I discovered that my reactions were driven by my previous interactions with people, places and things.
Through my recovery process, I came to understand my reactions as “triggers”. Triggers bring about reactions to circumstances and events that remind me of circumstances and events that transpired in my past interactions with people, places and things. More specifically I discovered that my triggers were connected to my unfinished business. Unfinished business is business that I have not made peace with from my past. I then discovered that my triggers were tripped at an unconscious level.
In the process I discovered that my unfinished business became apparent when ever I was ‘triggered” to react.
Unfinished business reminds me of events, people, groups, organizations, ect. who have hurt, disappointed or made me angry. Unfinished business connects me to the feelings that I did not know how to process at the time of the incident. In practice I discovered that my unfinished business bonded me to the people, places and things that had hurt, disappointed or made me feel uncomfortable or experience unfamiliar feelings. In my reaction I blamed and criticized “them” for my feeling hurt, angry or disappointed.
In practice, I held people, places and things responsible for the events, situations or circumstances that evoked my uncomfortable feelings. In essence, I blamed “them” for my feeling hurt, angry and disappointed. I also discovered that my triggers kept me feeling like a victim.
Through further observation I discovered a common thread that linked me to my “unfinished business”. The common link was the resentments that I held toward people, places and things from my past. My next spiritual awakening revealed that when I react to my present day events, circumstances, people, places or things I inadvertently tap into the resentments that I have held toward the people, places and things who / that are apart of my unfinished business.
Because of the resentments that I harbored against the people, places and things of my past, I found myself reacting to my present. Through my awareness I discovered that my unfinished business was in effect sabotaging my present.
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