Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. In my experience, I have come to realize that perspective has a lot to do with how I experience my life. If I allow other people’s perspectives of me to be my perspective of myself then I am putting myself in a box. Consequently, I need to be aware of how I may be allowing people’s perspectives of me to influence my perspective of – how I see — myself.
Therefore, I do not have to take on other people’s insecurities.
Last night I was around some individuals who responded to me – I believe – out of their insecurities. Initially, I found myself internalizing their insecurities as there being some thing wrong with me. After reflecting upon this awareness, I regained my perspective. As I realized what had transpired, I began positive self-talk. I reminded myself of the realities of my strengths in the midst of the way I experienced their insecurity “transfer”.
What I tell myself – about myself – is more important than what other people may communicate to me – overtly or covertly. Consequently, I need to be aware of what I am telling myself as I interact with people who seek to — consciously or unconsciously — pass their insecurity onto me. In May 2007 I wrote an article to share what I discovered concerning these transfers. To read the article — to gain further insight — please click here: link
Through being aware of when the “transfer” is occurring, I am able to take steps to take care of myself. I take care of myself by detaching myself from the individual and their “transfer”. By detaching myself from the individual, I am able to examine how the “transfer” is affecting me. By examining how the transfer is affecting me, I am able to detach myself from the “transfer” with out placing a judgment on the individual or the insecurity.
By detaching myself from the individual and the “transfer”, I am able to practice the principle of live and let live. By practicing the principle of live and let live, I am able to decide upon the amount of time I am willing to spend with that individual in the future. By taking care of myself in this way, I am able to re-focus my attention on my mission, vision and goals.
Here are several quotes from Thomas Edison that encourage me to keep at my goals regardless of what anyone may say or do:
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try one more time.”
“The reason a lot of people do not recognize opportunity is because it usually goes around wearing overalls looking like work.”
“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were when they gave up.”
“Just because some thing doesn’t do what you planned it to do doesn’t me that it’s useless.”
“There is far more opportunity than there is ability.”
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