In my experience, I had to hurt enough — mentally, emotionally and spiritually — before I could begin to question my denial, the denial of family members and the denial of friends. In my experience, when I started to question my denial, the denial of family members and the denial of friends I started to break free — free from denial’s grasp.
If not for the distinct memories of my pain and anguish and the validation of my conundrum and struggle by my best friend I could have been lulled back into complacency.
With in the past 5 years I have come to accept my reality. In my experience, to get to a place of acceptance, I needed to grieve my reality — before I could learn how to love and accept myself. By grieving my reality — because of the injures to my brain — I have come to accept that I can not do some things, but that I can do other things very well. Consequently, I can change my focus.
Through doing the necessary work, I discovered that I could learn how to redirect my energy –energy that I had been using to stay in denial — to empower my process.
Through learning to channel my energy — to empower my process — I have found that I can create with my being. Instead of allowing my mental, emotional and spiritual energy to be depleted by denial I can choose to channel my energy in such a way to develop and use my gifts, talents and abilities in ways that work best for me — because I no longer need to stay in denial.
“Our circumstances are not meant to keep us down, but they are meant to build us up.” Craig J. Phillips MRC, BA
For insight into how I confronted my denial, please read my articles. Traumatic Brain Injury and the Grieving Process a 7 part series, Traumatic Brain Injury — What Empowers Me to Go and Make it a Good Day a 10 part series, Hope, Encouragement and the Parable of the Cracked Pot a 3 Part series, Traumatic Brain Injury and Learning How to Love and Accept Myself a 7 part series and Brain Injury, Self-Esteem, Self-Respect and Significance.
“Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.” Thomas A. Edison
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