I have come to realize that I have not been dealt a raw deal or an unfair stack of cards. On the contrary, I have come to realize that deals and cards do not determine my destiny. I have come to realize that life is what I make of it — with God’s leading, help and my active participation. Instead of focusing on what isn’t, I now see my life as what is.
I have also come to realize that I am not a victim and that blaming anyone for anything is pointless. Blaming or pointing the finger in anyone’s direction is a waste of time, energy and accomplishes nothing. Consequently, instead of viewing life through the what if’s, should have’s and could of’s I now view life as a series of learning opportunities.
With my change of perspective, I have chosen to no longer view my circumstances and experiences through a black and white, all or none lens.
Because I now choose to view my circumstances and experiences through the lens of a learning curve, I realize that life is filled with choices. I now realize that anger – which is an energy – can be channeled in either positive or negative ways. I also realize that how I choose to respond to being rejected or abandoned – by anyone – is my business.
As an adult, I have come to realize that my reactions are based in choices. Choice that I have made – for a variety of reasons — in my past. With my awareness, I have come to realize that I needed to take a proactive role in my present through addressing the reasons why I reacted — to people, places and things — in my past.
By doing so — through addressing my reactions to people, places and things in my past — I have been able to experience healing in my present.
Please read Part 4 for context. Thank you.
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