In yesterday’s article Don’t Give Up — Your Life Matters! I encouraged my readers to continue on their journey, to build upon milestones and successes; and to not give up because your life matters. In today’s article, I would like to share some thing with you that has helped and continues to help me. In my experience, I discovered that I had a fear of failure for various reasons. In my experience and through my recovery process I discovered that there were various factors (balls) that contributed to and kept me tethered to a fear of failure.
What I discovered gave me the ability to progressively let go of the ball (s) that kept me tethered to the fear of failure.
I discovered that perfectionism was at the root of what kept me tethered to a fear of failure. Through my recovery process, I discovered that various factors held me hostage to the belief that I needed to be perfect. I discovered that, as a result; I strove all the more to be perfect for various reasons. I discovered what fueled my need to be perfect, the belief that my best efforts were inadequate. Nevertheless, I strove all the more; only to again find that the proverbial bar of expectation had been either raised or moved. The impact of the bar repeatedly being moved and / or raised left me feeling shamed and discouraged for not being enough.
In response, I became angry and frustrated. I turned that anger and frustration in ward. In response, I experienced ongoing chronic depression.
In response to the criticism, blame and shame, I found myself recoiling like a snake, in an attempt to protect myself, from feeling bad and defective. With ongoing and repeated conditioning, I developed my fear of failure. In reaction, I became reluctant to try new things out of a fear of being criticized, blamed and shamed for not meeting expectations. As I started in my recovery process, I made several discoveries that helped me to understand what kept me tethered to a fear of failure. These discoveries helped me to progressively let go of the ball that kept me tethered to my fear of failure. In the process of letting go of the ball, I was able to begin taking risks.
In the event that you find yourself tethered to a fear of failure, I would like to share these discoveries with you. During the past 7 years, I have written articles and created video presentations, to share what has helped me to overcome my fear of failure. Below are a list of links to several of these articles and video presentations. Please let me know if the information, within my articles and video presentations; help you to overcome your fear of failure. Thank you.
A Few Articles that help me to Overcome my Fear of Failure
A Few Video Presentations that help me to Overcome my Fear of Failure
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