Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. I am happy to have you around my table. Several days ago I wrote and published an article, More than a Survivor. In that article I encouraged individuals who are living with adversity to see themselves as more than survivors and to not get trapped in a “box” set forth for us by a diagnosis, treatment plan, prognosis, stereotype or a societal stigmatization that is based on a contempt prior to investigation. In July of 2014 I wrote an article, Life may not be the party we had hoped for, but…. In this article, I encouraged my readers to live life to the fullest, regardless of what we may have found powerless to change.
In today’s article I would like to echo what I shared in these 2 articles and add some thing else to keep in mind. In my experience, I had to let go of the way that I expected my life to turn out, before I could learn to grow and create with in my set of circumstances. In my experience, I had to work through a grieving process so that I could stop blaming other people and myself. In my experience, I had to work through my own denial, anger, depression and bargaining before I could get to a place of acceptance. In my experience, I had to address my own denial, anger and depression, that festered with in me; before I could stop fighting battles with other people and myself. Before I could find my true self and break free of agendas.
In my experience, I had to do the work to get comfortable in my own skin, so that I could stop looking back to at the way that I envisioned the way my life was supposed to look. In my experience, I discovered that I did myself a HUGE favor by doing the work that enabled me to stop fighting against other people and with myself. In my experience, through doing the work; I discovered that other options existed. Options that I never knew existed or thought could be a fit to me. Options to use my gifts, talent and abilities in ways that once seemed out of my grasp. In the process, I discovered that I could live my life beyond the expectations that other people set for me. In the process, I discovered parts of myself that I had disowned many years ago.
Parts of myself that I had disowned, for many years; in order to live in a belief system that unknowingly sought to manipulate and control me. A belief system, rooted in denial and fueled by unresolved pain and anguish. A belief system that needed for me to remain in denial and fighting against myself. A belief system that, in effect; sought to hold me hostage to a variety of agendas.
Several years ago I wrote an article to share what I discovered that helped me to find parts of myself that I had disowned for many years. In the process, I became aware and my awareness helped me to break free from a variety of agendas. I would like to share the article with you. Due to the length and content of the article, I have divided the article into Parts. To aid in accessing the article, I have included a link to each of the 10 Parts of the article. Each Part defines and further explains what I share in the previous part (s) of the article. Consequently, I would encourage you to read each Part of the article to gain the benefit of the complete article. The information helped me to find a freedom. A freedom that I never knew existed.
Although you may not be living with a brain injury, the information in the series can benefit you. Replace the word Traumatic Brain Injury with whatever you may be facing and apply the principles to your particular set of circumstances. I believe that by doing so, through reading the article series; that you will experience a freedom. A freedom that you never knew existed.
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