Such behaviors undermine the individual’s ability to experience their destiny.
These limiting behaviors manifest when personal responsibility is discarded as trivial while seeking to hold other people accountable for choice, happiness, and discontentment. When personal responsibility and accountability is dismissed as trivial, trust is repeatedly thrashed upon the rocks of disillusionment and disappointment.
Hope is also squashed beneath disdain and denial. Resentments become the anesthetic that justifies and defends irrational behavior. Drama and crisis become the focus, while a virtual stranglehold is placed upon personal empowerment and creative expression. In the process, the individual slowly drowns beneath the undertow of contempt and bitterness.
Consequently, disregard becomes the standard operating procedure in the attempt to force solutions. Expectations dictate the quality of the relationship. Self-serving and self-absorption became the drivers. Power struggles ensue and become the vehicle to assert one’s will.
Through my recovery process. I have also come to understand that I am a separate and unique individual. Although this statement may seem naïve, when I do not own and respect my need to have and maintain boundaries, I lose me. I slowly acquiesce to being controlled and manipulated by strong-willed individuals.