Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. Thank you for stopping by to visit with me. I have been thinking about a conversation that I had with a friend the other night. During our conversation he shared with me that there are people with certain traits that really annoy him. He went on to share that he recognizes that he himself once had those similar traits. As we spoke, I shared something with him that I had learned about myself.
I shared with him that unless I make peace with the traits that I see in other people — that I do not like or did not like in myself – I will not be at peace with myself. Consequently, when I recognize traits that I do not like in other people, I need to examine why I do not like those traits. In my experience, I discovered that I needed to be honest with myself to be at peace.
Several years ago I wrote a 2 Part article to share what I discovered that has helped me and continues to help me to have peace in my life. I would like to share the 2 Part article with you. Below the 2 high lighted links, I will share some of what the Action Steps have revealed to me about myself. To read both parts of the article, simply click on the below 2 high lighted links.
What I discovered was that I shamed myself for having those traits. The shame kept me bound to those traits. I discovered that I subsequently transferred the shame that I experienced onto people who demonstrated those traits. What I discovered was that I needed to do the work so that I could stop shaming myself for having those traits, so that I could stop shaming other people.
In my experience, I discovered that by working the 12 Action Steps I was and am able to stop shaming myself and other people for traits. In my experience, I discovered that by working the 12 Action Steps, I grew in my capacity to be at peace with myself and with other people. By working the 12 Action Steps, I experienced compassion toward myself and other people.
By working the 12 Action Steps I was and am given the ability and courage to change my thinking and my behavior. By working the 12 Action Steps I am given the ability to embrace, accept and learn from both my traits and the traits that I recognize in other people, as teachers. By working the 12 Action Steps I was and am given the ability to both recognize and have serenity in my life.
By working the 12 Action Steps, I have and am accomplishing things with my life that I would have otherwise not dreamed possible.
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