Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. I am happy to see that you decided to stop by to visit with me. Several days ago I began a video series of an article series that I wrote several years ago. I create video presentations of my articles to empower individuals who learn through watching and listening. Throughout this particular video series, I share information that was pivotal in my process and journey. Information that helped me to stop fighting against, be at peace with and begin accepting myself.
Below is an excerpt from Part 4 of the article series:
Over the past 3 days, I have been developing a series on Traumatic Brain Injury and the Process of Grieving. Through my process, I discovered that I was using huge amounts of spiritual and emotional energy in ways that undermined my creative capacity to direct my passion through my gifts, talents, and abilities. In my experience, I found that I needed to grieve the losses created by my traumatic brain injury.
In Part 3 of this series Traumatic Brain Injury and the Process of Grieving, the second stage in the grieving process was introduced: anger. Per my experience, as I slowly became aware of my anger I realized that I had bought into a denial system that sought to keep me in denial through shame. Because I believed that I deserved to be shamed for not being enough, I internalized my anger. Debilitating guilt and debilitating shame convinced and contained me in denial because I believed that I was the problem and thus deserved to be shamed. Shame undermined my ability to trust.
Shame set the stage for me to become a reactor rather than an actor in life. Debilitating guilt and debilitating shame left me feeling helpless. Debilitating guilt and debilitating shame sabotaged my ability to trust the process, a loving God and myself. Debilitating guilt and debilitating shame drained my spiritual and emotional energy as I attempted to overcompensate for my unknown deficits and limitations. Through my process, I also discovered that much of my anger was buried under a mountain called debilitating guilt and debilitating shame. Consequently, I needed to address my debilitating guilt and debilitating shame.
Note: “As I understand, guilt is something one experiences when they do wrong. There is a way to resolve one’s guilt by making an amends. Shame, on the other hand, is a being wound that reinforces to the individual that they do not just make mistakes, but that they are a mistake. Debilitating Guilt and Debilitating Shame reinforces that no amount of “punishment” or “amends” can take away one’s guilt and shame. Debilitating shame and debilitating guilt leave the individual feeling helpless and isolated.
An excellent book to understand and find freedom from the impact of debilitating guilt and debilitating shame is Shame and Guilt – Masters of Disguise by Jane Middleton – Moz. This book has been instrumental in my recovery, healing process and ability to come out of denial. This book helped me to begin to love and accept myself as an individual before I realized the impact of my traumatic brain Injury and invisible disability. This book helped me to find the freedom to discover my creative self.”
To watch Part 4 of this article series, please click on the following link: Traumatic Brain Injury and the Grieving Process – Anger and Resentment – Part 4 Video Presentation
In the event that you would like to read Part 4 from which this presentation is made, please click on this link: Traumatic Brain Injury and the Grieving Process – Anger and Resentment
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