the door to set someone free and realizing you were the prisoner.” Max Lucado
Through being aware of how I react to people, places and things in my present, by addressing my triggers; I am able to break free from the emotional energy that keeps me tied to my past.
Through being aware of how I react to people, places and things in the present, by addressing my triggers, I am given the gift to be able to let go of past pain and hurt.
Through being aware of how I react to people, places and things in my present, by addressing my triggers; I am given a gift of new freedom — a freedom to be at peace with myself and other people.
Through being aware of how I react to people, places and things in my present, by addressing my triggers; I am given the gift to respond differently to people, places and things in my present.
Through being aware of how I react to people, places and things in my present, by addressing my triggers; I am given the gift to have my energy, once drained and depleted; restored to me in my present.
Through being aware of how I react to people, places and things in my present, by addressing my triggers; I am given the gift to use my restored emotional energy to build and create my present.
Through being aware of how I react to people, places and things in my present, by addressing my triggers; I am given the gift to make peace with my past, so that my past does not spoil or undermine my present.
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Have a great day.
Craig
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