Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. I am happy to have you around my table. I recently wrote an article that I would like to share in video format at this time. I share my articles in video format to make the information available to individuals who learn more effectively through listening and watching.
In my experience, I had to get to a place where I could accept my reality, even though there were family members and friends who could not accept me. In this article / video presentation I share several lessons that I learned from my interactions with 4 different mindsets, as an individual living with an invisible disability. Understanding these 4 different mindsets helped me to realize what I was facing as I interacted with family and friends.
Below is a brief except from the article: Living with an Invisible Disability — Accepting Ourselves when Other People Can’t
“As you may know, I sustained my brain injury in 1967. Once the external wounds healed, the impact of my traumatic brain injury was never again factored into the difficulties that I experienced for the next 39 years…. In my experience, when I reached a point in my life where the pain of denying my reality, exceeded the pain associated with my needing to deny my reality, so that I would not feel flawed and defective; I found myself angry, confused and depressed.
The reality was that I had felt flawed and defective for many years. I felt flawed and defective because I was unable to meet the expectations of many people — who could or would not accept the possibility that my life was being impacted by the open skull fracture that I experienced when I was 10 years old. I have heard that anger turned inward is depression. Because I received blame and criticism for not meeting expectations, I internalized my inability to meet those expectations as a reflection of who I was as an individual.
I wrote an article in May 2007 to explain what I discovered as I came out of denial: Whose Shame are you Carrying. Here is a link to that article Whose Shame are You Carrying? The information that I share in this article helped me understand why people wanted and even needed me to maintain the denial…. As I moved through my denial, I became aware of the struggle that I faced as I interacted with people as an individual living with an invisible disability.”
To watch the video presentation of the article, Living with an Invisible Disability — Accepting Ourselves when Other People Can’t please click on this link: Living with an Invisible Disability — Accepting Ourselves when Other People Can’t Video Presentation
To read the article Living with an Invisible Disability — Accepting Ourselves when Other People Can’t please click on this link: Living with an Invisible Disability — Accepting Ourselves when Other People Can’t
At the bottom of the article, Living with an Invisible Disability — Accepting Ourselves when Other People Can’t I included links to the video presentation series in which I share the awareness’ that I gained through interacting with the 4 different mindsets of individuals. The awareness’ helped me to grow in self-acceptance and gave me the ability to detach — with understanding — from people who are unable to accept me because of their denial.
May you also be encouraged as you grow in awareness as you listen to and watch this 4 part video presentation series. Awareness that will help you to love and accept yourself as you interact with these 4 different mindsets, that I speak to in this series.
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