Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. I am happy to see that you decided to stop by to visit with me. Thank you. Yesterday I attended a meeting. During that meeting, as I listened I heard some one share something that got me to thinking. Several years ago, a friend of mine made an amends to me. He told me that he spewed vitriol on me because I pricked his balloon. He went on to explain what I already understood.
In the process of making an amends to me, my friend shared that although I may have done or said some thing that added to his frustrations – at the time – he was sorry for unloading all of his pent up frustrations and unresolved feeling on me at the time. I thanked him and told him that I have also over reacted – let my frustrations and unresolved emotions come out sideways – to people and situations in my past. Through our conversation we made peace.
Yesterday, during the meeting that I attended; I heard some one share that the next time they feel as though they are being taken advantage of – they are in essence going to over react, as my friend over reacted to me. The individual in the meeting may not have any history of being taken advantage of by that individual, nevertheless, they still plan on overreacting to their pent up and unresolved feelings of being taken advantage – through past relationships.
In my experience, I have found that in order to be able to stop over reacting to people and situations, I need to examine why I am over reacting to people and situations. By examining why I over react, I give myself an opportunity to have serenity in my life.
By examining why I over react to people and situations, I give myself the opportunity to stop feeling helpless. By examining and owning why I over react to people and situations, I give myself the opportunity to be empowered in situations and relationships.
I have found a way to examine why I over react and how to stop over reacting. I do not do this perfectly by any means, but this way has helped me in this process. To read what I have found, please click on these 2 links. Thank you.
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